by Vienda | 25 Feb 2021 | Biz + Blogging
We are sitting on my sofa in Brighton. It’s autumn, the leaves are turning crispier and we are playing @werenotreallystrangers when I pick the card that reads “What about me intrigues you?” I turn to her, curious about what she will say. She thinks for a moment and replied “How you run a business and stay so gentle and feminine. How do you do it?” “I have no idea…” I respond… “I’m not sure what you mean?”
Anna is a past client turned-friend and also my trusted business advisor. “The way that you run your business is not taught… Trust-led, heart-led, intuitive, present, intentional.” She answers thoughtfully. “How do you do it?” I have to think about it. I don’t have a roadmap or a blueprint or a concise linear answer. It’s more of a feeling that runs through my body that I allow to guide me.
Slowly I reply.
“It’s kind of simple, really. I have five specific guiding points that drive my business. They are:
- Creativity. My work has to be a creative outlet for me. I need to let the energy flow through me for my work to feel meaningful and worthwhile to me.
- Expressive. My work has to act as an extension of who I am. It is through the integrity of authentic self-expression that I connect to my potential clients and audience.
- Channel. I view my work to be a channel for the messages that run through me. I am ever-evolving, learning, growing and so my work is a platform for me to share that journey with my community.
- Value and money. The money I make is an indicator of the value I give. It’s not about trading time and energy for money but rather value. When something provides high value I am highly renumerated for it.
- Ease. I know I’m going in the right direction when there are grace and ease. The moment I feel pushed, contracted or constricted, or tense in some way, I pull back. I’m always following this sense of fluidity and ease and guidance on what my strategy and path are.
And to make those five guiding points work I have two commitments:
- Show up to my work every day. It doesn’t matter what it is. It can be as mundane as replying to emails or as exciting as working on a new project. The point is that I show up every single day and meet my work right where it is. I am devoted to the act of being here and offering myself to be the vehicle through which the work comes.
- Tune in and listen. Everything I do is somehow guided by something bigger and wiser than me. Whenever I am unsure of what my next step is, I stop, tune in, and listen. This means large parts of my work actually looks like me sitting quietly, or walking, or dancing, or focusing on something else until I moved forward into inspired action.
Does that make sense?”
“It does…” she replied, “but no-on teaches exactly how this works. Maybe you should create a course on it.” We laugh and carry on with our game.
Several months later, Anna calls me from France. “I would really like it if you taught how you run your business.” I smile. “I’ll do it. But you have to tell me exactly what you want me to teach.”
Within a few weeks, I received more signs. Messages that read things like…
Witnessing how you lead your life and business is always a great reminder that things can be done differently. Thanks for sharing so much with us!
I love how you use your intuition to guide your days. That you work with the energy of the seasons, days of the week, what your spirit calls you to do on each day. You are able to live with authenticity and be your true self. I’m sure there are days you have tasks you must do and perhaps don’t look forward to, or don’t have the energy for and have to power through. But overall it just seems like you’ve found a rhythm and a flow to your days that keeps you grounded, happy, and true to yourself. That’s what I’m seeking.
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by Vienda | 5 May 2020 | Intuition + Manifestation
Written by Laura Bourjac about INSTINCT.
A few months ago, in the summertime when everything tastes like sunshine & lemonade, I went through a cloudy life experience. This time, I wasn’t lost, I wasn’t scared, I was in a place where I could have listened to myself, to my instinct. Something inside myself knew what was coming, I sensed it, my body tried to warn me but I turned it off.
One morning, feeling down and exhausted by my own emotions and lack of control I had on them, I write to my dear Vienda Maria. My instinct probably whispered me to do so, to find her and confide in her for her answer brought light to my grey Scottish day.
She told me about her course Instinct which is all about learning how to listen to your inner voice and stop shutting your instincts down. We all have a tendency to rationalise or intellectualise whatever shiver, wave or butterflies we might feel when certain situations arise. It became quite common for us to ignore our own nature and turn blind to our own red flags. As I was reading the course introduction and watching the first video, I quickly realised that I had been denying my own instincts for such a long time.
‘You have to begin by accepting and embracing your intuitive nature, before diving into the practice.’
My intellectual self who loves to wear glasses at all times, dissect books and use long words had actually killed the most primitive side of my being; my instinct. I had to accept my mistake, then accept that this intuitive nature of mine was still there to help and guide me. It was actually quite a long process to be able to recognise and hear this little voice again. It became obvious that I had to nurture my intuition and make it a priority. As soon as I started to open up to my intuitive heart, I felt a physical change. The knots I had accumulated in my body slowly disappeared and I no longer experienced anxiety for I was able to guide myself better through the healing process.
I would download Vienda’s videos and listen to them as I was walking down the Meadows, lying in the grass… Really, it became a ritual, a form of meditation. This is the first time I take an online course and her approach touched my soul and guided me to a better understanding and care of my intuition (so really, of myself).
Would it surprise you if I tell you that in these last months, following my instinct has never failed me? Sure, some decisions were massive and harsh but the outcome felt good, meant to be. I would love to insist on this ‘meant to be’ aspect of things as, from the moment I let this voice speak to me, I felt that I opened myself for everything to fall into place. Whether, in the past, I would hold back and force a reassuring reasoning on myself, convinced that hours of thinking were more effective and clever than a feeling.
If I don’t want to discourage rational thinking, I’d like to convey the importance of letting your intuition weigh in your inner dialogue.
I’m infinitely grateful for this beautiful Instinct course. These fifteen days still echo weeks later and I confess that sometimes I still go back to my notes, drawings and Vienda Maria’s videos to dive back into my own intuition when I feel that my everyday routine drowns it and makes it harder for me to be aware.
Voilà, I wanted to talk about how focusing on my intuition helped me in my healing process and actually connected me to this more mystical part of myself. There is nothing to understand and intellectualise, it’s all about surrendering to your own nature, trusting that deep down you sense what is good for you.
Ah oui, guess what! It shows on my face for I feel more balanced – best beauty tip.
INSTINCT is open to join as soon as you are ready to heed your inner voice guiding you to the more that you are looking for.
by Vienda | 31 Oct 2019 | Biz + Blogging
There exists in the world, the strange paradoxical belief that living an intuitive life requires one to be reckless and flighty. That structure cannot coexist with intuitive flow. That planning leaves no room for spontaneity. I know, because I used to believe all those things. But not anymore.
Here’s what I know.
Intuitive living and structure are two parts of the whole: they are the yin yang of life, they represent the feminine and masculine aspects that live within each of us.
The reason for the paradox that these two ends of the spectrum cannot coexist lies in the fact that most people haven’t yet learned how to marry their own inner masculine and feminine. Most people are out of balance too far in one or the other direction.
When we want to learn how to fluidly move between our own inner intuitive wisdom within the secure container of structure, we have to learn how to integrate and use both aspects. Here is a great example:
What I’ve learned over the years with plenty of trial and error is that when we use the masculine container of structure = more freedom to flow and live intuitively within that container.
It’s very much like relationships. A man/masculine energy in the relationship brings in structure that allows the woman/feminine energy in the relationship to bring in the intuitive flow. This way we steer the ship/life/business together in unity and harmony
But here’s the thing: everyone is living according to a system. And every system is perfect for the result it gets.
Here’s how I do it. (I am still learning, also.)
I create a soft structure:
— My clients are automatically scheduled into my calendar two days a week that are carved out specifically for private clients.
— I have a practice where I outline a vision for the year and then every 3 months revisit it and refine and rewrite it.
— I work with the energy of the days of the week to give my weekdays are container within which to work in.
— I set monthly intentions for my work, my personal life and finances every New Moon.
— I write weekly ‘to-do’ lists that keep me on track.
— I’m incredibly disciplined and focused.
I leave room for flow:
— I have no set routines and no hard rules around what I must do and when.
— The only commitments I absolutely adhere to are the appointments with clients in my calendar.
— I use my IntuiMethod system to stay on track with how I feel and what I need on a moment-to-moment basis.
— I prioritise rest, nature, connection and love over “productivity” and recognise that a lot of the extra work we place upon ourselves isn’t effective and doesn’t create any results beyond feeding your ego with the notion that being “busy” means you are worthy and valuable.
— I let go of things, often and easily, over and over again.
What works is to use habits, routines, and structure to create a system for yourself that supports you in your dreams and endeavours (creating a masculine container) and then allowing the power of momentum and habits to kick in to make trusting your intuition the focus as you move through your life within your system.
The issue is that most people have learned to use structure and planning as a crutch, not to support their system and lives, but as a way to feel in control and micromanage the details because they haven’t learned to develop self-trust and trust in the universe and the bigger picture. Learning to relax into the unknown and hear and respond to the intuitive nudges that are with you all day long, opens up space for possibilities that you could never plan or imagine, to fall into place.
To understand this approach, join me for IntuiMethod: my 15-day course into living an intuitively-led life.
by Vienda | 15 Apr 2018 | Intuition + Manifestation
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I recently received a question from Anna in London, who asked: “How do you intuitively know whether a relationship is right for you, or going to work out since it involves someone else?” She went to on to explain that she really felt very strongly and even intuitively, that the relationship she was in was the right one for her, but then after a while, things didn’t work out.
I think there are a couple of things at play here.
- Is that intuition is not a means to control your life or to play it safe: tuning in and allowing your inner guidance system to lead you, doesn’t mean that life is going to be perfect and things are never going to go differently than we think ever again. In fact, our intuition is invested in our growth and is always guiding us to our highest expression of authenticity. And some time that means learning lessons that are uncomfortable.
- Is that we have been socially conditioned to believe that relationships have to last forever. We have all brought into the Disney princess idea of happily ever after because that’s what we have had modelled all of our lives. I don’t mean to say this doesn’t exist: it absolutely does, but not every relationship is going to follow that path, and so, just because you feel a strong intuitive feeling that you are supposed to be with someone, it’s good to trust that feeling because it’s true, but to release the future-tripping expectation around what the end story will look like.
So with both those concepts: 1. that your intuition is guiding your to your highest best self at all times and 2. that relationships are here for us to grow and learn and feeling strongly connected to someone is definitely a thread to follow, doesn’t mean that it’s going to last forever.
Instead, that person is in your life for a reason and a season, however long it might be. Trust your intuition to guide you to them, but also accept and let them go when the time together is over, whether that’s 20 minutes or 20 years.
You can intuitively know that you’re meant to be with someone, and allow yourself to have that experience, without expecting that this person is there forever. I have a really great example of this. Quite a few years ago, I fell head-over-heels in love with this beautiful man, and every cell of my body just said a huge YES about this relationship, though things didn’t quite go as I had thought. After a couple of months, I discovered that he had some pretty serious and debilitating addiction which were just not ok with me. I had to make the decision to leave the relationship despite the fact that I felt like this man was my soulmate, and I do still believe that he is. I learned some of the most powerful and life-transforming lessons and addressed some deep underlying shadows through my experience with him, that I desperately needed to learn and address. He was the catalyst for some huge growth in my life and without him, I don’t think I would have had access to that. In this perspective, he’s my soulmate (one of them) because he gave my soul exactly what I needed even though it didn’t look or end like a happily-ever-after love story.
So if you intuitively feel that a relationship is right for you, then that means that, right now, it is! Love and heartbreak are part and parcel of our journeys here on earth, they are what bring so much depth and breadth to our life experiences and not something to be avoided out of fear that things won’t turn out the way our logical minds want them to.
by Vienda | 7 Sep 2011 | Psychology + Soul
If you have ever wanted to get in touch with and strengthen your intuition, then Dr Judith Orloff can show you the way. Here a 5 steps to for intuitive healing:
Step 1: Notice Your Beliefs
Positive attitudes stimulate growth. Negative attitudes impede it. It’s important to rid yourself of counterproductive attitudes that you may not even realize you have. If you examine your beliefs, choose life-enhancing ones, you’ll create optimal wellbeing. No organ system stands apart from your thoughts. Your beliefs program your neurochemicals. I’m not suggesting that you be Pollyannish, but that you be completely true to yourself. This will free you from unconscious negative beliefs that can sabotage your healing.
Step 2: Be In Your Body
Your body is a complex and sensitive intuitive receptor. Most people in Western society are conditioned to live from the neck up, ignoring the rest of their body. This stance is counter-intuitive. I’d like you to shift that perspective-to enjoy your intellect but revel in your physicality as well. Being aware of the sensuousness of your body opens intuition. Then you’ll become more cognizant of early warning signs your body sends. womens health. This gives you a head-start on preventing illness, choosing healthy relationships, and avoiding detrimental situations.
Step 3: Sense Your Body’s Subtle Energy
We are composed of flesh and blood, but also of subtle energy. Chinese Medical Practitioners call it “chi,” a vital substance which penetrates the body and extends many feet beyond it. From an intuitive point of view, these vibrantly colored energy fields, whose centers are called chakras have a significant effect on our health. For that reason, it is important that we learn to sense this energy within us, recognize when it is off, and learn to correct the imbalance. Feeling energy can be very sensual, an extension of love. Learning to tap into your body’s energy is healing.
Step 4: Ask for Inner Guidance
We each possess an intuitive voice that contains answers about our healing. Because our intellect is often so loud, this voice often gets drowned out. It’s essential that we learn to access the stillness within–though meditation, quite contemplation, connecting with nature, prayer-in order to gain answers. Spend a few minutes each day devoted to listening to this voice. It may appear as a gut feeling, a hunch, an image, a sound, a memory, an instant knowing-as if a light bulb suddenly switched on.
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. Learn to trust the signals your inner wisdom sends.
Step 5: Listen To Your Dreams
Intuition is the language of dreams. Every ninety minutes each night during the REM stage of sleep, we dream. Dreams provide answers about health, relationships, career choices, any new direction. There should be no situations in everyday life when a few hours of difference in the drug intake can play a significant role. Learn more at https://summitps.org/antibiotics-online/. If such situation happens, the actions to resolve it should be carried out in a hospital, and probably with the help of other medicines. The secret is to remember them. I suggest keeping a dream journal by your bed. Before you go to sleep, ask a dream a question. For instance, “Is this relationship healthy for me or should I move on?” The next morning, write down any dreams immediately before getting out of bed. Try repeating the question, every night for the next week until your answer comes. As you develop the habit of remembering dreams, you’ll be able to benefit from this form of healing. As a physician, I have a continual sense of awe for the relationship between body and spirit. As your heart opens, so does your intuition. Your intuition will teach you how to see and how to love. It will instill in you a renewed faith to face anything.
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