Listening to your intuition is one thing.
But actually trusting it to the point of acting on it, takes real courage.
The action part, takes a whole lot of trust in yourself and your inner wisdom, without a money-back guarantee.
(Seriously, how awesome would it be if intuitions had some kind of guarantee. Something like: If you, Vienda wholly and completely trust my guidance, and I fuck up, you receive a guarantee of $2 million dollars for any emotional, spiritual or physical experiences rendered as negative through this guidance. But, then we would never learn the lessons that we are here to learn, would we.)
So how do you learn to trust yourself?
How do let go of the fears, the what if’s, and the trepidations about the wild unknown that lies ahead? How can we learn to trust our intuitions?
This is how. By learning to trust YOU.
Let Go of The Past.
You can’t be happy in the future if you don’t let go of the pain from the past. In order to move forward, you need to leave the past behind you. Have you fully forgiven everything that happened in your past relationship(s)? And all the things that happened since? Have you fully forgiven yourself? This needs to happen. Simply be willing to forgive and let go of the past. By being willing the healing will come.
Be Open and Honest.
The more open and honest you are, foremost with yourself, and then also with those around you, especially partners and lovers, the easier it is to build trust within yourself and with others.
Where are you denying or lying to yourself?
Where are you holding back and not sharing yourself fully?
Not allowing yourself to be fully seen causes a psychological fracture in our relationships with ourselves and others, making us feel like we can’t trust either because we haven’t revealed ourselves fully.
It’s really important that you enquire within yourself, to discover what your personal boundaries are in life.
I can give you a personal example. For me, a very important boundary is time alone. I need time to myself in order to integrate the huge amount of information that I constantly absorb, and to connect with others.
Another boundary is acceptance. I need to accept myself and I need others to accept me exactly as I am.
Obviously any kind of violence; be it verbal, physical or emotional is unacceptable for me. That’s another boundary. Both for myself and others.
Get clear within yourself what type of behavior is acceptable both from you yourself, and from others, and what is not. The clearer the boundaries are, the less likely there will be a violation of trust.
Keep Your Promises.
And again, making and keeping promises to yourself, is the most important aspect of this. The easiest way to break trust is to not do the things you say will, even if you think it’s trivial.
If you promise yourself to give yourself the time you need to just be quiet and reflect and you break that promise, you are breaking your own trust. Which makes it difficult to trust others too.
Keep The Lines of Communication Open.
Communication is always important, especially when it comes to building trust. This includes listening and speaking. Communication, after all, is a two-way street.
Communication covers: speaking your truth; asking for what you need; listening to your own inner wisdom and intuition; listening to what others have to say, and then always checking in with yourself to see how you are feeling.
The easier it is for you to communicate, the easier it will be to trust yourself and others.
Once you have nurtured these basic building blocks of your own inner world, listening to and acting on our intuitions, becomes a breeze. It’s fun, it’s easy, and you begin to notice that when you do, life gets that much easier, and simply flows.