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Want To Work With A Coach But Can’t Afford It? {+ How You Can Turn That Around In 5 Easy Steps}

Last week I ran into a friend who told me that she was wanting to work with this specific coach to help her grow her business. I was so excited for her and asked her a million questions about the coach you was interested in, and what she was focusing on gaining from the experience. Until she told me “But I can’t afford it!”

I have absolutely, totally been there myself. Wanting to work with a coach, or a mentor, and just simply not feeling like I could afford it. And it that sentence right there, lies the problem. I kept telling myself that I couldn’t afford it. And so my experience was that I couldn’t afford it. Because that’s exactly what I believed. Ah! The conundrum of it all!

In fact, right at this moment, I’m trying to pull together $10,000 to invest in a course that I want to do, because I want to, and need to invest in myself, in order to keep growing and expanding and being the best coach that I can be. So I am doing the following:

Lots of cleaning up my thinking around money, to get around that thought pattern of “I can’t afford the things I want” which essentially is a lack mentality and finding practical ways to allow this experience to come into my life.

 

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Do you want to work with a coach but can’t afford it? Here’s how to turn that around in 5 easy steps. (By the way, this essentially works for anything. People often tell me that they want to go travelling and they can’t afford it, but the truth is, they can. They just choose not to.)

 

1. Change Your Money Mindset

When you want to manifest money to pay for things that are of value to you, it’s important to know that it’s already there.

Know that the cash and the opportunities are right in front of your face. You just have to adjust your vision to see them. You do this by shifting your vibe — your frequencies of thought and emotion — to one that’s open to receiving money.

If you come from a place of “I need …” you’re coming from a really low vibe place.

If you shift your thoughts and emotions to those of excitement, delight and curiosity of how this money will come into your life, the way you approach money changes and you open up to all the possibilities available to you. Recognise that money is already all around you, there is no lack of it, it’s just about getting into alignment with the stream coming your way.

Do things that make you feel really, really good. And approach everything you do from that space. Think of money from a place of gratitude and abundance, rather than from lack and not having enough of it. Just because it’s not viscerally in your bank account right now, doesn’t mean the money is not there.

 

2. Choose To Invest In Yourself

Investing in yourself a priority. Why?

Investing in yourself may be the most profitable investment you ever make. It yields not only future returns, but often a current pay-off as well.

The surest way to achieve a better quality life, to be successful, productive, and satisfied is to place a priority on investing in both personal and professional growth. The effort you put into consistently investing in yourself plays a large role in determining the quality of your life now and in the future.

 

3. Make A Commitment

Making a commitment to yourself, is kind of like making a promise. It builds self-love, -trust and self-worth. You send yourself a powerful message that  you are important.  And that simple act creates a ripple effect across your entire life, that is beyond your imagination.

I have seen time and time again, how my clients’ lives have changed simply because they took a chance on themselves and made a commitment to create a better life for themselves. Investing in coaching gives them the structure and the guidelines to keep that promise to themselves, and allows them to reach out beyond their current spectrum into a world that’s made of dream-stuff.

Put in the work — make the commitment — and it will pay!

 

4. Believe You Are Worth It

What sets you apart from the people whom you see that are living their dreams is simply one thing. They believe that they are worth having the life that they want. And because of that belief they are willing to invest and work towards it.

When you love yourself at a cellular level, and recognise that you are an insurmountable well of unique potential, that you are already who you want to be, deep down, then you recognise that you are worth giving yourself whatever it is that you need to grow and embody your true being.

Believing in your own worth means that you that you have a positive mental attitude towards your needs and know how to find ways to  support yourself. Because you’re worth it!

 

5. Take Practical Steps Towards It

Putting aside money for your own personal growth and investing in yourself is the first step. I have 4 savings accounts, and one of them is named “Self-Love” which I use to pay for things like mentorships, coaching, courses, and self-care.

We often spend our money quite unconsciously. So one thing to be really aware of is that we put our cash to good use. Whenever you make a purchase, ask yourself if this item is really something that you need, something that will make you happy in the long-term? Are you just spending to fill an emotional need? Or are you using your money in a way that so that it grows and evolves you?

And when there’s something big that I need money for quickly, I use the money manifesting method that I shared with you when I manifested over $1,000 in about a day.

 

It’s easy to say “I can’t afford it!” It’s definitely more of a challenge to stretch yourself, whether financially, emotionally, or mentally, to actually bring about the changes that you say you want in your life. In the end, we each have a choice.

 

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  1. Great tips! I’m a huge advocate for women investing in themselves! I’m putting something together for my biz at the moment and although it’s scary seeing all of the money going out of my bank account (which I’m reminding myself to reframe as investments), I know that it will come back to me in bigger and even more beautiful ways :) Thanks for sharing this message! X

    • How exciting for you Che, I look forward to hearing more. Investing in yourself is pretty much the best thing you can invest in, in the entire universe. Because nothing gives you returns like you do! xo

  2. Thanks for this gorgeous gilr! I love the idea of manifesting! I’m currently manifesting a little extra spending money for my holiday in a few weeks – a holiday that I manifested anyway! I won it, so why not go the whole hog and keep the ball rolling…

    • You are so awesome! Congratulations on manifesting that amazing holiday. I’m sure you’ll manifest all the money you want for it too, now that you’re on a roll! xo

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How To Get Unstuck In You Finances, Work + Relationships Right Now

Last weekend I posted a little insight into some of the tools that I use to help my clients move forward, which you can utilise yourself right now, and well, you just gobbled that information right up!

So I thought I’d share those resources with you again, here on the blog, in case you didn’t catch that Facebook post.

After all, in order to create outer change in our lives, we have to change on the inside first! So here are some ways on how to get unstuck in your finances, work and relationships right now:

Overcoming Under Earning by Barbara Stanny – this book is super-easy to read as well as practical, on the mind-set differences between wealthy women and women who are under earning. this particular booked helped me and countless number of my clients get really clear on their finances and make the changes necessary in order to know their worth and earn it.

The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks – this book is all about how we self-sabotage ourselves from having the kind of love, success and abundance that we dream of, due to having subconscious limiting beliefs. It’s very fun and super easy to read – and will give you tonnes of aha! moments.

Self Hypnosis by (me) Vienda Maria – Self-hypnosis is a naturally occurring state of mind which can be defined as a heightened state of focused concentration. With it, you can change your thinking, kick bad habits, and take control of the person you are – as well as relaxing and de-stressing from everyday life. It’s similar to meditation, but more focused on areas you want to transform. This Self Hypnosis Guide, will help you get into that transformative, trance-like state, where you can change your thoughts and thereby your life experience all by yourself! Just follow my voice and let the self-hypnosis guide you into becoming the person you are detained to embody.

My final recommendation is either You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay, or anything by Abraham-Hicks. Basically, you have to brainwash yourself into knowing that you are worth more than the experience you are having right now. When I’m going through a challenging phase of my life, I play the audio books to myself as much as possible to raise my energy and vibration, because that is where we manifest from.

To make it even easier for you, I’ve created an entire FREE playlist of inspirational audios for you to list to on Soundcloud. Here is 4 hours and 20 minutes worth of transforming your entire mindset for ever!

 

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Full Moon in Pisces 16º >>> September 8 2014

Celebrate a change in your life. Even if it is a challenging one and you are struggling with accepting it, celebrate it anyway. This is a time to embrace change and use its power to expand yourself into new territory. It is also a good day to anchor the beginning of a new project, a routine or a relationship, OR the beginning of a new phase in a project, routine or relationship. Celebrate it.

This full moon is also good for supporting any commitment you make for change this month. If you have contemplated something in your life that you are intending to change, your committed intention can be supported by this full moon. Take a baby step towards your goal during this time.

 

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A feminine Pisces Full Moon draws us into oneness and compassion, sensitizes us to the subtle realms of feeling and being while dissolving any separation from our own true nature. Surrender is the portal to the garden.

Chiron is conjunct the Moon, so our journey carries the distinction of healing the wounds carried in our emotional-spiritual bodies and also of becoming that force that bridges the physical and the cosmic levels. Chiron sits between Saturn and the higher frequency planets of Uranus, Neptune and Pluto. He is the link between the collective mind and the galactic energies in the great beyond (discovered in 1977 inviting us to become more receptive to these energies). Chiron was a centaur, and as a healer and teacher, he taught shamanic knowledge of how to heal at the energetic and cellular levels and how to cure with the plant kingdom, the stone people and with animal allies. Chiron emphasizes the holistic integration of body-mind-spirit and sends the seeker within to become his own authority and source of truth.

This Grand Trine with Moon/Chiron, Juno and Vesta, empowers the reemergence of our feminine consciousness. Let Chiron help release anything you have created in fear and still carry, and recreate your life with the help of the feminine expression of the asteroids so generously gifted with ease and grace here at Full Moon.

It’s a full service chart. If ease and grace is not the most frequented vibration in your life right now maybe you’re feeling some of the dynamic high tension of the multiple squares created by the long collective squeeze created by Uranus/Pluto and now joined by Juno and Mercury. There might be some major house cleaning in your relationship department. The truth needs to be spoken. Remember that ‘the truth will set you free’ thing? Well, it definitely
applies at this time.

Change is in the air on so many fronts. But one thing is for sure, Love is all there is.

Illustration by Will Ev 

Lena Stevens

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The 4 Step Gypset Guide To Self Hypnosis

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One of the biggest tumbling blocks that my darling coaching clients sometimes come up against is how to change those habits, negative thought patterns and behaviors that they are easy to let go of. While the biggest learning that I teach them is simple awareness, everyone is different, which means that everyone has to find a way that works best for them.

This is where the gypset guide to self hypnosis comes in. To make it easier, I’ve been a busy little gypsetter, and have created a recorded version of the self hypnosis, just for you to buy and download!

Self-hypnosis is a naturally occurring state of mind which can be defined as a heightened state of focused concentration. With it, you can change your thinking, kick bad habits, and take control of the person you are – as well as relaxing and de-stressing from everyday life. It’s similar to meditation, but more focused on areas you want to transform.

 

1. SET YOUR HYPNOSIS INTENTION

Are you doing it just to relax? For self-improvement? To train your mind to be still and calm? If you’re doing it to achieve a greater end (weight loss, quitting smoking, earning more money etc.), prepare a list of affirmations.

Self-hypnosis can be used just for relaxation, sure, but it can be for a number of life-enhancing things, too. Many use it to achieve their goals, change their thinking, or just as general positive reinforcement or motivation.

Choose 3 statements that fulfill your intention.

Here are some examples of affirmations you could try:

If you want to quit a bad habit, something to the point is the most effective. Think along the lines of, “I do not want to smoke. Cigarettes have no appeal to me.”

If you want to improve your sense of self worth and esteem, aim for something like, “I am capable of whatever I set my mind to. I am in control and I am valuable.”

If you want to reach a specific goal, like weight loss, say it in the present tense: “I am eating healthy. I am losing weight. My clothes feel better and I feel better.”

If you want to manifest more money you could say “Money comes to me frequently and easily from known and unknown sources. I always have more than enough.”

You should avoid using statements with a negative connotation, such as “I don’t want to be tired and irritable.” Instead, say, “I am becoming calm and relaxed.” Examples of positive statements include: “I am strong and slender,” “I am successful and positive,” and, if you have pain, “My back is beginning to feel wonderful.”

These are statements you will be reciting to yourself when you’re under hypnosis. Again, it’s up to you, but many find them life-affirming and effective.

 

2. PREPARE FOR HYPNOSIS

First, make sure you get into your most comfortable clothing. This is where leggings and soft, loose cotton tops are perfect. There’s nothing more distracting than clothes pinching you in some way, from taking yourself into hypnosis.

Also, get a blanket ready in case you get cold easily. Being warm really helps,you get into that trance-like state necessary to change your thought processes.

Go to a quiet room and sit in any comfortable chair, couch, or bed. Although some people (like me) prefer to lie down, you are more susceptible to sleep than when sitting up. Whether you sit or lie, ensure that you do not cross your legs or any part of your body. Remain open and relaxed.

Make sure you are not going to be disturbed for at least half an hour. No self-hypnosis is effective if it gets interrupted by a phone call, a pet, or a kid. Turn off your phone (and the alerts), lock the door, and sequester yourself. This is you time.

 

3. ENTER HYPNOSIS

To make this part really, really easy for you I’ve recorded the entire self hypnosis guide for you on top of a beautiful backing track, so all you need to do is relax and listen. You can download your own copy HERE right now, for only $7.

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“I just finished your self-hyposis MP3…I have been looking for a meditation to help me with recent health issues. It was such a lovely experience.  I feel like I will integrate this into my morning practice frequently.  And it was awesome to hear your voice!”

Elle North | Intuitive Reiki Master

 

4. ENHANCE YOUR EXPERIENCE

Mean it. No self-hypnosis or mantra will manifest itself in real life if you don’t actually mean it. In order for this to be effective, you have to believe in yourself and your actions.

If the first time doesn’t seem effective, don’t write it off automatically. Some things take time to get used to and to get good at. Come back to it in a few days and revisit the experiences. You may be surprised.

Open your mind. You have to believe there is a possibility of this working in order for it to work. Any skepticism on your part will impede your progress.

Visualize situations. Whatever it is you’re working toward — be it confidence, weight loss, positive thinking, whatever — visualize yourself in the situation acting as you’d like to react or being as you’d like to be. If you want to be thinner, imagine yourself sliding into your skinny jeans with ease, modeling in the mirror, smiling at your beautiful body. The endorphin rush alone will be worth it!

Many use hypnosis to get over certain issues like shyness. You don’t have to attack the shyness head on; something related will do. Simply imagining yourself going about the world with your head high, smiling, and making eye contact can be the first step toward a more extroverted you.

Use it to better yourself. Find a goal of yours you’d like to achieve and concentrate on it during your relaxed state. Think of the person you’d like to be and be that person. Hypnosis is great for a deep, deep meditation, but it’s better in that it can be used for a bigger, better purpose. Many people find that they emerge more positive and with a sense of purpose afterward. Take advantage of that possibility!

There is no wrong way to go about this. Whether it’s kicking a bad habit, having focus in your work life, or just changing your thinking, hypnosis can help. Getting rid of the stressors in your life is an integral part of being the person you want to become and this will help. And the more you do it, the better and more natural it’ll feel.

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September 2014 >>> Astro Forecast

The theme for September is CHANGE.

The change also comes with a RESET and a chance to do things in your life very differently. Whether you are the one making a choice or it is a choice or situation from the outside that affects you, CHANGE is inevitable. This month we will explore how to deal with CHANGE in a positive and proactive way so you can use it to RESET your life in the best way possible.

What is CHANGE?

In a nutshell it is the passing from one place, state, form, or phase to another causing things to transform and become different.

We talked about endings and beginnings in last months forecast especially around the last New Moon. Under the theme of CHANGE, endings and beginnings will continue to be important markers this month as we navigate energy that is sometimes very final in its outcome.

There are two kinds of change. Change that you initiate based on a personal choice, and change that is imposed on you from the outside and is usually based on another person’s choice. Change based on your choice is usually something that you want and are looking forward to implementing in your life. Change imposed on you is often unwanted, resisted and judged.

What if you could take the attitude that all change is something you choose?

You would remove the resistance and face the change proactively. Being in resistance to change has no power. Choosing all change no matter where it comes from has a great deal of power.

 

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Change can be sudden, and most likely we will have some experience of that this month, or it can be gradual like the changing of the seasons. The sudden radical changes are the ones that can bring about the most intense reactions. The ones to watch for are the ones that are based in FEAR. Especially this month watch for fear reactions that express themselves through the 7 obstacles of Stubbornness, Impatience, Martyrdom, Self-Deprecation, Arrogance, Greed and Self Destruction. Everyone has a least one of these that is the automatic reaction when fear comes up.

The idea is to be in enough self-observation that you can identify when this is happening and become neutral as quickly as possible. If you are triggered you are not neutral. And you are not neutral if you took something personally. Not taking things personally will be a big test this month but will help with staying neutral and surrendering to the choices of change.

Here are some helpful hints regarding CHANGE.

If you are the one initiating the change:

  • Embrace it from your heart.
  • Ask for support.
  • Do it for you and not someone else.
  • Complete what you are leaving behind and tie up all loose ends.
  • Be patient and honor right timing.
  • Honor the beginning of something new through celebration.
  • Pay attention to the RESET that is part of the change.
  • Pay attention to the details of what is needed to support the change.
  • Make sure to stay balanced throughout the process, as it is an important aspect of successful change.

 

If you are directly affected by change coming from the outside:

  • Observe any resistance or fear reaction and don’t take it personally.
  • Neutralize the resistance or negative reaction as quickly as possible.
  • Be in acceptance.
  • Choose the change as if it were your idea.
  • Honor any completion caused by the change.
  • Honor the beginning of something new caused by the change.
  • Pay attention to your own RESET as a result of the change.
  • Stay balanced and empowered throughout the process.
  • Ask for support.
  • Stay out of Martyrdom and any of the other obstacles.

CHANGE always brings something new into life. Anything new always requires a RESET. This should be an exciting time. When one door closes, another one opens and it really does not matter who is closing or opening the doors. The result is the same. Always consider CHANGE to be a gift from spirit and one that keeps life from becoming stagnant.

Image from FreePeople.com.

Lena Stevens

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  1. Hi Vienda and Lena. I thought initially when reading this that it had to do with the changes I am going thru myself at the moment and I really felt like I was breaking thru last week. However, as of yesterday I also have it coming from an outside influence as well and its scary to say the least. I feel like I have lost my footing. I really needed to read this and will try to implement all the suggestions. Its rather sudden, so at the moment Im in a bit of a panic, but I did a chakra cleansing meditation this morning and am trying to see this from a positive perspective. Thanks again for another timely message.

    • Thank you for sharing Sally-Ann. I’m sending you lots of love and strength to get through challenging times. Remember that what you resist persists, so just let go, and allo the changes to unfold, knowing that everything happens for a reason, and for you highest good. LOVE xo

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Spirituality Is A Four Letter Word

I’m just driving back from a weekend trip in Byron, which was wonderful and beautiful. Obviously, I’m not the one in the driver seat, but am frantically typing on my iPad, willing this idea that I’ve got, to form in a way that’s communicable.

This little trip has brought me some beautiful clarity on my own journey, which I can thank the souls and companions that I’ve had by my side over the last few days for.

I’ve always erred on the side of spiritual growth and guidance. This is one of those things that didn’t feel like a conscious choice, but rather something that was encrypted in my soul. In my early 20’s it grabbed me, shook me up, threw me around a few times and shattered any proportional illusions that I might have had about life.

I came out the other side of that experience, a completely different human being. One that now, I am really proud of, and I love. Not because I’ve got it all figured out, because really, it’s far from that. But because I understand the messiness, the holiness, the all-ness of life, and accept it in its entirety.

My biggest lesson was to experience life from the perspective of an observer. To interact in life, as well as simply observe those interactions without expectations, without attachment. Just to watch. This position of the observer, brings an infinite, constant state of joy with it. An exhilaration which makes every sensation and emotion ecstatic.

Happiness and sadness might be two end of the spectrum – as are love and fear– but they are only experiences for the soul part of us, neither judged as good nor bad. Simply the experience of life in the form of a human body, and all that comes with it. Which is what we are here for. So our souls can have a body to play in.

This state of experiencing life not just as an active participant but also as an observer, means the highs are higher, and the lows are lower. Our senses are imperceptibly heightened and everything feel so strong, so powerful, so all-encompassing. And yet the inner part of us, is always still. Always overjoyed simply by being able to have these experiences. What fun it is, to have such a wide range of emotions, of sensual perceptions, of interactions and relations.

There have been many times in my life, where I have been in my knees, not wanting to go on. Wishing for all the pain and suffering to stop. And even those darkest moments sparkle in a shade-of-night beauty. Even those times of deep human hurt, are something that our soul delights in. Because with it, we grow, and we feel in a way that is otherwise, impossible.

 

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Being in Byron, I brought into my experience a beautiful Ashram hidden in the hinterland, which attracts many people who consider themselves spiritual seekers, all on their own journey to understand and experience this life. I think this is a beautiful thing – I believe inner growth and soul development is a powerful facilitator to compassion, love, and true inner peace and freedom.

I also believe there’s no separation between the “seekers” and the layperson. I think we are all on the same path – however on different parts of it – with journeys that reflect how and what we each need in this time.

So I feel compelled to counter any suggestions that people who actively seek out spiritual growth are in any way superior than anyone else. The most connected, spiritual people have most often been people who didn’t consider themselves spiritual in their minds, but rather just had an intense appreciation for nature, life and each momentary experience.

Spirituality is a four letter word that has been thrown around as a shield, as an excuse for bad behaviour, a “holier than thou” attitude, and a myriad of other things. Under the guise of spirituality, there has been control, manipulation, people not taking responsibility for themselves and their actions, disempowerment, power games, and as we have seen across religions, even mass-murders and war.

It is the nature of anything that has been separated from its original context that its significance can be twisted and turned to suit the egos of our human pitfalls. Pitfalls which are also the poignant springboards to our greatest growth, if we allow it.

Being spiritual, is part of being human. How we choose to use that aspect of ourself is each individual’s sacred choice. But using spirituality as a form of separating yourself is again, creating the problem that we are learning through our inner soul growth to overcome. The illusion of separation is the only thing keeping us from being at one with all there is and what we are.

Spirituality therefore, is recognising the unity of all things, at all times. Nothing more. Nothing less. It is not the amount of mantras that you sing before 6 in the morning, or the number of flagellation’s your body can withstand. Those are tools and distractions on the path, which are easily misused like so many others.

Spirituality lies in the constant practice of unity. Instead of gaining power from the separation of self from soul. From you and me. Rather, we recognise in each moment, what makes us all one and the same.

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  1. So true sista!
    After living in Byron for the past year … Amidst all the wonders it has to offer which is many! There is a lot of spiritual ego going on. I am holier than thou .. I know what is best for you type mentality … As we discussed over lunch the other day … When I first started meditating I was explaining to a farmer friend what it involved and he was like “mmmm that just sounds like what I do every day when I’m on the tractor ” lol.
    It is hilarious how we over complicate thigs .. And even now as I am in Bali I see these amazing Balinese people so deeply devoted to their faith & actually LIVE it … Not just talk about it or process life problems all day .. I love it ! And I love you & how u actually walk the talk !!!! Love u girl !!

    • I love that your farmer friend recognised what he does as meditation. See! It’s so easy! Love you too my darling. Have a wonderful time in Bali! xo

  2. I *so* agree here and love your view of Spirituality as a constant practice of unity. The word “yoga” comes from a word that means “to yoke” or “union” — uniting breath with movement, yes, but also realizing the unity of everything, the way everything is connected. That idea fascinates me. & I totally agree that this underlying principal of unity is really where it’s at. I do think though that some people need those tools to realize it — for me, my studies of yoga helped me to realize it.
    But yes — let’s not use spirituality as an excuse for manipulation and such as you mentioned. Let’s use it for love. Because love is really all that you can do once you realize that we’re all in this together. xx Beautiful post, Vienda.

    • Thank you for sharing your words and thoughts. And I agree with you, I’m also a huge fan of yoga, and I use it, like everything else in my life, to remind me that I am here for the experience of love and unity. LOVE YOU! xo

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The Gypset Guide To No Poo-ing

If you’ve not heard this silly term before; “no poo” (no shampoo) is a collective term for methods of washing hair without commercial shampoo.

Why are we talking about this? Am I really not washing my hair anymore? What does this have to do with being a gypsetter?

Wow! So many questions!

We are talking about this because, for years, I’ve been searching for the perfect, organic, chemical-free, shampoo and conditioner to care for my hair. And in this search, I’ve tried dozens, upon dozens of different brands. I’ve tried really expensive one, I’ve tried the lower price range, I’ve tried everything that claims to be natural and wash your hair.

But if I’m honest, natural shampoos and conditioner brands just don’t cut it. They leave my hair really dry and straw-like, and strip the natural oils even more than chemical ones do. The are harsher on the hair, and give less of the nutrients back.

So, in between experiments, I would go back to commercial, chemical hair products, out of desperation, even though I really hate them. They always leave a weird taste in my mouth and make my hair feel greasy after about day three.

And then I started thinking. This is such a weird cycle we’ve started. Washing all the natural oils out of our hair, essentially stripping it bare from its own nutrients, then lading it up with chemical proteins and oils to replace what we just stole, and then expecting to have healthy, beautiful hair every day!

The theory is this: Shampoo strips hair of sebum, the oily substance secreted by our scalps to ward off bacteria and wetness. To compensate, we produce too much of the stuff, leading to that dreaded greasy look. In an attempt to remedy that problem, we lather even more frequently, and soon our ends are dry and frizzy, necessitating the use of conditioner and other expensive and time-consuming unguents. We are all, in other words, hamsters on the chemical-products wheel, and if we want to get off we must cut out, or at least curtail, their use.

I mean, Pocahontas has gorgeous, soft, luscious hair. I bet she didn’t shampoo. She must have had her own method of no-poo.

So, I’m not, not washing my hair anymore, no. I love having soft, clean, silky hair. But I am trying a tried and tested method, that’s been seen all across the cyber-sphere over the past few years which involves baking soda and apple cider vinegar. Don’t believe me?

Gala Darling does it. Jessica Simpson does it. And apparently Prince Harry does it too. (Weird!)

 

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So I stalked the internet one night (as I’m apt to do as seen previously when I cut my own hair) on how, I too could achieve beautiful, glorious, locks without using chemicals, by allowing the natural oils to return to their rightful place and care for my hair like they’re supposed to.

 

Basically, for me, it works like this:

  • I have a watertight jar of regular baking soda in the shower with me, from which I pour a small handful into my hand and mix with water to make a paste. Then I rub said paste into my scalp and ‘wash’.
  • I rinse it out thoroughly.
  • Followed by spritzing the rest of my hair, focusing on the ends, with a water ACV mixture (1/4 ACV; rest water). I leave this in my hair while I take care of all my other shower needs. Like you would a conditioner.
  • Just before it’s time to get out, I thoroughly wash the ACV out of my hair, et voila! The no-poo method is complete.

Why is this a topic for gypsetters? Because we are custodians of the earth. And anything that harms us, harms the earth also. So we endeavor to continuously find ways in which we can take care of, and protect ourselves and our planet. Commercial, chemical shampoos and conditioners are laden with so much toxic stuff, it would make you cry to think of. Just imagine a dolphin having to swim in that!

That is why. Because we don’t want our beautiful sea creatures to have to swim in our disgusting toxins. And neither should we.

 

The Gypset Guide To No Poo-ing:

Week 1.

After the first wash, my hair felt clean, but a little bit weird. It definitely had an identity crisis. So I kept it up in a high messy bun for the next few days, until I felt it was ready for another wash. 3 days later, I brushed my hair thoroughly to spread all the natural oils around before the wash, and then again afterwards, so it could dry tangle free. The second time around, my hair felt incredibly soft, bouncy and ever so shiny. I was feeling quite pleased with myself!

Week 2.

At this point, I left it four days until I felt I needed to wash my hair again. My scalp stays clean for 2-3 days before it starts getting oily, but I kind of want to encourage the natural oils to settle down and condition my hair naturally, so I’m really just paying attention to what my hair is doing day by day. By the third wash I was committed to this no-poo trend. I could tell that my hair was cleaner than ever before, and was being clarified from all the old gunk and toxins from previous hair products. It felt good! It felt clean and soft and happy. The ACV made my hair look healthy and shiny, and the various colours in my hair from spending lots of time in the sun, were starting to blend.

Week 3.

The compliments have started rolling in. Oh yes!

“Wow, your hair is so shiny!” “Ooo your hair looks so healthy, what have you done to it?” “Hey, did you get a hair cut?”

“Ammm, thanks, yes I know. It’s because I’ve stopped shampooing it.” Jaws drop. Eyes slant. Brows furrow. “You what?!”

And so I explain to them what I’ve explained to you. By now, I’m washing my hair every four to five days. I’ve discovered what works best for me is to wash it in the evening, which is somehow magically followed by two amazing hair days, where I wake up with good hair. The two days after that I actually make an effort to style it or put it up.

Week 4.

I’m still really loving the method and the concept, but I’ve discovered that after a day or two, my hair starts getting a little bit waxy – kind of like the day after swimming in salt water without rinsing. It’s not quite as soft and shiny as it was  to begin with, and I’m quietly disappointed that this no poo challenge might not be the answer to all my dreams of natural Pocahontas-like hair. But I continue on, washing with bi-carb soda and conditioning with ACV, with the hope that this waxy phase will pass.

Week 5.

After the wash, my hair is always lovely but a day or so later, not so much. My scalp is itchy and kind of dry and my actual hair starts getting that waxy feel again. So I google. And discover that I’m probably using too much bi-carb and not enough ACV mixture in my method. I also learn that, to remove the waxy build up in the hair, to wash it with 1 egg yolk mixed with cool water. With hopes that these solutions will save me from having to turn back to shampoo, I try it.

And guess what!? It worked! Back to lovely, shiny, swishy, soft, lovely hair. Who would have thought!

Week 6.

I have absolutely nothing to report. My hair and I are doing just fine. People have started saying that it looks like it’s growing really quickly all of a sudden, and come to think of it, I must agree. It seems to have grown at least an inch in the past 3 – 4 weeks. I’m wondering if the toxic chemicals in normal shampoos stunt the natural growth of our hair and slows it down? Or maybe this new, natural method is just so exciting for my scalp it can’t help but push hair out faster…

Week 7.

So, I had a tiny mishap. It was my birthday and I was at a friend’s house and desperately wanted clean hair before we went out. So I shampooed. Oh the shame! I was mostly worried that I had undone all those weeks of going au natural in one fell swoop, but it seems ok. The only thing I noticed was that my hair was unusually oily afterwards. The next time I no pooed everything seemed just fine.

Week 8.

I think two months worth of experimentation is enough time to decide whether something works for you or not. And I can confidently say that YES! I like it, and no poo is a definite go for me. I really like the way it makes my hair feel, and look; all soft and wavy and light. I also really like how it makes my hair grow really, really fast. When I first started, my hair was just below my shoulders. And now it’s already halfway down my shoulder blades. Plus, I’m not damaging our planet nor my body with any nasty, toxic stuff. I also see that this method will be quite easy to take with me anywhere I go.

No poo is officially gypset approved!

Image by Dana Boulos.

19 Responses to The Gypset Guide To No Poo-ing

  1. Hey Vienda,

    I’m running out of shampoo and would love to try no-poo for a little bit.

    How much baking soda do you use for your hair, and how much water do you mix it with? If you’re freestyling it, I’d still love to hear an estimate amount you use.

    I’ve tried it before (after using all organic shampoos for 3 years) and it made my hair feel really weird, maybe waxy like you described. I’m wondering if I just used the wrong ratio? I have shoulder length hair. :)

    Thank you so much for sharing your experiment with us. <3

    • Hello my lovely! I use about a heaped tablespoon of bicarbsoda mixed with probably a handful of water and then place it on the crown of my head and slowly, gently massage the mixture outward to all the corners covered by hair. Then I rinse thoroughly and spray a mixture of 1 part ACV to 2 parts water and leave it in. The first few weeks or so, it’s normal for your hair to feel a bit weird as you are actually clarifying it from years of buildup from old products – even the natural ones cause buildup. Just keep washing it every few days. You have to experiment a little yourself because amounts and such are also affected by the water in your shower. Good luck and let me know how you go! xo

  2. I have been thinking to start doing it, and then I read your post with week by week personal experience! Amazing! So already washed my hair twice with this method, and I like it, but it still feels waxy. I think it’s something to do with water in the area, as when I use it with shampoos I always get lots of dandruff… I will keep going and see what happens.
    Just have one question – is just one small amount of soda enough for the whole scalp? It doesn’t spread easily so I end up with having loads on one part of my head and much less on others! :)

    • I know what you mean, and I think you just have to experiment. If the water is hard or soft, the amount of bicarbonate you need varies. I think where I am right now the water is quite soft. I notice that the more water I mix it with, the easier it is to spread around my scalp. I just stay there and massage it around and away from the spot where I first placed it and eventually it spreads around. Also, because the particles are so fine, you might not realise that they are everywhere already, until you get more accustomed to it. Some people make a water and bicarbonate soda mixture in a bottle with those this spouts, like tomato sauce bottles, and then put it into the different parts of the hair. Maybe that would work for you?! xo

      • Thank You so much Vienda! I will try it next time this way :) Just want to express my gratitude to you because I think your week by week guide encouraged me to finally try it, and I really love my hair now :)

  3. I go through stages of wanting to go ‘no poo’. I do all the research and then back out after a few days. I have high maintenance curly + fine hair so it gets pretty oily. But, Vienda, I have to say, you’ve convinced me to give the bicarb + ACV thing a go and at least try it and see what I think. Eek! Wish me luck!

    • When I first read about it, I was so impressed, but it took me a good 6 months or more to finally give it a go. But since doing it, I haven’t looked back! No poo rocks my world (+ the name is so silly + funny it’s worth it just for that). Let me know how you go with it!

  4. Vienda,
    Hi, I wanted to write in to say I’ve tried this myself and it works wonderfully, and may the tribe of those rejecting harmful chemicals and carcinogens of beauty products increase. I am from India, and we’ve always had a tradition of using soapnut powder and such natural alternatives (plant) that wash hair – it actually lathers. And we use it because we have a regiment of oiling our hair, with coconut oil because it nourishes and protects hair, slows down greying etc, and to wash it off. But soapnut tends to dry your hair, at least mine. Apple cider vinegar’s been the rage for a while now, but I’m always stumped with having to wash off oil, those days, it’s back to shampoo. Do you a solution in mind? Because here, we try to oil our hair and wash that off and not merely wash your hair – because it helps with hair growth and as I said, other benefits.

    • Hello my lovely! I don’t have a solution for that either. I don’t oil my hair because with this washing method it’s very hard to get out. But the idea here is that you don’t have to oil your hair anymore because the natural oils from your scalp will do the job for you. So i just take a tiny bit of coconut oil for my ends – like half a baby finger nail of oil – gently rubbed between my hands and then onto the ends of my hair. I think Argan oil would work well too. Let me know if you come up with an amazing solution!

  5. hehe i love this honey! thank you for the advice… I have been wondering what alternate methods there are…. i remember in india, not washing my hair for 2 weeks, and my hair started to turn to wax… it was so wild! i am def going to try the bicarb ACV combo you speak of xxxx

    • Oh awesome, I can’t wait to hear how you go. Once you get the hang of it, you will find just how wonderfully amazing this method is for your hair! Makes it sooooo soft and shiny!

  6. Good for you!!
    I will admit. I have wanted to try this, but I find that using a very natural product and only washing my hair every 3-5 days works well for me.
    Great job darling!!

  7. I am excited to try this – this post was hillariously filled with my giggles as I read through. The word “poo” just makes me laugh all day!
    Thanks for making me giggle like that! I will now have a strong stomach AND beautiful hair! haha!

    • I think getting to use the word poo this many times in an article, as an adult, was one of the main attractions that made this experiment so enticing. And of course, the hair. But yes, thank you for giggling. Let’s giggle some more about it this weekend! xo

  8. This is fab! I started no-poing exactly like you have described 10 weeks ago and only just feel like it’s sorting itself out, I think the ratios to use also partly depends whether you live in a soft of hard water area.

    I also tried using a little bit of Dr Bronners in the mix at first but that made my hair super heavy so now I just keep it simple with bicarb followed by ACV.

    I love that you included the mishap in week 7 as it had been my worry that I would undo all my hard work if there was ever a time when I had to resort to normal shampoo for whatever reasons so that gives me peace of mind!!

    • I am soooo glad to meet a fellow no-poo-er! Hello Jo! It’s such a funny transition and most people don’t quite get it but once you actually TRY no poo, it’s really very amazing. Thanks for your comment my lovely. xo

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New Moon in Virgo 2º >>> August 25 2014

We are moving towards more clarity and organization and a renewed energy to get back to tasks that were put on hold for various reasons. This is a great time especially to honor the clarity and commitment around endings and beginnings.

Identify what is ending or what needs to end and your intention to end it. It could be anything from the habit of self judgment to work that no longer serves you, or even a relationship. What have you struggled with lately that you need to change?  Do a ritual that will help you mark the ending.  When something ends, there is always a new space created for something new to begin.

Identify what is beginning in your life or what you wish or intend to begin and ritualize it somehow for yourself. Sometimes we are so focused on what is ending that we can’t appreciate why has been knocking on our door. Open the door to NEW and use this new moon time as a way to establish an energetic marker for your endings and your beginnings. Because the times support clarity and organization, it is also a great idea to make an action plan as long as you have enough clarity.

 

New moon august 2014

 

New Moon in Virgo 2º >>> August 25 2014

The Sun leads the way turning the wheel from fire sign Leo to earth sign Virgo on Friday August 22; New Moon follows on Monday.  Virgo’s gifts are nothing like Leo’s fiery warmth and dynamicism; instead, her gifts stem from the combination of her earthiness and her rulership by the mentally agile, Mercury.  Using her ever-practical intelligence, she integrates the mental, emotional, spiritual realms into the physical plane.  Her clear and discriminating eye analyzes and synthesizes all factors and impressions and efficiently creates order out of chaos.  Yes, our Virgonians are known for their perfectionism, but as an earth sign they bring a much needed groundedness and realism to the best use of available resources.  Virgo appreciates organization, hard work, and holding to high standards.  When you get your earthiness working for you, you bring more structure and order to bear and your grounded energy can support abundance and a feeling of security.  When you are spaced out, in self-doubt, critical, lethargic, and you lose your connection to fulfillment, then you need to ground with Mother Earth/Pachamama/Gaia and move your life into balance.

Of course the most grounded place is in that body of yours, and consequently, Virgo rules our health, and the holistic integration of the body, mind and spirit in particular.  Virgo rules the abdomen including the bowels, small intestines, spleen, and diaphragm and tends toward a sensitive digestive function coupled with a strong gut-level intuition.  When you combine their gut-level ‘early warning response’ system with their keen mental abilities granted by a Mercury ruler you have a recipe for practical, reliable judgment.

Virgo is known as the conserver.  Traditionally they took stock of the harvest, stored and preserved it for leaner winter times.  They love to categorize and organize.  Preserving and retaining makes them excellent at study with exceptional memories and discriminating mental abilities.

The Mercury ruler of this New Moon chart is also in Virgo (planets always happy to be in their own sign as they express well) and is in opposition to Chiron, embodiment of a holistic healer tradition himself.  We have an opportunity to heal with deep conversation with another, to realize how powerfully creative our thoughts are, and to express in a way that strengthens our unique, divine presence in the world.

An exact pairing of Saturn and Mars at 17º Scorpio is bringing into very sharp focus the lessons from deep in the human psyche of war, violence and domination and how they no longer serve where we are going.  Transformation of the darkest and most powerful aspects of life on Earth is what you have signed up to transmute.  Also an exact square to Venus in Leo 17º from Saturn and Mars helps us move forward the challenge of healing the relationship of the masculine and feminine within ourselves.  Scorpio helps us courageously acknowledge what we avoid (where we have no control, feel vulnerable, where our ego reigns) and shed that tight skin and become our selves in a more magnificent way.

Uranus who is an ally for making huge change is at the apex of a Finger of God aspect with both Saturn/Mars and ruler Mercury adding just that blast of disruption, reform and inspiration necessary to create movement if you are ready for an influx of powerful new energy in your life.  Uranus also is in trine to Venus providing support to the feminine for allowing the social graces, diplomacy and the value of beauty to show the way forward.

Neptune in Pisces is sitting opposite this Sun and Moon in Virgo so the message is clear to let our Virgo-ruled areas ~ work, health, daily routines, be inspired and infused by the transcendental, that is, something greater than the mundane.  Call on the invisible world of Spirit to infuse your life with the highest frequencies of unconditional love and trust that you can hold.  Although we find ourselves in challenging times of great change called on to release what has been created in fear, so much support is available to live in greater joy, love and cooperation.  Band with like-minded others, hold that vision in your heart, and use your Virgo aspect to manifest it here on Earth.

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Lena Stevens

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