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#10DaysofFree: A 10 Day Instagram Challenge!

Freedom is one of my highest values. Being such, my day-to-day decisions are often go like this: “Does this make me feel free?” If it does, then we are good to go. If it doesn’t, I seek out alternative options, choices and solutions.

Everybody has their own definition of freedom. For me freedom means:

  • LIVING AUTHENTICALLY: being intuitive, changing my mind, saying what I mean and honouring my feelings.
  • TRUSTING IN LIFE: knowing that every step of the way I am being supported and not being afraid to take risks.
  • HAVING SPACE + TIME: always having all the spaciousness in my life that I need to simply BE.
  • TRAVEL: enjoying a life full of new experiences, beauty, nature and culture.
  • SOULFUL CONNECTIONS: spending time with people who also follow their own brand of freedom.


To give us all an opportunity to explore our own definition of freedom, and because we all tend to grow the most in the face of challenge, I’ve put this really fun Instagram challenge together for us.

Starting on the New Moon on Wednesday the 24th of September, each day I am going to post a little something inspirational to get you thinking and dreaming about freedom.

I’d really love you to join me!

Here’s an outline of what you can expect over the 10 days:




WEDS 24 SEPT: What Is Freedom.

Introduce yourself by sharing what your definition of freedom is.  I challenge you to reflect and dive deep into what your understanding of freedom is. Share it with us by using the tag #10DaysofFree.


THURS 25 SEPT: Where Do You Feel Most Free.

Today your challenge is to find the space you feel the most free. It can anywhere, be it wandering through the forest or laying in the fluffy white sheets of your bed. Share in the comments and post a photo of your own: #10DaysofFree.


FRI 26 SEPT: Find Freedom in the Present Moment.

Let’s get less physical and more internal. Today, I challenge you to take a deep breath. Give yourself the time and space to focus on your breathing, appreciate that breath and find your freedom in each precious surge of air. How do you find freedom here in this moment? Share your experience with a photo that symbolises your freedom: #10DaysofFree.


SAT 27 SEPT: 3 Words For Freedom.

Three words. I challenge you to use three words to describe your freedom – three words most embody your moments of freedom and complete ease within yourself. For me the three words that most align with my sense of freedom are WILD, COURAGE + POTENTIAL. What are your 3 words? #10DaysofFree.


SUN 28 SEPT: Break Free.

Today, give yourself the space to feel free – get up,  and break free from your usual routine. Take a walk, do some yoga and give your mind the time and space to embrace your freedom. Make a conscious choice to be completely in the mount, and let your intuition guide you. What did you experience that was new? How did you break free? #10DaysofFree


MON 29 SEPT: Music for Freedom.

There is something mystical about music that reaches us beyond any words. Music can take us places and ignite in us that sense of freedom we often dream of. Todays challenge is to find a track or a song that makes you feel totally free, and share it with us, so we can play it too, and feel what you feel. I can’t wait to see what music sets you free! #10DaysofFree


TUES 30 SEPT: Let Go. Release.

Often what holds us back from feeling free, are unresolved emotions and experiences that we are still holding on to  way past their use by date. Sometimes these entanglements are things like gifts from ex’s, furniture, books or clothes. Sometimes they are simply old memories or regrets.

Letting go is not always easy, but I know you can. Give yourself the permission to let go, to release. Be brave, embrace that freedom, and share with us what you let go of. #10DaysofFree


WEDS 1 NOV:  Embrace What You Can’t Control.

In life, we often find ourselves struggling with the details – things may not always end up the way we expect. Accepting those changes will help you live a life of greater freedom. You may not always have control, the details may not play out as you imagined them in your head. That’s OK! By embracing what we can’t control, we are led one step closer to a life of deeper freedom. #10DaysofFree


THUR 2 NOV:  Try Something New.

We’re nearing the end of our 10 day challenge. If you’ve been resisting starting something new or avoiding reaching out to someone, today is the day to do it. Fear is natural, and not letting it control you is freedom. Share that new thing you’ve done today, to move past your fears. #10DaysofFree.


FRI 3 NOV: Only In Love Will You Find Your Freedom.

Today marks the final day of our journey together, #10DaysofFree. I hope you’ve taken something wonderful away from this little project, and remember, it doesn’t have to stop here. Giving yourself a moment to take a deep breath or permission to let go of something is a discipline we can all embrace in order to live a life of freedom.

Today, as my the challenge, I want you to uncover something you love about yourself. For once you understand and love yourself – you can truly find your freedom. Share your love with us: #10DaysofFree.


I’m so excited to be able to share this adventure with you, and even more thrilled about the announcement I’m going to be doing at the end of it. Keep your eyes open, and make sure you join us for #10DaysofFree!

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Why Do We Go On + On + On About Self-Love?! {A Self Love Meditation MP3}

If you’ve been around the cyber-webs lately, you might have noticed a lot of chit-chat about loving yourself with tireless lists on how to love yourself. And you might have begun to start to wonder – why do we go on, and on, and on about self-love? I mean, how many baths with scented oils and candles does it take to prove that I do, indeed love myself?

Honestly, none. Baths don’t have anything to do with it. Though they are very, very nice.

Love, as you may have noticed before, is actually a feeling. It’s not the things you say or do. It’s something that you feel about yourself. Or, as is more common, about others.

Imagine if all that love that we direct at another person, was actually directed at yourself. How do you think that would make you feel?

It’s something that I’d really, really like you to feel. I’m not going to recount the endless reasons why, because I know that when you feel it, you will experience just why self-love is so important. So, I created this: A guided self-love meditation MP3 for you to download and listen to whenever you need. Just click on the image below!


Self-Love Meditation



By practicing meditation, you create new brainwaves which transforms every area in your life, to reflect one of peace, love, joy and abundance.

Meditation is also one of the most powerful practices you can do to improve your life. This unique guided self-love meditation has been specifically created for you, to increase your sense of well-being, confidence and self-love at anytime.

20 minutes of pure bliss: my voice guiding you through a relaxation and self-love practice so you can actually feel what it feels like to be so wholly loved. All for only $7. Get yours here.


P.S. Want to get more of a feel for these kinds of things? Here’s my free guided mediation you can download, or this über-awesome guided self-hypnosis that peeps are raving about. And if that’s not enough, my entire Gypset Guide To Releasing Rituals is accompanied by an audio version that I recorded while I was in India for 3 months earlier this year. So much fun and goodness! Enjoy.

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Want To Work With A Coach But Can’t Afford It? {+ How You Can Turn That Around In 5 Easy Steps}

Last week I ran into a friend who told me that she was wanting to work with this specific coach to help her grow her business. I was so excited for her and asked her a million questions about the coach you was interested in, and what she was focusing on gaining from the experience. Until she told me “But I can’t afford it!”

I have absolutely, totally been there myself. Wanting to work with a coach, or a mentor, and just simply not feeling like I could afford it. And it that sentence right there, lies the problem. I kept telling myself that I couldn’t afford it. And so my experience was that I couldn’t afford it. Because that’s exactly what I believed. Ah! The conundrum of it all!

In fact, right at this moment, I’m trying to pull together $10,000 to invest in a course that I want to do, because I want to, and need to invest in myself, in order to keep growing and expanding and being the best coach that I can be. So I am doing the following:

Lots of cleaning up my thinking around money, to get around that thought pattern of “I can’t afford the things I want” which essentially is a lack mentality and finding practical ways to allow this experience to come into my life.




Do you want to work with a coach but can’t afford it? Here’s how to turn that around in 5 easy steps. (By the way, this essentially works for anything. People often tell me that they want to go travelling and they can’t afford it, but the truth is, they can. They just choose not to.)


1. Change Your Money Mindset

When you want to manifest money to pay for things that are of value to you, it’s important to know that it’s already there.

Know that the cash and the opportunities are right in front of your face. You just have to adjust your vision to see them. You do this by shifting your vibe — your frequencies of thought and emotion — to one that’s open to receiving money.

If you come from a place of “I need …” you’re coming from a really low vibe place.

If you shift your thoughts and emotions to those of excitement, delight and curiosity of how this money will come into your life, the way you approach money changes and you open up to all the possibilities available to you. Recognise that money is already all around you, there is no lack of it, it’s just about getting into alignment with the stream coming your way.

Do things that make you feel really, really good. And approach everything you do from that space. Think of money from a place of gratitude and abundance, rather than from lack and not having enough of it. Just because it’s not viscerally in your bank account right now, doesn’t mean the money is not there.


2. Choose To Invest In Yourself

Investing in yourself a priority. Why?

Investing in yourself may be the most profitable investment you ever make. It yields not only future returns, but often a current pay-off as well.

The surest way to achieve a better quality life, to be successful, productive, and satisfied is to place a priority on investing in both personal and professional growth. The effort you put into consistently investing in yourself plays a large role in determining the quality of your life now and in the future.


3. Make A Commitment

Making a commitment to yourself, is kind of like making a promise. It builds self-love, -trust and self-worth. You send yourself a powerful message that  you are important.  And that simple act creates a ripple effect across your entire life, that is beyond your imagination.

I have seen time and time again, how my clients’ lives have changed simply because they took a chance on themselves and made a commitment to create a better life for themselves. Investing in coaching gives them the structure and the guidelines to keep that promise to themselves, and allows them to reach out beyond their current spectrum into a world that’s made of dream-stuff.

Put in the work — make the commitment — and it will pay!


4. Believe You Are Worth It

What sets you apart from the people whom you see that are living their dreams is simply one thing. They believe that they are worth having the life that they want. And because of that belief they are willing to invest and work towards it.

When you love yourself at a cellular level, and recognise that you are an insurmountable well of unique potential, that you are already who you want to be, deep down, then you recognise that you are worth giving yourself whatever it is that you need to grow and embody your true being.

Believing in your own worth means that you that you have a positive mental attitude towards your needs and know how to find ways to  support yourself. Because you’re worth it!


5. Take Practical Steps Towards It

Putting aside money for your own personal growth and investing in yourself is the first step. I have 4 savings accounts, and one of them is named “Self-Love” which I use to pay for things like mentorships, coaching, courses, and self-care.

We often spend our money quite unconsciously. So one thing to be really aware of is that we put our cash to good use. Whenever you make a purchase, ask yourself if this item is really something that you need, something that will make you happy in the long-term? Are you just spending to fill an emotional need? Or are you using your money in a way that so that it grows and evolves you?

And when there’s something big that I need money for quickly, I use the money manifesting method that I shared with you when I manifested over $1,000 in about a day.


It’s easy to say “I can’t afford it!” It’s definitely more of a challenge to stretch yourself, whether financially, emotionally, or mentally, to actually bring about the changes that you say you want in your life. In the end, we each have a choice.


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  1. Awesome post! I’m currently going back to the drawing board to work through my on/off again ‘can’t afford _____’ mindset. Thank you for taking the time to share these steps. I appreciate you. :)

  2. Great tips! I’m a huge advocate for women investing in themselves! I’m putting something together for my biz at the moment and although it’s scary seeing all of the money going out of my bank account (which I’m reminding myself to reframe as investments), I know that it will come back to me in bigger and even more beautiful ways :) Thanks for sharing this message! X

    • How exciting for you Che, I look forward to hearing more. Investing in yourself is pretty much the best thing you can invest in, in the entire universe. Because nothing gives you returns like you do! xo

  3. Thanks for this gorgeous gilr! I love the idea of manifesting! I’m currently manifesting a little extra spending money for my holiday in a few weeks – a holiday that I manifested anyway! I won it, so why not go the whole hog and keep the ball rolling…

    • You are so awesome! Congratulations on manifesting that amazing holiday. I’m sure you’ll manifest all the money you want for it too, now that you’re on a roll! xo

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How To Get Unstuck In You Finances, Work + Relationships Right Now

Last weekend I posted a little insight into some of the tools that I use to help my clients move forward, which you can utilise yourself right now, and well, you just gobbled that information right up!

So I thought I’d share those resources with you again, here on the blog, in case you didn’t catch that Facebook post.

After all, in order to create outer change in our lives, we have to change on the inside first! So here are some ways on how to get unstuck in your finances, work and relationships right now:

Overcoming Under Earning by Barbara Stanny – this book is super-easy to read as well as practical, on the mind-set differences between wealthy women and women who are under earning. this particular booked helped me and countless number of my clients get really clear on their finances and make the changes necessary in order to know their worth and earn it.

The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks – this book is all about how we self-sabotage ourselves from having the kind of love, success and abundance that we dream of, due to having subconscious limiting beliefs. It’s very fun and super easy to read – and will give you tonnes of aha! moments.

Self Hypnosis by (me) Vienda Maria – Self-hypnosis is a naturally occurring state of mind which can be defined as a heightened state of focused concentration. With it, you can change your thinking, kick bad habits, and take control of the person you are – as well as relaxing and de-stressing from everyday life. It’s similar to meditation, but more focused on areas you want to transform. This Self Hypnosis Guide, will help you get into that transformative, trance-like state, where you can change your thoughts and thereby your life experience all by yourself! Just follow my voice and let the self-hypnosis guide you into becoming the person you are detained to embody.

My final recommendation is either You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay, or anything by Abraham-Hicks. Basically, you have to brainwash yourself into knowing that you are worth more than the experience you are having right now. When I’m going through a challenging phase of my life, I play the audio books to myself as much as possible to raise my energy and vibration, because that is where we manifest from.

To make it even easier for you, I’ve created an entire FREE playlist of inspirational audios for you to list to on Soundcloud. Here is 4 hours and 20 minutes worth of transforming your entire mindset for ever!


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Full Moon in Pisces 16º >>> September 8 2014

Celebrate a change in your life. Even if it is a challenging one and you are struggling with accepting it, celebrate it anyway. This is a time to embrace change and use its power to expand yourself into new territory. It is also a good day to anchor the beginning of a new project, a routine or a relationship, OR the beginning of a new phase in a project, routine or relationship. Celebrate it.

This full moon is also good for supporting any commitment you make for change this month. If you have contemplated something in your life that you are intending to change, your committed intention can be supported by this full moon. Take a baby step towards your goal during this time.




A feminine Pisces Full Moon draws us into oneness and compassion, sensitizes us to the subtle realms of feeling and being while dissolving any separation from our own true nature. Surrender is the portal to the garden.

Chiron is conjunct the Moon, so our journey carries the distinction of healing the wounds carried in our emotional-spiritual bodies and also of becoming that force that bridges the physical and the cosmic levels. Chiron sits between Saturn and the higher frequency planets of Uranus, Neptune and Pluto. He is the link between the collective mind and the galactic energies in the great beyond (discovered in 1977 inviting us to become more receptive to these energies). Chiron was a centaur, and as a healer and teacher, he taught shamanic knowledge of how to heal at the energetic and cellular levels and how to cure with the plant kingdom, the stone people and with animal allies. Chiron emphasizes the holistic integration of body-mind-spirit and sends the seeker within to become his own authority and source of truth.

This Grand Trine with Moon/Chiron, Juno and Vesta, empowers the reemergence of our feminine consciousness. Let Chiron help release anything you have created in fear and still carry, and recreate your life with the help of the feminine expression of the asteroids so generously gifted with ease and grace here at Full Moon.

It’s a full service chart. If ease and grace is not the most frequented vibration in your life right now maybe you’re feeling some of the dynamic high tension of the multiple squares created by the long collective squeeze created by Uranus/Pluto and now joined by Juno and Mercury. There might be some major house cleaning in your relationship department. The truth needs to be spoken. Remember that ‘the truth will set you free’ thing? Well, it definitely
applies at this time.

Change is in the air on so many fronts. But one thing is for sure, Love is all there is.

Illustration by Will Ev 

Lena Stevens

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The 4 Step Gypset Guide To Self Hypnosis

Self Hypnosis MP3


One of the biggest tumbling blocks that my darling coaching clients sometimes come up against is how to change those habits, negative thought patterns and behaviors that they are easy to let go of. While the biggest learning that I teach them is simple awareness, everyone is different, which means that everyone has to find a way that works best for them.

This is where the gypset guide to self hypnosis comes in. To make it easier, I’ve been a busy little gypsetter, and have created a recorded version of the self hypnosis, just for you to buy and download!

Self-hypnosis is a naturally occurring state of mind which can be defined as a heightened state of focused concentration. With it, you can change your thinking, kick bad habits, and take control of the person you are – as well as relaxing and de-stressing from everyday life. It’s similar to meditation, but more focused on areas you want to transform.



Are you doing it just to relax? For self-improvement? To train your mind to be still and calm? If you’re doing it to achieve a greater end (weight loss, quitting smoking, earning more money etc.), prepare a list of affirmations.

Self-hypnosis can be used just for relaxation, sure, but it can be for a number of life-enhancing things, too. Many use it to achieve their goals, change their thinking, or just as general positive reinforcement or motivation.

Choose 3 statements that fulfill your intention.

Here are some examples of affirmations you could try:

If you want to quit a bad habit, something to the point is the most effective. Think along the lines of, “I do not want to smoke. Cigarettes have no appeal to me.”

If you want to improve your sense of self worth and esteem, aim for something like, “I am capable of whatever I set my mind to. I am in control and I am valuable.”

If you want to reach a specific goal, like weight loss, say it in the present tense: “I am eating healthy. I am losing weight. My clothes feel better and I feel better.”

If you want to manifest more money you could say “Money comes to me frequently and easily from known and unknown sources. I always have more than enough.”

You should avoid using statements with a negative connotation, such as “I don’t want to be tired and irritable.” Instead, say, “I am becoming calm and relaxed.” Examples of positive statements include: “I am strong and slender,” “I am successful and positive,” and, if you have pain, “My back is beginning to feel wonderful.”

These are statements you will be reciting to yourself when you’re under hypnosis. Again, it’s up to you, but many find them life-affirming and effective.



First, make sure you get into your most comfortable clothing. This is where leggings and soft, loose cotton tops are perfect. There’s nothing more distracting than clothes pinching you in some way, from taking yourself into hypnosis.

Also, get a blanket ready in case you get cold easily. Being warm really helps,you get into that trance-like state necessary to change your thought processes.

Go to a quiet room and sit in any comfortable chair, couch, or bed. Although some people (like me) prefer to lie down, you are more susceptible to sleep than when sitting up. Whether you sit or lie, ensure that you do not cross your legs or any part of your body. Remain open and relaxed.

Make sure you are not going to be disturbed for at least half an hour. No self-hypnosis is effective if it gets interrupted by a phone call, a pet, or a kid. Turn off your phone (and the alerts), lock the door, and sequester yourself. This is you time.



To make this part really, really easy for you I’ve recorded the entire self hypnosis guide for you on top of a beautiful backing track, so all you need to do is relax and listen. You can download your own copy HERE right now, for only $7.

Self Hypnosis MP3


“I just finished your self-hyposis MP3…I have been looking for a meditation to help me with recent health issues. It was such a lovely experience.  I feel like I will integrate this into my morning practice frequently.  And it was awesome to hear your voice!”

Elle North | Intuitive Reiki Master



Mean it. No self-hypnosis or mantra will manifest itself in real life if you don’t actually mean it. In order for this to be effective, you have to believe in yourself and your actions.

If the first time doesn’t seem effective, don’t write it off automatically. Some things take time to get used to and to get good at. Come back to it in a few days and revisit the experiences. You may be surprised.

Open your mind. You have to believe there is a possibility of this working in order for it to work. Any skepticism on your part will impede your progress.

Visualize situations. Whatever it is you’re working toward — be it confidence, weight loss, positive thinking, whatever — visualize yourself in the situation acting as you’d like to react or being as you’d like to be. If you want to be thinner, imagine yourself sliding into your skinny jeans with ease, modeling in the mirror, smiling at your beautiful body. The endorphin rush alone will be worth it!

Many use hypnosis to get over certain issues like shyness. You don’t have to attack the shyness head on; something related will do. Simply imagining yourself going about the world with your head high, smiling, and making eye contact can be the first step toward a more extroverted you.

Use it to better yourself. Find a goal of yours you’d like to achieve and concentrate on it during your relaxed state. Think of the person you’d like to be and be that person. Hypnosis is great for a deep, deep meditation, but it’s better in that it can be used for a bigger, better purpose. Many people find that they emerge more positive and with a sense of purpose afterward. Take advantage of that possibility!

There is no wrong way to go about this. Whether it’s kicking a bad habit, having focus in your work life, or just changing your thinking, hypnosis can help. Getting rid of the stressors in your life is an integral part of being the person you want to become and this will help. And the more you do it, the better and more natural it’ll feel.

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September 2014 >>> Astro Forecast

The theme for September is CHANGE.

The change also comes with a RESET and a chance to do things in your life very differently. Whether you are the one making a choice or it is a choice or situation from the outside that affects you, CHANGE is inevitable. This month we will explore how to deal with CHANGE in a positive and proactive way so you can use it to RESET your life in the best way possible.

What is CHANGE?

In a nutshell it is the passing from one place, state, form, or phase to another causing things to transform and become different.

We talked about endings and beginnings in last months forecast especially around the last New Moon. Under the theme of CHANGE, endings and beginnings will continue to be important markers this month as we navigate energy that is sometimes very final in its outcome.

There are two kinds of change. Change that you initiate based on a personal choice, and change that is imposed on you from the outside and is usually based on another person’s choice. Change based on your choice is usually something that you want and are looking forward to implementing in your life. Change imposed on you is often unwanted, resisted and judged.

What if you could take the attitude that all change is something you choose?

You would remove the resistance and face the change proactively. Being in resistance to change has no power. Choosing all change no matter where it comes from has a great deal of power.




Change can be sudden, and most likely we will have some experience of that this month, or it can be gradual like the changing of the seasons. The sudden radical changes are the ones that can bring about the most intense reactions. The ones to watch for are the ones that are based in FEAR. Especially this month watch for fear reactions that express themselves through the 7 obstacles of Stubbornness, Impatience, Martyrdom, Self-Deprecation, Arrogance, Greed and Self Destruction. Everyone has a least one of these that is the automatic reaction when fear comes up.

The idea is to be in enough self-observation that you can identify when this is happening and become neutral as quickly as possible. If you are triggered you are not neutral. And you are not neutral if you took something personally. Not taking things personally will be a big test this month but will help with staying neutral and surrendering to the choices of change.

Here are some helpful hints regarding CHANGE.

If you are the one initiating the change:

  • Embrace it from your heart.
  • Ask for support.
  • Do it for you and not someone else.
  • Complete what you are leaving behind and tie up all loose ends.
  • Be patient and honor right timing.
  • Honor the beginning of something new through celebration.
  • Pay attention to the RESET that is part of the change.
  • Pay attention to the details of what is needed to support the change.
  • Make sure to stay balanced throughout the process, as it is an important aspect of successful change.


If you are directly affected by change coming from the outside:

  • Observe any resistance or fear reaction and don’t take it personally.
  • Neutralize the resistance or negative reaction as quickly as possible.
  • Be in acceptance.
  • Choose the change as if it were your idea.
  • Honor any completion caused by the change.
  • Honor the beginning of something new caused by the change.
  • Pay attention to your own RESET as a result of the change.
  • Stay balanced and empowered throughout the process.
  • Ask for support.
  • Stay out of Martyrdom and any of the other obstacles.

CHANGE always brings something new into life. Anything new always requires a RESET. This should be an exciting time. When one door closes, another one opens and it really does not matter who is closing or opening the doors. The result is the same. Always consider CHANGE to be a gift from spirit and one that keeps life from becoming stagnant.

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  1. Hi Vienda and Lena. I thought initially when reading this that it had to do with the changes I am going thru myself at the moment and I really felt like I was breaking thru last week. However, as of yesterday I also have it coming from an outside influence as well and its scary to say the least. I feel like I have lost my footing. I really needed to read this and will try to implement all the suggestions. Its rather sudden, so at the moment Im in a bit of a panic, but I did a chakra cleansing meditation this morning and am trying to see this from a positive perspective. Thanks again for another timely message.

    • Thank you for sharing Sally-Ann. I’m sending you lots of love and strength to get through challenging times. Remember that what you resist persists, so just let go, and allo the changes to unfold, knowing that everything happens for a reason, and for you highest good. LOVE xo

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Spirituality Is A Four Letter Word

I’m just driving back from a weekend trip in Byron, which was wonderful and beautiful. Obviously, I’m not the one in the driver seat, but am frantically typing on my iPad, willing this idea that I’ve got, to form in a way that’s communicable.

This little trip has brought me some beautiful clarity on my own journey, which I can thank the souls and companions that I’ve had by my side over the last few days for.

I’ve always erred on the side of spiritual growth and guidance. This is one of those things that didn’t feel like a conscious choice, but rather something that was encrypted in my soul. In my early 20’s it grabbed me, shook me up, threw me around a few times and shattered any proportional illusions that I might have had about life.

I came out the other side of that experience, a completely different human being. One that now, I am really proud of, and I love. Not because I’ve got it all figured out, because really, it’s far from that. But because I understand the messiness, the holiness, the all-ness of life, and accept it in its entirety.

My biggest lesson was to experience life from the perspective of an observer. To interact in life, as well as simply observe those interactions without expectations, without attachment. Just to watch. This position of the observer, brings an infinite, constant state of joy with it. An exhilaration which makes every sensation and emotion ecstatic.

Happiness and sadness might be two end of the spectrum – as are love and fear– but they are only experiences for the soul part of us, neither judged as good nor bad. Simply the experience of life in the form of a human body, and all that comes with it. Which is what we are here for. So our souls can have a body to play in.

This state of experiencing life not just as an active participant but also as an observer, means the highs are higher, and the lows are lower. Our senses are imperceptibly heightened and everything feel so strong, so powerful, so all-encompassing. And yet the inner part of us, is always still. Always overjoyed simply by being able to have these experiences. What fun it is, to have such a wide range of emotions, of sensual perceptions, of interactions and relations.

There have been many times in my life, where I have been in my knees, not wanting to go on. Wishing for all the pain and suffering to stop. And even those darkest moments sparkle in a shade-of-night beauty. Even those times of deep human hurt, are something that our soul delights in. Because with it, we grow, and we feel in a way that is otherwise, impossible.




Being in Byron, I brought into my experience a beautiful Ashram hidden in the hinterland, which attracts many people who consider themselves spiritual seekers, all on their own journey to understand and experience this life. I think this is a beautiful thing – I believe inner growth and soul development is a powerful facilitator to compassion, love, and true inner peace and freedom.

I also believe there’s no separation between the “seekers” and the layperson. I think we are all on the same path – however on different parts of it – with journeys that reflect how and what we each need in this time.

So I feel compelled to counter any suggestions that people who actively seek out spiritual growth are in any way superior than anyone else. The most connected, spiritual people have most often been people who didn’t consider themselves spiritual in their minds, but rather just had an intense appreciation for nature, life and each momentary experience.

Spirituality is a four letter word that has been thrown around as a shield, as an excuse for bad behaviour, a “holier than thou” attitude, and a myriad of other things. Under the guise of spirituality, there has been control, manipulation, people not taking responsibility for themselves and their actions, disempowerment, power games, and as we have seen across religions, even mass-murders and war.

It is the nature of anything that has been separated from its original context that its significance can be twisted and turned to suit the egos of our human pitfalls. Pitfalls which are also the poignant springboards to our greatest growth, if we allow it.

Being spiritual, is part of being human. How we choose to use that aspect of ourself is each individual’s sacred choice. But using spirituality as a form of separating yourself is again, creating the problem that we are learning through our inner soul growth to overcome. The illusion of separation is the only thing keeping us from being at one with all there is and what we are.

Spirituality therefore, is recognising the unity of all things, at all times. Nothing more. Nothing less. It is not the amount of mantras that you sing before 6 in the morning, or the number of flagellation’s your body can withstand. Those are tools and distractions on the path, which are easily misused like so many others.

Spirituality lies in the constant practice of unity. Instead of gaining power from the separation of self from soul. From you and me. Rather, we recognise in each moment, what makes us all one and the same.

12 Responses to Spirituality Is A Four Letter Word

  1. So true sista!
    After living in Byron for the past year … Amidst all the wonders it has to offer which is many! There is a lot of spiritual ego going on. I am holier than thou .. I know what is best for you type mentality … As we discussed over lunch the other day … When I first started meditating I was explaining to a farmer friend what it involved and he was like “mmmm that just sounds like what I do every day when I’m on the tractor ” lol.
    It is hilarious how we over complicate thigs .. And even now as I am in Bali I see these amazing Balinese people so deeply devoted to their faith & actually LIVE it … Not just talk about it or process life problems all day .. I love it ! And I love you & how u actually walk the talk !!!! Love u girl !!

    • I love that your farmer friend recognised what he does as meditation. See! It’s so easy! Love you too my darling. Have a wonderful time in Bali! xo

  2. I *so* agree here and love your view of Spirituality as a constant practice of unity. The word “yoga” comes from a word that means “to yoke” or “union” — uniting breath with movement, yes, but also realizing the unity of everything, the way everything is connected. That idea fascinates me. & I totally agree that this underlying principal of unity is really where it’s at. I do think though that some people need those tools to realize it — for me, my studies of yoga helped me to realize it.
    But yes — let’s not use spirituality as an excuse for manipulation and such as you mentioned. Let’s use it for love. Because love is really all that you can do once you realize that we’re all in this together. xx Beautiful post, Vienda.

    • Thank you for sharing your words and thoughts. And I agree with you, I’m also a huge fan of yoga, and I use it, like everything else in my life, to remind me that I am here for the experience of love and unity. LOVE YOU! xo

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