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Let the searching end here. (Aka: what to do when it all just doesn’t quite feel… enough!)

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Have you found what you are looking for? For that one thing that will make life finally feel enough? Maybe it’s time to stop looking.

 

Every now and then during a philosophical mull-in with friends, a notion arises — that is “I am looking for something that is other than what I have.”

 

Examples would be …… “I haven’t figured out what I want to do with my life / my career / my love …..”  – “I am looking for a sense of fulfilment outside of myself, and I don’t know how to reach it.” “So and so aren’t making me happy / my job isn’t fulfilling me / my life just isn’t quite right ….. yet.”

 

Let the searching end here.

 

I’ve been there myself, many times, trust me – I have galavanted across oceans in every direction in chase of adventure, to taste the potent elixir of life, or to escape from situations that I didn’t know how to stand in.

 

I hope, no, I am certain that by now, I have learnt my lesson. I have been the princess of chasing lost dreams that were actually never lost……. though not anymore. This is what I know for sure:

 

When you stop looking it comes to you.

 

Whatever that piece you feel is missing, it’s not, but by the fact that you are searching it out, that you believe you don’t have it, this elusive “thing” disappears and is suddenly invisible to the eye. That illusion of fulfilment, the idea of something lacking in your life is created by not attuning yourself to what IS already in your experience. By not allowing what is to be, and thinking that it is other than what you should have.

 

We always get exactly what we need; what we ask for.

 

Sometimes we are blind to the things that are in front of us purely due to the fact that we have forgotten to appreciate them for what they are. We judge them as good or bad instead of just as an experience, a possible opportunity to grow and learn.

 

When you hold in your consciousness how you want to feel, what you want experience, the type of people you want in your life, when you stay with it …… you find it.

Or rather .. it finds you. I know now that things always work the best when we allow them to arrive rather than pushing and striving to achieve them.

 

Let the searching end here.

 

What you are looking for is not missing.  It’s not lost. It’s right in front of you… and you will see it soon enough. As soon as you let go.

 

How to have a coaching business that is attainable and can be simple, yet fun and creative.

 

Become a successful coach.

 

Last week I received an email from my beautiful, talented and über-helpful intern Bethany Mullins on how to create a successful coaching business. This is how it went:

 

Hi Vienda!

 

As you well know, I’ve always been a HUGE fan of yours. You’ve actually inspired me and shown me that a coaching business is attainable and can be simple yet fun and creative. I feel like your business is a model for me to get inspiration from and remind me that it is always possible for me to get there.

 

I recently felt a wave of clarity in the last 10 days – it was crazy! I just launched my site with my solid message. I’m currently looking at my business through new eyes and am eager to learn what things worked for different people.

 

I was hoping you’d have a few minutes to answer some questions for me about how you do what you do. I don’t mean to copy you or steal – only learn and understand what is possible.
I understand you’re busy and don’t expect much. But would absolutely LOVE to hear from you :)

 

 

Her questions were so good, I decided to share them, and my answers with you here, today:

 

 

How do you go about scheduling your blog? Do you have a months worth backed up and schedule from there?

 

I spent about a year working out what days and times were the best for me to post on and in the ned figured out that Mondays and Thursdays work the best. Studies say that people read blog posts the most on Tuesday mornings, but I don’t believe that’s true for everyone so I follow my own rhythm and intuitive process and this is what works for me. I write posts as and when I am inspired and then schedule them. Again, this is an intuitive process.Sometimes I wrote a tonne, and have weeks of content ahead of me, at other times I write and post in the moment. It varies and all I do is trust the process. I don’t encumber myself with too much ‘should’s’ and expectations.

 

 

Do you have an assistant to help you?

 

I do not have an assistant at this time, though as things speed up, I will be seeking out to work with an admin assistant in the near future, to give me more space and time. Currently I have an intern helping me with design, I used to have one in the past, helping with social media, and I have a bookkeeper whom I pay a weekly salary to take care of my accounts and such, as it does my head in!

 

 

What social media has been good to you in growing your business?

 

My favourite Social Media channels are Instagram and Facebook. They allow me to tell my story, share what inspires me and relate the brand personality and message in a constant and fun way.

 
 

What was a big turning point for you in really bringing in paying clients?

 

One of my biggest turning points to bringing in paying clients is to stop having a plan B to fall back on, and fully leaping, both feet first, into my coaching business. It meant: no bridge jobs, no side jobs, no padded income from other areas and fully stepping into the fear of making this business my only source of income. Doing that was of course, insanely scary, because I literally didn’t know how I was going to make money, but it was the push I needed to make this business financially and soulfully fulfilling on every level.

 
 

Do you have questions about becoming a coach too? Book in for a Soul-Jam Session with me to nut them out, and help you take strides on your own path to success.

 

Finding Love. (Part 3.) How to break a Soul Contract.

 

In my first and second Finding Love videos, I spoke about how, in order to invite the love that I wanted into my life, I had to let go of someone from my past, with whom I had unconsciously made a strong soul contract, that, energetically, worked much like a marriage. This meant that I couldn’t pursue any new love interests, until I energetically divorced this person.

 

In today’s video I share my story of how I broke a soul contract that was holding me back from finding love, suddenly started attracting so many sexy men wherever I went, and then met and fell in love with my current partner, all within two months!

 

 

Here are 6 steps to breaking a soul contract, as I encountered and followed from Spirit Science:

 

1. Sit somewhere quiet and comfortable. Close your eyes and start by taking 10 deep slow deliberate breaths.

2. Think of the person with whom you want to cut ties with.

3. Scan your body. Try to visualize a cord coming from the heart or any other region in the body your mind is pulled to being connected to this person. Selenite wands help with body scanning and clearing.

4. Keep breathing and imagine how it feels to cut this cord between the two of you. If you have a similar experience to me I could feel the density and size of the cords and why they were place there. Imagine cutting the cords.

5. Ask your higher self and subconscious mind to release all contracts and/or subconscious obligations with this person. This includes all energetic invasions in your environment (car, house, etc), ask for the release and complete return of your original energetic balance within your body.

6. Lastly, picture sending this person love and gratitude for hard learned lessons and thank the universe for the return of balance to your body and your physical environment. Visualize closing this energetic portal.

 

I’d love to know about your own experiences with soul mates, soul contracts and ending those commitments with love and letting go! Share them with me in the comments below.

99 Ways To Play With Yourself: How To Be Confident, Charming, & Flirt With Anyone

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Confidence is such buzzword in our Western world that seems to imply that when you are confident you have not a care in the world and believe in yourself so fiercely, that no-one and nothing else (not even a natural disaster) can push you off your path. This premise, is of course, entirely untrue.

 

The truth is that everyone is just as fucking scared as each other, and that some of us are better at being comfortable with that fear, or hiding it, than others.

 

What is greater than confidence is a grounded self-belief that you are always doing and being your very best in every moment. No matter what. And that, that is more than good enough. It’s about truly loving and valuing yourself down to the very last part of you.

 

And if you don’t believe me, here are 99 ways to play with yourself: how to be confident, charming and flirt with anyone.

 

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1. Floss your teeth. Your smile is the best way to attract beautiful friends, admirers and lovers.

2. Obviously brush your teeth too….

3. Spend your time wisely. Ensure that the company you keep is the best connection that you cherish the most.

4. Learn more languages. Communicating with more people will make you a magnet of conversation.

5. Be classy. Do your research, be prepared, and go for the finer things in life.

6. Be spontaneous. Take time in your life for a day where you do something exciting that was completely unplanned.

7. Think before you speak. Learn to say what you feel instead of what you’ve been programmed to say. Cherish the mistakes and learn from them.

8. Learn to apologize.

9. Practice learning and remembering names.

10. Exercise consistently and enjoy the activities you’re doing.

 

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11. Shake hands and hug with genuine intent to connect.

12. Listen more and speak less.

13. Practice self-love. Here are 88 ways.

14. Take time for yourself.

15. Try new things. Even the weirdest of things.

16. Observe others and learn to take away and mold your envies.

17. Use your knowledge to educate, not impress.

18. Be honest. Don’t lie to others nor yourself.

19. Focus on physical traits that you love about yourself and wear them proudly.

20. Focus on physical traits that you’ve struggled to accept, and find ways to give them love as well.

 

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21. Walk into every new room or situation like you’re taking the first step on Mars.

22. Surround yourself with like-minded individuals.

23. See the world. Don’t just travel; learn, love and accept its differences.

24. Immerse yourself somewhere new. Stay somewhere that scares you.

25. Wear clothes that make you feel like the best version of yourself.  (Shy of being completely nude!)

26. Love yourself naked. Fill your home with amazing mirrors and work towards a body and sparkle you like to see every day.

27. Use your senses. Smell, taste, touch, observe all things you believe to be interesting or beautiful.

28. Breathe.

29. Talk to the audience that listens, don’t yell to the audience that doesn’t.

 

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30. Take your time. Trip along the way.

31. Share your bed.

32. Work hard. Make your days feel challenging and rewarding.

33. Learn to dance.

34. Wear good shoes.

35. Keep your friends and family close. Don’t spread yourself too thin.

36. Be an expert. Find something you love and be a part of it. Love it.

37. Get physical. Wrestle, play, and enjoy childish moments.

38. Laugh with your belly. It hurts, but it’s worth it.

39. Keep your mind clear. Be aware of substances and their effect on your mind and your productivity.

 

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40. Be appropriate. Don’t just change the way you think or speak based on your audience. Be one version of yourself that could speak to any audience in any situation.

41. Get in touch with your environment. Look at where you live, find our where it is, what it means and explore it. Find out what grows there, what the air is like, and how fertile the soil is etc.

42. Find nature. Wherever you are, find trees, fruit, ground, and oxygen. Get comfortable being in your own head and being present in the silence.

43. Leave technology at home.

44. Read great books.

45. Learn to give a massage. Give them and never expect anything in return.

46. Find your purpose then try and fulfil it. Repeat. Forever.

47. Enlighten and educate those who look up to you.

48. Spend time with children. Ask them questions, and let them be honest with their answers.

49. Touch people. Don’t be afraid to put a hand on a shoulder, to kiss someone on the cheek, or to buddy up for pictures.

 

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50. Buy something nice for someone you don’t know. Go to your favourite coffee shop, walk in, order something for someone of your  equal and offer it with kindness and without intent.

51. Listen to live music. Connect with the musicians.

52. Allow yourself to be intimate when you’re sober.

53. Protect your core values.

54. Be respectful and understanding, even if you don’t agree .

55. Ask yourself challenging questions. Be honest with your answers.

56. Ask weird questions. Find out unique and interesting things about your peers.

57. Do a date night, with anyone. Find a friend, a lover, your mom, or a bro and go be plutonic and relaxed.

58. Enjoy the sea.

59. Learn from the wise. Spend time with senior citizens and devour their knowledge.

 

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60. Be hungry! Eat with intent. Eat with your hands. Chew your food. Enjoy sharing. Be grateful, and connect with your food.

61. Be angry. Allow yourself to feel anger and to find productive outlets. Empower yourself with these tools.

62. Touch yourself. Learn what feels good and help others by guiding them to what you like. Adapt, progress, and allow it to grow.

63. Keep secrets. Protect the little things that make you reliable and trustworthy. You are strong and you can be a safe-haven for yourself and your friends. Keeping secrets can make you feel like a boulder of strength when entering a room, and others will curiously envy that.

64. Embrace your roots. You don’t have to like them, but you need to learn to love them.

65. Save for the big ones. Use your energy to save your time, money and freedom for the big things.

66. Don’t give money to charity. Be the skills, time, and energy people really need. Volunteer!

67. Don’t follow the trends, do what’s tried and true. You get what you pay for.

68. Chew the ice-cubes from your empty glass. In public settings you may annoy some, but you will interest others.

69. 69, at least once, and like it.

 

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70. Build a nest. Find someone interesting and invite them to join you. Pillows, blankets, and a movie.

71. Accept your family. Learn to laugh with them and learn when to remove yourself. Too much family time can be a bad thing.

72. Create an Alias. Practice being that person, and have fun with it playfully.

73. Stay clean. Decrease alcohol, substance and sugar intake and challenge yourself to live in your own skin no matter how uncomfortable it may feel.

74. Be the journey. Take every second of everyday to try to relive the feelings we take for granted. Touch, smell, taste things in a new light.

75. Work on your posture. Be the biggest person in the room even if you’re the smallest.

76. Make deep eye contact. Try and see both eyes at the same time and acknowledge your speaker.

77. Keep palms and chest out and visible. Be open and keep approachable body language.

78. Don’t hide your nerves, ride them! Be honest and feel them out. They can be a great learning tool and they are a great reality check for yourself.

79. Write it down. Find yourself in a moment of happiness and clarity and write down all your favourite things, and why you’re passionate about them.

 

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80. Listen to the Compliments. If someone compliments you, accept it, be gracious and consider its origin. Validate it and use it to your advantage. Enjoy it.

81. Live your life with colour. Enjoy your differences from others, and take advantages of the quirks you have.

82. Watch some porn. Play with it, enjoy it, understand it, then burn it. Understand the reality of it and the clear differences between it and real life.

83. Don’t resist. If the whole world is pulling you in one direction, don’t fight it, don’t ignore the signs, flow with it.

84. Take classes. Find what’s affordable, and short-term. Do things totally out of the ordinary, and don’t be afraid to do it on your own.

85. Be awesome, even if you suck.

86. Talk to strangers. Smile at people on the bus, chit-chat with the homeless, give friendly hello’s to security guards and custodians.

87. Ask anyone their honest advice. Sometimes people will surprise you and in turn you will feel great.

88. Draw a bath. With Bubbles. And a book. And Champagne. And your favourite music or tv show. Take the 45 minutes you want for yourself.

89. Don’t over-apologize. A sincere “I’m sorry” should be enough. If someone is still offended then it wasn’t meant to be. Be sympathetic, but don’t get bent over. Move on.

 

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90. Give sincere compliments, and do it often. You can never give too many.

91. Reduce, Reuse, Recycle. Minimize the shit in your life, and organize the few things you do have control over.

92. Slow down. When you’re nervous, feeling rushed, or under pressure to perform. Just quit it, slow down. The 3-5 seconds more that you take for yourself to breathe and release the tension in your chest will allow you the freedom to be yourself and do your best.

93. Expect success, and prepare for downfall. Not everything works out, but dammit it can be fun to try.

94. Shoot a big gun. Do it at least once. Do it at an inanimate object. Understand its power, feel it and respect it. Have fun with it.

95. Throw your TV out the window. It’s expensive, it’s kind of heavy, and besides the odd movie you’ve downloaded for free, it’s useless. Enjoy smashing it, and freeing yourself from the clutches of your couch and false dreams fed to you by reality TV and Propagandist news networks. Go outside, be real and feel active and strong.

96. Set up a hammock. Take naps, often.

97. Make good with your ex’s. Call them, send them a handwritten letter, or meet them in public. Don’t apologize, just be real. Make it nice, and find closure…..or not.

98. Learn to cook. Learn to make cocktails. Host a dinner-party. Make it the best ever, even if it’s just you, your cat and the neighbour down the hall.

99. Use the toilet outdoors. Laugh about it, then do it again. Free yourself from your sterile life and just be human.

 

Ghost writer: Julien Peron.

 

Want to learn how to map out + take soulful action on those big dreams (so they actually happen)?

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SOUL PLAN

 

 A 3 month mentoring program for big dreamers and world wanderers, who need help turning those creative ideas into real, tangible processes and results — whilst always staying in alignment with intuition and soul.

 

The idea struck me, while I was doing my own soul and life mapping for the next 3 months, that there are so many amazing folk, with such great ideas and dreams for their lives, who have a really hard time taking those ethereal thoughts and turning them into a beautiful, reality.

 

Which led me to decide to test out a new kind of coaching method, run across 3 months: May, June and July 2015, that is specifically centered on connecting with your intuition and allowing that to guide your goal setting and action taking. Which is how, I personally, create and run my life and business.

 

 

Who it’s for.

 
This coaching program is for BIG dreamers who have a hard time setting those creative dreams into real, tangible experiences and need structure, support and a definitive timeline to get things done. It’s part spirit-based soul-searching, part creative planning and clarity creating, dazzled with healthy doses of clearing out blockages and limited beliefs, practical action-taking and accountability. 
 
 
Normally, working with me costs $470 per month, but because I’m BETA testing this new coaching style, I’m offering it to 10 people at $300 per month.
 
 
 What you’ll get.
 
3 Months of 1 to 1 support
3 x 2 Hour coaching calls.
A Video recording of each call.
4 “Eeeek! I’m stuck” support emails per month.
 
 
 
Session 1.: 120 minutes.
 
  • Intention setting meditation.
  • Connecting with heart and spirit.
  • Drawing out your soul path on paper with coloured pens.
  • Creating a 3 month vision quest.
  • Creating tangible goals.
  • Breaking down the steps necessary fulfil goals.
  • Outlining tasks that need to take place.
  • Creating an action plan for the next 4 weeks.
 
 
 
Session 2.: 120 minutes.
 
  • Intention setting meditation.
  • Reflecting on what’s happened in the past 4 weeks.
  • Removing any blocks or limiting beliefs that are keeping you stuck.
  • Connecting with heart and spirit.
  • Re-assessing direction and soul path.
  • Re-calibrating as necessary.
  • Creating tangible goals.
  • Breaking down the steps necessary fulfil goals.
  • Outlining tasks that need to take place.
  • Creating an action plan for the next 4 weeks.
 
 
 
Session 3.: 120 minutes.
 
  • Intention setting meditation.
  • Reflecting on what’s happened in the past 4 weeks.
  • Removing any blocks or limiting beliefs that are keeping you stuck.
  • Connecting with heart and spirit.
  • Re-assessing direction and soul path.
  • Re-calibrating as necessary.
  • Creating tangible goals.
  • Breaking down the steps necessary fulfil goals.
  • Outlining tasks that need to take place.
  • Creating an action plan for the next 4 weeks.
 
 

I’m really excited to be offering this, and curious to find out for how many of you are seeking this kind of structure, support and content resonates. 

 

If this sounds like it’s talking you and your current journey, be the first to join me for this experimental BETA program. Let’s make May, June and July 2015 the most productive, and forward moving, soulfully aligned months you’ve ever had!

 

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Other stuff you’ll want to know:

 

+ Registration is open now, and closes on Friday 24th of April.

+ Coaching calls are held in the first week of each month.

+ Payments are made by monthly installments due before each coaching session.

+ The sooner you register, the more likely you’ll get one of the 10 spots available.

+ Once you have registered by clicking on the button above, and paying the first instalment, I’ll get in touch with you via a personal email letting you know you’re in, and what the next steps are.

 

 

What folks say:

 

20131210-095101.jpg“Let me start by saying: Thank you, thank you, thank YOU… talking to you helped me clear my mind and opened my soul in so many levels.

You are SO amazing, and honestly it felt so natural to talk with you. I always felt a really good vibe from you, your style and message and I am so happy that I took that chance. You are so worth it babe! There is something so pure and luminous about your presence, I felt so blessed to share that screen in that time and space.

Since that day I already feel more confident, and I have actually started to move towards those goals that we defined together.”

VAL  CASSALDERREY | Finding Grace {Urban Remedies}

 

 

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Before working with Vienda, I felt clueless and no thought as to what direction/steps to take towards my dreams of creating my own location independent, gypset-style soulful business.

After the 3 month coaching program I felt  grounded, at peace and a full knowing of what to do and where I am headed. I’ve even signed up for an additional 3 months to keep me on track!

My favourite part was seeing it all develop and become clear on paper and in my head :). Biggest difference: I know where I am going and can see the results and can FEEL it all happening.

MIRANDA HAFELI | Ixchel Element

 

20131113-145634.jpg“Oh how life can change in 3 short months. In August, a lost little soul trying to find her place in the world emailed you seeking to embrace an abundance of happiness and some direction in life. Fast forward to November and how amazing and inspired by life do I feel right now.

I have a goal. I have come to truly accept my authentic self. I am filled with so much joy, happiness, excitement and optimism for where this little journey is going to take me. I am so excited about shinning my bright light on the world. Who knows where the next 3 months is going to take us, but I am so looking forward to each session with you.

You are the most amazing and magical soul. Your ability to tap into peoples core and bring out all the wonderfulness is such a beautiful gift. I cherish you and will be forever thankful for the self-belief, self-confidence and most importantly the self-love you have given me. xx”

ANNA MORAN | Wellness Centre Manager

 

Read more praise here.

 

Life is dangerous. You are so damn courageous for living it.

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Last week, late one night, I awoke to the sound of a bang. I opened my eyes and turned to my love, who said “Did you hear that? It sounded like a car crash!”

 

Wrestling with wanting to stay in the depths of slumber I responded, murmuring “Maybe it was a door slamming.”

 

But it wasn’t a door slamming.

 

He raced out our bedroom, only to see our housemate, do the same. They scampered towards the door and flung themselves into the car.

 

I listen to them drive off. Suddenly wide awake and acutely aware of my senses. Minutes later: sirens. Peoples voices. There’s electricity in the air.

 

Still, I stay in bed. I can tell it’s not good. I have an intuitive feeling that my love is performing his decade-honed skills of CPR and rescue. I can feel it.

 

A few minutes more and I hear something else. It sounds like some axing down a tree. One giant chop at a time.

 

But it wasn’t someone chopping down a tree.

 

I race out of our bedroom, with the quilt still gripped firmly in my hands, terrified that the tree will fall on our house. With one fleeting thought, is now my time? As the giant tree trunk falls across the road.

 

I get my iPhone, turn on the torch, and walk out to the road to see what’s happened. A car arrives at the fallen trunk around the same time I do. On the other side is another car with its hazards on, and further up the hill, the flashing red and blue lights of police and ambulance.

 

I walk up the hill, and two figure pass me, I recognise them and call out “Baby!” He’s shaking. “I tried to save her!” He says, tears in his eyes…

 

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Life is fleeting. Life is precious. Life is dangerous. You are so damn courageous for living it.

 

Every day I am inspired with the tenacity, the courage, the raw love with which you go out and live your lives.

 

We never know when our end may come. It might be tomorrow.

And if it was tomorrow, would you be glad?

 

Would you be proud of all you have done, tried, lived, achieved, loved and learnt?

Or would you regret not making more mistakes and loving more?

Would you be happy and grateful for all the moments?

Or would you wish for just one more?

 

Let’s make sure we live each day as if we don’t know what might happen tomorrow.

Because we don’t.

 

 

 

2 Things you should put in your lady-parts. (So things you don’t want to come out, don’t.)

You would think that by the time you’re a 33-year-old, worldly, well-travelled, educated and entrepreneurial woman, you’d have the basics of being a lady down. Alas, I come from a Peterpan-esque life, where I’ve been holding onto my girlish ways for far too long.

 

Which means it has taken me this long to discover these 2 things that you should put in your lady-parts. (So things you don’t want to come out, don’t.)

 

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I think this first story starts about 4 years ago, when a darling hippy friend of mine enlivened my imagination with a magical contraption called the Mooncup. A device that would change my life, save the world and make having periods the best thing that happens ever each month.

 

It sounded plausible, I liked her candid description, and skipped off to the nearest iPhone to do my own obligatory research, which was filled with women from every corner of our planet, singing their praises of the Mooncup.

 

If you’re not familiar with Mooncups they are a reusable menstrual cup, that you insert into your vagina in place of a tampon. The basic premise is that it “collects” menstrual blood rather than using a pad or tampon to absorb the fluid. You take it out every 8 hours, empty the contents, rinse or wipe it and then it’s ready to be reinserted. A blurb on the company’s website describes it as “Comfortable, convenient and safe: the Mooncup can be used overnight and when travelling, swimming or exercising,”.

 

I really enjoyed what one Amazon reviewer had to say about them:

 

“So, chalice in hand, fingers washed, and let’s fold that thing like a taco (no, not THAT thing, the other thing!) and cram it up where only one man has gone before and even then not for a damn long time even when he WAS still around. I’m sure I imagined the rusty creaking sounds as I tried to shove something which was larger than anything previous (with the exception of various medical speculums which, I believe, were constructed by the same person who designed the Montlake Drawbridge)into the Gaping Maw.”

“Now, you’re supposed to roll the cup up, smuggle it past the border, let it expand, then turn it clockwise (or counter clockwise, or then one way and another, stopping when you hear the click, or something…) anyway, you’re supposed to be able to turn this thing like a dial in there.”If the cup does not turn easily, you did it wrong” Oh, of course, I’ll just grasp hold of a thing about the size, shape, and slipperyness of the pointy end of a peeled hard-boiled egg, which is now buried in the meaty folds of my innermost femininity, which, I may add, are well-sluiced with the special effects from a Quentin Tarantino film, and spin that sucker like a dredel.”

 

Needless to say, I purchased it, and patiently waited for my next opportunity to come, to give it a try. What happened then, put me off the damn thing for nearly 4 years.

 

I simply couldn’t get it in. And before you ask me if I did it right, I’d like to think that after re-reading the instructions a dozen time and watching a YouTube video on ‘how to’, that I did. Try. To do it right. I even tried lube. But I just ended up bruised and scratched up around my lady-parts.

 

I tried again the following month, but with a bit less justo and enthusiasm. It just wouldn’t do the thing where you fold it, it slides in and then opens up like a flower. Because I couldn’t even get it in the there in the first place. And so I gave up and put it away with my other unused private things in the depths of my underwear drawer. 

 

Then I went travelling and it stayed with me in optimistic hope that one day I too, would have the magic touch required to insert my Mooncup.

 

That magic touch, somehow, tapped me on the shoulder last night. Honestly, I was exhausted from a weekend away, had forgotten to stock up on pads, and just wanted to go to bed already. But the threat of leaking in the night from my lady-parts, was enough to give me the courage to give my Mooncup another go.

 

I read the instructions again, that were still rolled up next to the rubber device inside the little canvas bag, just in case, squatted down in the bathtub, rolled the thing into a small round circle, and started stuffing it in there before it could escape me again, while softly grunting and murmuring “Get in my lady-parts damn Mooncup!”

 

Et voila! It was done.

 

My first leak-free, environmentally friendly, no-nasty-tampons-or-pads night of Mooncup-happy periods. Followed by a whole day, and another whole night of such bliss. 

 

I’ve finally figured it out. Removal and insertion are getting easier with each go. And now whenever my lover reaches down into my shorts to give my bottom a friendly squeeze, I no longer panic that he’s getting ‘too close’. I’m sold. 

 

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This second story has a much shorter time-line. 

 

I’m terrified of getting pregnant. After years of using good old condoms or the ‘pull out method’ and a few recent much-too-scary-scares and incidents, I sat down with my lovely nurse at a local family panning clinic and moaned about the lack of choices we have as women to have a baby by choice.

 

The pill and any hormone treatment is an absolute no for me. I refuse to do that to my body. I also have an intuitive feeling that they have a strong effect on the reproductive system and honestly, no wonder so many women are having troubles getting pregnant nowadays! Their bodies are just so damn confused!

 

Which basically leaves me with what I’ve been doing up until now, or the Copper IUD. And if you’ve ever read any reviews on the Internet (I know, but where else can I find reliable, honest points of views from the general public?) then you would know the Copper IUD’s are generally viewed as wicked witchcraft from the turn of the century.

 

It was with plenty of trepidation, and yet plenty of kind encouragement from my love (which I repaid with livid exaltation that men should take just as much responsibility for this sort of thing) that I decided to try it. I was prepared to put one of those little T-shaped copper wire devices right up my lady-parts into a place that no-one dares go, for the sake of my sanity. I couldn’t handle another month of praying to the goddess for my periods to come, in fear that I was instead to become an unexpected mother.

 

3 Months later, I’m so very glad I did. 

 

Yes, insertion hurt like crazy. But only for about 15 seconds and then I was done. Good to go for up to 5 years or until I make the decision that, yes, I did after all, want to sacrifice my body and life for one of those cute little brats that we all love, who grow up to be another amazing human being.

 

Since then, my periods have been perfectly normal, no more painful, no more heavy and even shorter than before. Sometimes only 3 or 4 days. I honestly wish I had done it years earlier. Imagine, all those hours I had spent worrying in the past, that I wasted!

 

Obviously, I’m not a doctor and everyone’s body is different and everyone responds differently but if you happen to find yourself in a position similar to mine, try it out. You might quite like it. 

 

And that is all I have to say about putting things in your lady-parts.

 

 

WANT TO JOIN OUR TEAM? /// GRAPHIC DESIGN + VIDEO EDITING INTERNSHIP(S)

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WANT TO JOIN OUR TEAM? /// GRAPHIC DESIGN + VIDEO EDITING INTERNSHIP(S)

 

  • Want to learn on the job – gypset style?
  • Practise working from anywhere?
  • Are you an undiscovered creative angel who wants some fabulous references and portfolio work?
  • Dreamed of delivering beautiful material for two successful and vibrant digital entrepreneurs +
  • Want to attend a 3-day retreat where your work will be showcased across the internet and the event? (For Free?)

 

A UNIQUE + SPECIAL INVITATION:

Hayley Carr and I are looking for an awesome graphic design AND/OR video editing intern to work intimately alongside us, to grow and develop the Gypset Adventure brand.

This is a virtual position, which means you can be based anywhere. It is however important to us that we are able to be online around the same time, at times, be it early morning or late evening.

 

We are looking for someone who shares our highest values of creating positive change in the world, while living a life filled with beauty, style, truth, soul and freedom.

 

Beautiful aesthetics will be at the top of your values list.

 

 

YOUR COMMITMENT TO US:

This is 7 month unpaid, intern role starting immediately and continuing on until the end of December 2015. It will begin with 5 hours commitment to the Gypset Adventure per week, which may increase in a couple of months.

 

In exchange for your excellent work, you will receive:

  • Behind the scenes experience of the Gypset life and business,
  • Mentoring for your own skills to develop through working on our projects,
  • Beautiful and detailed references for your future work projects
  • And best of all – FREE participation in the Gypset Biz Adventure – Including a seat at our International Retreat. (flights + accom not included)

 

 

WHAT WE REQUIRE:

  • A strong passion, interest + some experience with graphic design.
  • A strong passion, interest + some experience video editing.
  • A fair understanding Final Cut Pro or similar.
  • Willingness to grow, learn and evolve with the brand.
  • Attention to detail (pedantic with punctuation, grammar and spelling).
  • Flexible working hours.
  • Super organised.
  • Creative thinker.
  • An independent thinker: someone who comes up with their own great ideas to contribute + can find solutions for problems.
  • Enthusiastic + excited to try new things.
  • A basic understanding at minimum of digital technicalities + marketing (internet and website savvy).
  • A good internet connection + Skype, so we can communicate.
  • Design + styling passion.

 

 

FOR 1 OR 2 PEOPLE

This role can be split between two people who are happy to work closely together as a team, one graphic design intern, and one video editing intern. Or one person who feels capable of taking on the tasks for both areas. What we want as a final result, is for all the media and graphics across the board of the brand to have the same flavour.

 

 

YOUR ROLE(S) WILL INCLUDE:

  • Editing videos + including an intro + outro, as well as adding music.
  • Creating marketing material, images, logos + social media images for the Gypset Adventure brand.
  • Proof reading + editing content + copy.
  • Creating the design for worksheets + PDF’s for the program.
  • Laughing at our jokes.

 

Plus more exciting tasks as we learn your passions and strengths!

 

 

Send your Resume and an email telling us why this role is perfect for you to studio@viendamaria.com. The first round of applications are due by Friday 10 April 2015.

 

Interviews and practical will be held throughout the following week with view to start immediately.

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