On Saturday, as on most Saturday’s, I went to the farmers market. There were so many people everywhere, more than usual, and as I pushed and shoved my way through the crowds to get to my favourite fruit stands, and vegetable growers, I suddenly caught myself. I was forcing my way forward, totally out of the present moment, only focused on getting what I needed, in a really masculine fashion.
I felt disconnected from myself, and the present, in that moment.
So I stopped. Took a deep breath. Softened my body. And my gaze. And then let the crowd guide and take me to where I needed to go. I surrendered. I came back to being in my body and trusted that I would receive exactly what I need. I came back into my feminine.
Receiving has been one of my biggest lessons over that past few months. Something that I thought I had honed to a certain degree of skill, asked me to peel back the layers, and go a little bit deeper. Learning to surrender and simply receive. Not just some of the time, or most of the time. But all the time.
It’s not easy, when the world tells you that if you want something, you have to go out and make it happen. Learning to lean into receiving teaches us that when we know that what is meant will come to us, we don’t actually actively have to do anything, except for love wholeheartedly, and be open and allow ourselves to be inspired.
We teach what we most need to learn, and in this case, that is true. These 10 lessons are for me, just as much as they are for you.
1. Receiving is a form of surrender. It is also what fully being in our feminine power looks like. If you want to fully embody the wild empowered ways of being in your feminine, learn to receive.
2. Asking for help, and then gracefully receiving that help is an art-form. One that we must all master.
3. Sincere gratitude is the first step to receiving. When someone compliments you, stop for a moment and allow that to absorb into your body, and then say thank you. Often, we negate any positive words in our direction by waving them away with a negative comment.
4. Practice self-care. When we know how to receive great nurture, love and care from ourselves, it’s much easier to receive it from someone else. So start putting yourself first. If your life was ideal, how would you live and treat yourself? Would your days start with a workout and a green smoothie? Would you be writing morning pages. Start giving yourself what you desire. Filling your own heart with goodness, is necessary to being able to receive the gifts form the world.
5. Slow down. When we are busy pushing, forcing and striving at a break-neck speed, there is absolutely no room for seeing and receiving the gifts before you. Practice stillness, come back into your body, and open up your heart.
6. Practice opening up your heart. Yoga and meditation are both really useful in this area. I remember going through a particularly challenging time in a relationship once, and going to yoga class to do deep heart-opening poses like camel. They brought me to tears at the time, but helped me receive the support I was given from the Universe when I needed it most.
7. We either close our hearts, or we open them. In every moment we have a choice. Closed feels; contacted, limited, lacking, distant, disconnected, fearful. Open feels: soft, loved, supported, abundant, connected. Receiving requires us to be open.
8. Receiving is not selfish. Receiving is a gift to the giver. When we don’t allow ourselves to fully receive, we steal the joy from the giver. Have you ever tried to give something to someone, and they have refused that gift? It hurts.
9. Knowing when to take inspired action, and when to be still and receive, is also an art form. The key is in the word “inspired”. When you feel inspired, taking action happens with ease, grace and flow. You know that what you are doing is inspired, because the action occurs easily, without force or pressure. It;s when you feel like you need to push and force things forward that, you need to step back into receiving. Practicing this on a moment to moment basis is exactly that: a practice. The more your do it, the easier it gets and the better you become at knowing when to take action, and when to stop and receive.
10. Receiving is also simply practicing gratitude. We cannot appreciate what we cannot be open to receiving so, if you want to become a good receiver and step into your feminine, appreciate everything. The more you appreciate, the more you receive.
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