That how long you’ve got before you judge someone when you first meet them.
Psychologists say that, in a blink of an eye, you’ve formed an impression based on what they’re wearing, their posture and their vibe, and decided how you feel about them.
In that same breath, research shows that, if you truly want to be happy and free in your life, you have to stop being judgemental. As per Science Daily:
“How positively you see others is linked to how happy, kind-hearted and emotionally stable you are, according to new research. In contrast, negative perceptions of others are linked to higher levels of narcissism and antisocial behaviour.”
It all starts with you.
What you say about others says a lot about what you say about yourself.
So, you think you want to stop being judgemental? 6 pieces of advice.
1. Start paying attention to when you are being judgemental to yourself, first. And to others, second. Remind yourself to do so from time to time.
2. If you find yourself being judgemental, stop yourself. Drop that thought like a hot potato.
3. Let it go and forgive yourself for being judgemental. The get back to being observant for the next time.
4. Be compassionate to your own situation and that of others, instead of judging. There is a reason why everyone is at this particular point in that particular way, including you. Instead of judging be kind and understanding.
5. Accept yourself for who you are, and accept others for who they are. Embrace you own, and their uniqueness. And if you want to change, that’s ok, but create change from a space of acceptance, rather than judgement.
6. Love yourself. And love others too. Start telling yourself “I love myself.” every single day, as many time as you can. Believe me, this will transform your life. As for others: without knowing them, without judging them, send them love as you pass them. Knowing that they are expressing their own divinity in their own way.
While it is our nature to be judgemental in some ways, it’s not always useful to us. I notice in my own life that the more open, loving and accepting I am of myself, and others, the better, sweeter and more abundant my life is. Instead of judging and criticising, I find beauty, simplicity and things to appreciate.