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coming into full bloom

coming into full bloom

  When I was 11 years old I asked my mother when she felt like she had become a woman. She paused for a moment and replied that it had been after she had her first 3 children. "Does having children make you a woman?" I wondered aloud, mesmerised by the complexity of growing into my own womanhood. I can't remember what she said but I like to imagine it was something along the lines of "in some ways, but not in entirety".   I have been still a girl for most of my adult life, until the last few years where I find myself facing my own mortality. I turn 40 this year. It is a number that brings a smile to my lips because I believe these numbers are simply representations of the number of turns we have taking around our sun. I have lived an unconventional, whimsical kind of life, shirking much of the dogma, conditioning and expectations of traditional trajectories offering me the liberty to follow my own path on my own timeline. Guided by my personal and spiritual beliefs I am on a karmic journey that I have no control over aside from taking personal responsibility for how I show up and respond to life moment-to-moment.   It's a subtle thing that creeps up in you — terrifying at first but now it has...

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on love, a resetting of bones & living a life that is truly my own

on love, a resetting of bones & living a life that is truly my own

  Years ago, when I was nursing myself out of one of my most violent heartbreaks, I documented how I was feeling and what was happening each day. There is a month that I have saved in a Pages document ~ I must have been between journals of which all have since been burned ~ that I revisited today searching for some clues on my romantic patterns. Re-reading those words I wish I had been more detailed not in what I was feeling but what the pragmatic events that were making me feel this way were.   Love is and perhaps always will be a prevalent topic for me. Familial love. Romantic love. The love between friends. Spiritual love. The love for an animal. Self-love. Love is also my most ubiquitous teacher. My relationship with love is steeped in passion, mystery and suffering followed ultimately by transcendence and growth. It is my greatest pain and my deepest pleasure. Perhaps that is the cause of my fascination.   When I think about love, I think about how love is not just words or kindness. It's also respect, boundaries, care, consent, consistency, communication, vulnerability, honesty and so much more. The need to have messy compassion for myself and others as we waveringly walk our individual...

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moving on

moving on

☽ January Most mornings I wake to an aching heart. I place a hand sometimes both, over my heart and remind myself that I am love, that there is limitless love around me, that I am not alone. I'm not even sure anymore what I am mourning but there's an unbounded deep sadness in me. I just want it to end. I feel fragile, vulnerable and sensitive, there's a cynicism creeping in and I resent it. I want my innocence back.   I spend the weekends in London with one of my best friends. Her company and way of being are soul-and-heart soothing. I feel so safe and content when I am with her. She has recently gone through her own kind of heartbreak. We are healing side by side. I am so grateful for her.   There are fine lines collecting under my eyes and a frown that is becoming more permanent and I refuse to buy into the idea of ageing. I know I can rewire any belief system and I recommit to my own vibrancy and wellbeing. I ask my intuition what I need and devote myself to it. She says: Vitamin C, Zinc, Vitamin D, exercise every day, vegetables, eating light, passion, creativity, relaxation, harmonious relationships, honouring what I want and need. Most of those things I'm already doing. I start putting Castor oil...

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HER WAY — 7-Month Women’s Business Cocoon

HER WAY — 7-Month Women’s Business Cocoon

  ☽   Something really powerful shifts within when you decide to go for it. That inner voice gets louder and stronger and there’s no escaping the path that was paved for you. For me, it took letting go of trying to figure every single thing out in my life and giving over to a power greater than me. The more still I am, the clearer it all becomes. Our strength lies in the surrender. In believing so deeply that there is more out there for you. Because I promise there is, for each and every one of us. When you work smarter and keep creating the space for the most important work in your life — your praxis — you will be lead. It’s your job to listen.  praxis /ˈpraksɪs/ noun 1. practice, as distinguished from theory.   ☽   HER WAY — 7-Month Women's Business Cocoon The HER WAY — 7-Month Women's Business Cocoon is a praxis for women who are disillusioned by the old paradigm, structures, stories and narratives and willingly offer themselves over to something greater to unfold through their work. For ourselves and others....

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Trust-led, heart-led, intuitive, present, intentional…

Trust-led, heart-led, intuitive, present, intentional…

We are sitting on my sofa in Brighton. It's autumn, the leaves are turning crispier and we are playing @werenotreallystrangers when I pick the card that reads “What about me intrigues you?” I turn to her, curious about what she will say. She thinks for a moment and replied “How you run a business and stay so gentle and feminine. How do you do it?” “I have no idea..." I respond... "I’m not sure what you mean?”  Anna is a past client turned-friend and also my trusted business advisor. "The way that you run your business is not taught... Trust-led, heart-led, intuitive, present, intentional." She answers thoughtfully. "How do you do it?" I have to think about it. I don't have a roadmap or a blueprint or a concise linear answer. It's more of a feeling that runs through my body that I allow to guide me. Slowly I reply. "It's kind of simple, really. I have five specific guiding points that drive my business. They are: Creativity. My work has to be a creative outlet for me. I need to let the energy flow through me for my work to feel meaningful and worthwhile to me. Expressive. My work has to act as an extension of who I am. It is through the integrity of authentic self-expression that I connect to my potential clients...

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HER WAY — The Women’s Business Training — March 2021

HER WAY — The Women’s Business Training — March 2021

  Designed for the woman who wants to share her message and change the world.   Since the beginning of time, women have come together and redefined the landscape of life through their inner feminine wisdom like a force of nature. They did it through storytelling, collaboration and community, with grace and ease.   Today, we return to this purpose, again. We create businesses as a vehicle for our message… in a new way.   I spent years — 7 years to be precise — unlearning the rigid ways I’d been told would be the only way I could be successful. Being a woman, with a fluid, soft and cyclical way, bringing forth a way of business that is feminine, graceful and true to my nature, means that I am often faced with a battle of old paradigms.    I had to risk the unknown and experiment with new ways of holding and running a business. I had to define my own meaning of success. I had to walk between fear of desolation and faith in my beliefs that business could be done differently. I am still learning, and I have come so far, designing this business as an extension of myself a new way. Her way.   I know this is an enormous challenge for so many women.   We are in a time of great change and...

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Day 1! Let’s begin… 📝

Day 1! Let’s begin… 📝

  As the days get longer here on this side of the sphere — today we celebrate the return of the warmth and the increasing power of the Sun with Imbolc — I want to invite you to join me for my 28-day journaling challenge. We begin right now and it's free, with a new guided journaling practice released every day for the entire month of February at 6 am GMT on YouTube:   28 Days of Journaling with Vienda Maria.   When things are unsettled and uncertain around me as they have been I always return to my daily non-negotiables. Journaling is one of them.   Journaling informs so much of my life. As well as my creative writing, the way I run my business, how I relate to others — everything really! But it’s not a daily tracking system. Instead, it’s a way to connect the mind, body and soul and to discover what’s really going on beneath the superficial surface layers. Journaling helps me to find clarity, create resolution and make better decisions for a sweeter, kinder, more meaningful life.   There have been times in my life when I couldn’t afford therapy though I really needed it. Journaling filled that space and allowed me a way to hold those necessary painful conversations in a safe space. This...

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Acceptance will lead us through.

Acceptance will lead us through.

    Each person's experience of life last year was different. For some, it went on almost as usual. For other's life screeched to a shocking halt. Some found a comfortable balance point to navigate their way through it. Other's deeply grieved their past life, or the loss of loved ones, and had to learn to let it all go.   I received a lot of questions asking how to accept the grief and loss that comes from letting go and how to keep moving towards. How to stay grounded and remember that life is beautiful and this time is just a phase.   Heartbreak and the certain grief that accompanies all types of loss are inevitable in life. Sooner or later in...

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a simple guide to tarot for beginners

a simple guide to tarot for beginners

  There exists a very delicate line between the physical, tangible realm and the ethereal, energetic one. That’s what we humans are. Half of this earth, and half of the stars. We are under some kind of spell, not remembering, clawing our way through the misty confusion to find our way back home.   There are many practices available to bridge the everpresent space between the two worlds that we exist in. Breathing. Love-making. Following our instinct. Tuning in to the messages from the earth and cosmos by really listening. Foraging amongst the trees and grasses. Digging our hands into the soil. Journaling. Tarot.   My entrée into the world of tarot cards happened when I was 15 and received my first deck from a little spiritual shop on a road trip. It was the traditional Aleister Crowley one that came with a handbook. I wrapped it in a silk cloth and treasured it for years to come.   Tarot acts as a mirror. It offers us an insight into how our subconscious is evaluating and seeing the world in this present moment. Our interpretation of what the cards mean to us allows us to cross the bridge over to our higher-self. The healing that then occurs is through the clarity, the conversation between...

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a year of breaking open

a year of breaking open

  2020, in a poem: I flew 5,740 miles across the Atlantic ocean to a new seaside town I'd never lived in before and cried when I couldn't find a place to live midst pandemic until a stranger reached out with a little flat that's been my home for 8 months now. I withdrew from the world into my own creative imagination when the world told us to stay home. I held in my heart all those whose hearts were broken through losing loved ones, leaving loved ones, and letting go. I tightly squeezed everything I could out of every sunny day and every friendship and heartfelt connection. I gave myself grace in my business and in my life, not to create too much or expect too much, but just to be here, every day, and show up fully present with openness, tenderness and love. I grieved the loss of an old version of myself, the loss of a family I never really had, the loss of love in its many iterations across my lifetime and went back to therapy. I have been up and down mountains this year. My heart broke open over and over again. I questioned my existence for days on end wondering where I belong. I received a note from a stranger saying "you've been very much on my heart of late. you are wholly and resoundingly safe,...

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