“80 Percent of life is showing up.” — Woody Allen
I could end this article right here.
It’s kind of simple, right? We let fear get in the way, often. Too often. And then, sometimes, we break through our fear, by just keeping going. By showing up, despite the fear.
Here are some more fascinating stats:
- 80 Percent of people never set goals for themselves. Because they fear both success and failure.
- 20 percent of people do set goals. Most of those people work in fields, that promote goal setting.
- 70 percent of people who do set goals, fail to achieve the goals they have set for themselves
Those are some pretty scary numbers.
Once upon a time, I thought goals were used by people to measure their rate of failure and success. I thought that most people who set goals were unhappy, because they created expectations for themselves that they couldn’t meet, and then judged their self-worth based on their fulfilment. Or lack thereof.
Now I see goals are simply things that we reach toward; things we want to be and do. And that goals are guiding posts as we grow, stretch and expand, in specific directions. I also recognise goals to be flexible. They evolve, as we do.
What those stats above mean, is that most people, don’t be and do what they want to do and be.
I don’t want to be like most people.
Since you’re here, reading these words right now, neither do you.
My friend Hayley recently wrote to me about the fear that shows up, just before she’s about to fulfil a goal. She wrote:
“I’m exploring the fear that comes up, just as you have that thing you want right in front of you. You know, the thing you have wanted to manifest for so long… That’s my trouble spot. This is where I start to lose focus on the goal. My inspiration and motivation, which have been my guide for so long up until that point, disappear, and I get caught up in doubt and second guessing. I would love to know some tips on what is the best way to get through that, or any advice you have.”
It’s life’s obstructive apparition.
Here’s another awesome stat. This one is a quote.
“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.” — Charles R. Swindoll
What that means is that we always, always, always… have a choice. There are two choices.
We can allow our fears to take over. Our fears look like this:
- Feeling unworthy.
- Lack of commitment.
- Panic about the future.
- Not wanting to change.
- Self doubt and confusion.
- Overthinking and analysing.
- Procrastination and tiredness.
- Loss of motivation and inspiration.
Or we can use those fears as a source of motivation.
Feeling fear doesn’t mean that there’s something wrong, and you have to turn back. On the contrary. Fear means that you’re getting close, smoking hot in fact, to achieving that goal. To being and doing what you truly, deeply, with every cell of your being, want.
It means that you’re exactly where you’re meant to be: about to transform into the state of being or doing what you want.
The one, singular, most effective key to move past that point of fear?
Take action, right away.
90 Percent of the time, you know what you need to do, to have and be what you want.
When you are so close, that fear is breathing down your neck, keep showing up.
Take action. Do what you said you would do. Check your list again. Make that next move.