your 100 favourite (of 700) articles

your 100 favourite (of 700) articles

your favourite (of 700) articles

Over the past 8 years, I have written over 700 articles on this blog. Every single one was a labour of love poured from the crevices of my heart, soul and mind. The world, and life, are changing, and so is the way I share my work and words with you.

I now reserve most of my writing here: all work-related and professional updates are in my newsletters, and all my personal cadence and musings on the mystery of life are found in my secret substack letter ‘kismet’.

Plus: I also have a podcast called re.define that you can listen to on Spotify.

Here are 100 of your favourite articles, essays, and stories from the last few years. They are organised by topic and then sequentially from newest to oldest. Enjoy!

 

YOUR #1 FAVOURITE

the love list

 

IF YOU NEED INSPIRATION

not ready

inside my closet

it’s time to live in integrity & the time is now

so much of life is optional, not mandatory

what was the hardest thing? & 10 other questions

a world is ending… breathe out. let it go.

5 ways to bring your love to the world

run, baby, run

3 questions to ask yourself to start a new life

10 tips on how to (actually) be feminine

devoted to self. (aka: my 3 spiritual practices)

the less we hold on to

19 ways to get out of the box and be a rebellious game-changer

read this if: your life appears perfect, but really it’s a big mess

manifesting is the paradox of wanting more and concurrently knowing that what you have is enough

whether you think there’s not enough money / jobs / men / etc, or not, either way you’re right…

please: keep your secrets, secret

she who makes her own fate…

what else can be done? [sobering words on a world filled with inequality]

intuition is seeing with the soul

for the men who say you are feminists

don’t expect to “know” or “understand’ everything. instead “be” the change

stop trying to fix people, + have boundaries, now

5 covert practices to protect your energy, for sensitive people

if you think you have to choose productivity over presence, in order to ‘make it’ in life, stop

read this if: you have been nervously struggling with ‘trust’ and want to take a leap of faith

are you one of 8% of all people?

 

RELATIONSHIPS

life as a single woman in her late 30s

it’s been 6 years since I spoke to my mama

on love, a resetting of bones & living a life that is truly my own

4 tips on how to find your people when you move to a new place

navigating the heart-wrenching path of transformation after ending a relationship

what happens when you outgrow a relationship

another kind of love

my father died when I was 10

love is not enough

here we are again

fall in love with being with YOU

you are not unloveable

how to love, and stay, even when it feels too hard

finding love. (part 3.) how to break a soul contract

 

 

HOW TO…

10 steps to figure out your ‘thing’

closing the loops [a ritual]

a simple guide to tarot for beginners

3 ways to make real Mexican cacao [chocolātl] at home

the advantages of over-sharing (aka: how to overcome shame)

how I use journaling to inform difficult decisions

what to do with all your old journals when they’re full and done

for when you are moving across the world and don’t know what to do with all your belongings

how I create my travelling capsule wardrobe

doing the shadow work: guilt, shame + fear

how to feel free, even when you’re not

read this: if life is total chaos, and you’re soooo ready to be organized

how to delve more deeply into your spiritual journey

how ‘going with the flow’ and ‘intentionally creating your life’ live side by side

how to pay better attention to the signs from the universe

how to get your sceptical partner on board the ‘woo woo’ train and other new beliefs

how to ask the universe for love

4 super-essential rituals you must do when you move house

how to make a ‘no-drama’ policy in your life

4 ways to forgive yourself when you’ve done things that you’re truly and deeply ashamed of

be lonely. learn to be alone. this is how you deal with loneliness

your guide to hand reading

 

 

PERSONAL STORIES

for fools and dreamers…

not on your timeline

my anima visited me…

finding HOME…

a year of breaking open

anything is possible

life, anew

don’t look back

strengthening my resolve

it is safe for things to be simple

waking in new places

2018 taught me what I don’t want

what is this liberation that I am seeking?

if I want to live a new life I have to sacrifice my old one

coming home

that time I crossed the border from Belize into Honduras with my soul-sister Lilly, with less the $1 USD, and ended up on a bus with 40 men who were being deported from a Mexican jail

 

 

ONLINE BUSINESS

why I don’t work on Mondays

3 best tips for starting a business when you have no idea where to start

how to combine structure (planning + systems) with intuitive living

my career story — how I got to where I am

how to systemize, manage and run an online business

discovering my purpose + career

99 sacred characters and symbols for you to copy and paste into your social media

how I hone in and focus on a specific project even when I have alllll the ideas

read this if: you have a tendency to go into overdrive and exhaust yourself, trying to make your dreams come true.

if you want to work on the road whilst rapidly wandering around the world…

 

HEALTH

how I overcame hormonal imbalances and adrenal fatigue

my turbulent journey with the copper IUD

how I’m dealing with my adrenal fatigue

my 5 favourite drinks for rehydration in the morning

HER WAY — The Women’s Business Training

HER WAY — The Women’s Business Training

HER WAY — The Women’s Business Training

 

Designed for the woman who wants to share her message and change the world.

 

Since the beginning of time, women have come together and redefined the landscape of life through their inner feminine wisdom like a force of nature. They did it through storytelling, collaboration, and community, with grace and ease.

 

Today, we return to this purpose, again. We create businesses as a vehicle for our message… in a new way.

 

I have spent years — 9 years to be precise — unlearning the rigid ways I’d been told would be the only way I could be successful. Being a woman, with a fluid, soft and cyclical way, bringing forth a way of business that is feminine, graceful, and true to my nature, means that I am often faced with a battle of old paradigms.

 

I had to risk the unknown and experiment with new ways of holding and running a business. I had to define my own meaning of success. I had to walk between fear of desolation and faith in my beliefs that business could be done differently. I am still learning, and I have come so far, designing this business as an extension of myself in a new way. Her way.

 

I know this is an enormous challenge for so many women.

 

We are in a time of great change and innovation. The old ways of running a business are disintegrating and we have a chance to replace them with something much more honouring of our cyclical, human, gentle natures and far more sophisticated.

 

You have to unlearn the strategies, and the linear, systematic approach to working, to surrender to the feminine trust-led, heart-led, intuitive, present, intentional way of creating and running your business.

 

The Women’s Business Training is a 5-week deep-dive into building a business model that is gentle, intuitive, and impactful. Across the five weeks, I will guide you through the exact steps, processes, systems, and strategies I use to share my visions, message, and heart with the world. And make good money from it, too.

 

 

Registration opens: Monday, August 1
Registration closes: Saturday, August 27
We begin: Tuesday, August 30

 

4 live calls are held every Tuesday at 6 pm BST
Europe: 7 pm CEST
Australia: 3 am AEST
USA: 1 pm EDT / 10 am PDT

 

Delivery: 5-week training

☽ Weekly live calls + replay
☽ Worksheets + applicable examples
☽ Online community

Cost: £200

limited spaces

 

 

[IMPORTANT: When you register, make sure you tick yes ✔ to receive emails otherwise you will miss the most important information. If you accidentally missed that step you can opt in to emails following these steps.]

 

 

Orientation Week: Tuesday, August 30
Training Call 1: Tuesday, September 6th at 6 pm BST
Training Call 2: Tuesday, September 13th at 6 pm BST
Training Call 3: Tuesday, September, 20th at 6 pm BST
Training Call 4: Tuesday, September, 27th at 6 pm BST

 

1. Principle foundations

  • Why women should be running businesses (and the world).
  • The secret of women thriving in business that most don’t know.
  • Choosing the message you want to share with the world.
  • The divine force that will move your business forward.
  • Setting the tone of your business.

 

2. Energetic systems

  • How to set your workday schedule.
  • How to stay motivated and disciplined with ease.
  • Handling the tasks that you’d rather avoid with joy.
  • Exactly what you need to do each day to create the impact you want.
  • How to set business aims and measure the results to guide you.

 

3. Pragmatic service

  • Develop your offerings, services, and products with love.
  • Understanding your value, setting your prices, and managing your money.
  • How to invite and share instead of manipulate and hustle to make sales.
  • Managing the highs and lows of inspiration and income.
  • How to deal with times of doubt.

 

4. Intuitive expansion

  • Expanding and growing your business and message.
  • Staying aligned with your integrity and inner wisdom.
  • Knowing what the next steps are as your business evolves.
  • Staying grounded, committed and true to yourself (in your own lane).
  • Finding a rhythm and flow that allows your message and business to be an extension of your life and you.

 

This training is a chance to build a business model that is aligned with your own nature. I aim to show you how you can run your business with more ease, in a more gentle way, giving more space to health, kindness, and taking care of yourself and others. I will show you how to address and transcend underlying fears and guilt.

I want to show you that things can be done differently. In a new way. Her way.

 

 

Registration opens: Monday, August 1
Registration closes: Saturday, August 27
We begin: Tuesday, August 30

4 live calls are held every Tuesday at 6 pm GMT
Europe: 7 pm CST
Australia: 3 am AEDT
USA: 1 pm EST / 10 am PST

Delivery: 5-week training

☽ Weekly live & recorded calls
☽ Worksheets, templates & examples
☽ Online community

 
Cost: £200

limited spaces

 

 

[IMPORTANT: When you register, make sure you tick yes ✔ to receive emails otherwise you will miss the most important information. If you accidentally missed that step you can opt in to emails following these steps.]

 

 

Kind words from past HER WAY women:

 

I’ve never been in a group before where I’ve felt this kind of energy from the group. I’ve been in other group programs and they have been nothing in comparison to this energy that I felt from HER WAY. I felt it was a reflection of your energy Vienda, that natural, beautiful energy that you have. What I loved about the calls was that they didn’t feel scripted or rigid. They felt like you were just sharing your stories and it felt amazing to be a part of and witness that energy. I’m so so happy that I was part of this group and was able to dip into this energy and also contribute to it. It was really an amazing experience and I just wanted to tell you, thank you for offering this opportunity to connect to so many incredible women that you have attracted into your own field. Just: thank you. Ines

 

Before taking HER WAY I felt as if I was swimming in air. I had a bucket full of dreams, ideas, and hopes, and it felt all too good and crazy to come true. After HER WAY, I feel like my aspirations and ideas are very much possible and needed in this world. I feel self-confident about my ideas and ready to take action. My favourite part was the weekly Live calls. The energy and learnings each week were huge. My biggest takeaway was that each person’s expression of their uniqueness is worthwhile and valuable for our world. Related to that, I took away that people are merely the channels of the bigger messages of the universe, which makes business ideas so much more meaningful to me now. — Nida

 

I loved learning that it is ok to not follow strategies and to go with what my inner voice or intuition tells me, even if I don’t see the whole plan and the process from the end until the outcome. And also, the idea of handing things over to God/ the Universe, etc. It was really great to have this different perspective, and I loved being a part of this program. — Teodora

 

The moment you said that you do not think we always need degrees for a certain type of work (a few exceptions of course) and that self-study combined with talent can be enough to create amazing outcomes for clients. I needed to hear that so badly, as I was a full-time doubter – always telling myself I cannot do this or that before I studied it. I loved the listening partnerships! It was so amazing to connect with a person I barely knew on a deep level right away. But my most favourite part was INSTINCT, as this course opened my eyes!!! I found my true strengths and for the first time ever, I have been honest with myself. I know now what I really enjoy doing and can finally build a business around it. I have already received two inquiries in the last week since setting up a new IG account – and I take it as a sign that I am in my element now. — Navina

 

I was so impressed at what a rich resource was created here. The summary notes from the calls are absolutely packed with such clear wisdom and insight and it’s all incredibly useful and applicable. My biggest takeaway or ‘aha’ moment was that it can be easy, and feel good, and it can look different for everyone, and I can trust that I know what’s best for my business at every level. Following the course was easy and simple. The content shared will add value to my life and business for years to come. The impact is enormous! — Emily

 

Before HER WAY I felt as if I needed to have certain goals completed to a very high standard before I could launch my business model. Now, I have a better understanding that entrepreneurship is a process and that my product will develop as I grow. I pivoted to focus on the essentials so that I can launch sooner. The 80/20 rule was revelatory and I already see it taking shape in my work. I manage staff and sometimes things don’t go as planned and I don’t want individuals to be hurt. If I conceptualize the universe as being in charge, I can see past the immediate situation. I can think in terms of the universe having a greater plan for all of us. — Michelle

 

Thank you for creating HER WAY. It has been an incredible month for me and the people you attracted are wonderful, loving, warm-hearted, kind, inspirational, powerful women. All a reflection of you. I talked with other women in the group and that we never have experienced such an uplifting and supportive group of women before. I am so so grateful to myself that I followed my intuitive feeling to take this course even if it felt silly at that moment – I don’t even have a business but still invested in this business training. Lol. It gave me so much value and I feel once I figure out my message I know how to proceed from there. — Liisa

 

Honestly, this course has taken me to some unexpected places. I signed up for it because I wanted to find some flow and ease in my work and to find “my way” of integrating all my interests and careers somehow. But some questions triggered me to go much deeper into myself and led to quite a deep, heavy inner work. Frankly, I found this quite exhausting, which was one of the reasons why I stayed mostly on the sidelines. But I also found it very exciting to see what came through from all the deep stuff! (More on that maybe someday 😉) Now I feel I have released so much burden and I can finally start to feel the flow and momentum of life. I also start to get a glimpse of what the integration in “my way” might look like. And above all, I feel I now have the necessary tools to navigate the changes that are coming into my business. So thank you.🙏 — Miho

 

Wow, HER WAY was simply magical, out of this world. Thank you, thank you from the bottom of my heart. The course and your wonderful teachings were a total breath of fresh air that my life needed right now – it was all so timely. I am navigating a period of huge change right now in every part of my life (career, relationships, ways of being & living) and it feels equal measures of exciting and terrifying. But HER WAY reminded me of my power, that I have limitless potential to create in this world and that following my intuition (however scary it feels) is my duty to the universe. I made a number of huge life decisions in March, and I’m not sure I could have made them had it not been for my journey through HER WAY, your empowering & refreshing teachings, and the supportive community. Everything just clicked. HER WAY was so much more than a course on how to run a business intuitively as a woman (which would already be profound enough). HER WAY was a whole way of life – challenging my deep belief systems.Aimee

 

why I don’t work on Mondays

why I don’t work on Mondays

why I don't work on Mondays

We don’t flailingly and aimlessly live and feel the way we do without reason. There are a whole host of influencers impacting how you feel, and what you do, every day. Your emotions, if you have slept, your last conversation, the sun, moon and stars, and the energy of the days of the week all play an essential role too.

 

One thing that we often overlook is that each day of the week brings with it a unique vibe, atmosphere and energy.

 

Have you ever wondered why Monday feels like such a drag? It’s because Monday is influenced by the Moon and the vibe is all about quiet introspection and being alone. But in our world Monday is the first day of the working week and we are expected to feel like we are full of beans (even when we are not).

 

You know how people get really excited about Friday? It’s not because everyone hates their job and wants to run around shouting “FRIYAY!” at the top of their lungs. It’s because Friday is influenced by the planet Venus and the vibe is all about excitement, socializing, beauty and romance. It’s upbeat energy compared to a low-key Monday.

 

Every single day of the week has a different vibe. And when you know how to harness the energy of the days of the week, and make them work for you, your entire life changes. Instead of pushing against the current, you’ll flow with it.

 

To make it really easy for you I’ve created a day-to-day PDF for you outlining the vibe of each day, and the do’s and don’ts so you can start living your life in tune with the natural cycles of each weekday. You’ll learn how to be happier, more productive, spontaneous and creative.

 

I want to work with the energy of the days!:

doing things a little differently…

doing things a little differently...

 

Two months ago, at the climax of a covid-induce fever, I decided to reclaim my life.

Determined to reprioritise the things that are most important to me: community, connection, time in nature, a sense of motion and movement in life, and creativity, I decided to go all-in, with the little things that are the backbone of life. Simple pleasures. And edit out the rest. I also decided to restructure my business.

Over the past 8 years, I have written 100,000’s words. Over 700 articles. 100’s of entertaining emails. I was published in books and blogs and magazines. All for free.

Writing is my lifeblood. It’s the one thing, I do every day, with great pleasure. It helps me know what I think. It acts as a neutral observer. It often acts as my therapist. If you ask me what I want to ‘do’ with my life, my answer is ‘to write’.

 

One month ago I began a long-form secret subscription letter called ‘kismet’. A new space where I could freely explore the mysteries of life and my personal fate via words to share with you. In that month, I have written 4 articles for you, each including an audio recording and guided journaling practise video at the end. You can read, listen to, and journal along with me, here.

All 4 of them are free.

 

I suppose, secretly, deep down, I have always wanted to be acknowledged as an artist. One that writes. Whose life centres around creative expression. And for that expression to be validated through an energetic exchange.

In a world of highly consumed, fast-paced social media so many of us creatives are exhausted from the energetic imbalances of giving more than is often adequately returned.

I am on an assignment to change that.

 

Late last week I turned the subscription into a paid one. From now on, all new articles (aside from some occasional public posts) will be for paid subscribers only. The subscription is £8 per month.

This gives me the freedom for unfiltered expression for those who truly want to be a part of this kismet world with me, and offers me the privacy to honestly write about everything I want to write about.

What you will receive each month is:

  • Subscriber-only posts, incl. audio versions, guided journaling prompts or videos and the full archive of past articles.
  • You can post comments, be a part of our intimate conversations and join the ‘kismet’ community.

 

That night I lay in bed submerged in the deepest gratitude that people want to pay for my art as the first few paid subscribers signed up and I just… cried. Tears of thankfulness, tears of disbelief, tears of relief to have the courage to do something that I’ve wanted for a long time. To be paid for my art.

I am so excited to continue this adventure with you. Thank you for being here. You can join the free or paid subscription to ‘kismet’ here.

 

To get a feel for my writing:

    • start with my blog and work your way through, or…
    • for the popular personal updates that inspired ‘kismet’, go here
    • for my musings on psychology, the soul and the human experience, try this
    • for all my best tips, tools and behind-the-scenes insights into the way I run my business, click here
    • for stories on body image, beauty, confidence and the random recipe continue here
    • for submerging yourself into stories on travel and freedom, go here
    • for my intimate explorations on love and relationships, go here
    • for all things intuition and manifestation follow along here
    • for all the books I’ve read and recommend, read here
    • to explore your creativity with me click here

 

Enjoy x

 

RENEW

RENEW

Renew

A 5-week live-led prescriptive journey to move through the chaos of reinvention.

 

Renew is about becoming radically aligned with what gives you pleasure and makes you come alive.
Permission to be unconventional and break with the traditions and old habits in your life that are outdated.
Getting radical asking for and stating what you need and then going for it. 

A process of teasing out what is most important for you.
And then living it.

 

Expect:
Expansion. Spirituality. Pragmatism. Relevance. Community. Connection. Change.


We want more because we are wanting. The longing comes from lacking something. The only way we know how to fill that wanting is through the means that our cultures and societies have offered us: new things, clothes, gadgets, relationships, experiences, and career successes.

Yet… we are still wanting. Still lacking. Still longing for something. Left not knowing how to fill ourselves up.

Renew is a chance to change that. 

It’s a journey to uncover your soul’s deeper longings beyond the superficial nature of our day-to-day worlds and dive into a subterranean realm that connects mind body and heart at the level of life being lived through you.

 

Together we will be redefining what we want our lives to look like.
It’s going to be entirely unique and individual for each one of you.
You will be bridging the gap between fear and doing what you’re made for.



RENEW

Registration opens: Monday 6th June
Registration closes: Sunday 3rd July
We begin: Monday 4th July

4 live calls held on Tuesdays at 6 pm GMT
Europe: 7 pm CEST
Australia: 5 am AEDT
USA: 1 pm EST / 10 am PST

Delivery: 5-week journey

☽ Weekly live & recorded calls
☽ Multi-media course
☽ Online community

PRICE £150

limited spaces

 

[IMPORTANT: When you register, make sure you tick yes ✔ to receive emails otherwise you will miss the most important information. If you accidentally missed that step you can opt-in to emails following these steps.]



I know that across the past year you’ve watched me pull back, change, lose my voice, and lose my sense of identity and belonging in this world. I became quieter, cautious, anxious and forlorn in a way I have never experienced before. Much of the time felt like a passive, semi-conscious incubus. I felt so disconnected from the world and from myself.

 

I withdrew and found myself grieving everything. Anything could make me cry. It was so difficult to be a human being and exist in the world for a good portion of the past year. I wanted to feel better do better be a generous open-hearted human and friend and creative person but there was zero capacity or even availability within me to do so.

 

Then one day about a month ago… I was done with my own bullshit. I’d had enough. I decided it was time to reinvent and reset and renew myself. It’s something I’ve done many times before but never as intentionally as I am doing it now. I know that many of you are on a similar trajectory.

 

The past two years have left an aftershock reverberating through us. The stress of not really knowing what was happening and nothing making sense left most of us reeling and grappling with new coping habits.

 

Now we feel vulnerable, unsteady, stripped of our prior confidence and bravado. Not only in ourselves but in the world we live in. And yet… we know… It’s time. We are ready for reinvention. We have an opportunity to recreate ourselves and our lives based on a whole new set of rules and values. We’ve grown matured, wisened, become more compassionate, de-armoured, sat with our trauma and felt it all so deeply.

 

Renew is a 5-week live journey to recalibrate ourselves, realign and make new choices for the rest of our lives that actually live up to what we truly value and care about. 

 


Orientation Week: Monday 4th to Sunday 10th of July
Meet your accountability partner; complete the prerequisite digital mini-course and groundwork and get to know your RENEW community.

 

SPACE — Live Call 1: Tuesday, July, 12th at 6 pm GMT
Your thoughts and emotions have to be in alignment to create real change.
Discover 
who you need to be and what you need to do to have the kind of life you actually want.
Know how to give yourself space and welcome silence to find the answers to live in integrity.
(And what that actually means.)

 

EDIT — Live Call 2: Tuesday, July, 19th at 6 pm GMT
What are you holding onto that’s taking up mental, emotional or physical space in your life and holding you back? 
Do a full life edit: How you dress, how you do your hair, your identity, who you spend time with your social media and digital relationships. Keep breaking down what doesn’t work so we can build something better.

 

AWAKEN — Live Call 3: Tuesday, July, 26rd at 6 pm GMT
Your invitation to your reinvention. An awakening of a part of you that has laid dormant or repressed for too long and to integrate your edits. Discover your life’s WHY and write a life statement to live in alignment with.
Have important meaningful hard conversations.
Generate hope for your future.

 

EXPAND — Live Call 4: Tuesday, August, 2nd at 6 pm GMT
Explore the integral steps that lead you into a brand new life.
Renewal is quiet, diligent work.
Q&A.

 

EARLY BIRD PRICE £100
(Full price from Friday 17th June: £150)

limited spaces

 

[IMPORTANT: When you register, make sure you tick yes ✔ to receive emails otherwise you will miss the most important information. If you accidentally missed that step you can opt-in to emails following these steps.]

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