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an end is a new beginning

an end is a new beginning

  I stuff Danger in his crate, hug my friend whose backyard AirBnB in Chichester I've rented for the past week and climb into my car. A soft low mist is hanging over the country roads as I drive towards Newhaven to catch the ferry across the English Channel. It's romantic, mystical, the perfect picture to leave this island with as I trade it for another.   Apprehension of the border crossings ahead leaves me feeling tense. There's an inner conflict growing within me, as I try to merge the version of myself that I have known from the past who would travel through the most questionable situations with complete grace and trust, and the version of myself now who feels overwhelmed and drained by the unpredictable uncertainty of the everchanging travel rules that make zero sense to me. I want to be cool, chill, at ease... but instead, I'm leaning into the subtle fear and trepidation reminding myself that whatever happens, it will be ok.   Boarding the ferry offers a welcome respite from my concerns. They check nothing as I leave the U.K. Even the security guard who is supposed to inspect my car asks me to open the trunk, takes one look and says "That looks very neatly packed, I'm not going to mess it...

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9 ‘Her Way’ Success Stories

9 ‘Her Way’ Success Stories

G’day - I’m Mel Lathouras, a singer, songwriter, coach, and founder of Fearless Singer. I help innately musical and creative people redefine their fear of singing, connect to their authentic voices, and make music. This year, I reached a turning point prompted by health concerns and a growing disdain for the mainstream education system and realized that I needed help to make Fearless Singer and my performing career full-time. Enter Her Way – the Women’s Business Training has been life-changing, it is no exaggeration. I have: doubled my business income by restructuring my coaching packages and pricing (and fully realizing my value) increased my email list with engaged subscribers by creating the Daily Singing Practice Routine opt-in. And this was just repurposing content I already had to solve the pain points around practising. started building my first online course – the Fearless Singer Jazz Club, which will teach aspiring jazz singers repertoire, style, and performance confidence. On a personal level, however, Vienda’s nurturing, wise and practical coaching style has given me more confidence as a female entrepreneur and performer. I’ve obliterated the word ‘hustle’ from my vocabulary. I know in my bones that I...

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13 series & films to inspire the HER WAY woman inside you

13 series & films to inspire the HER WAY woman inside you

  I find art, films and pop culture incredible at lighting the fire of my own desires within me. And what an indulgent way to motivate us to create change through our own inner compass and the work that we do in the world. If you are thinking about joining me for HER WAY, here in chronological order from the most recent all the way to the '40s, 13 series & films to inspire the HER WAY woman inside you   1. Self Made (2020), Madam C.J. Walker Equal parts an entertaining account of the first woman millionaire, and a sharp critique of the margins along which Black people endure in a long history of systemic racism and gender-based oppression. The first to be born free of her six siblings, Walker, born Sarah Breedlove, withstood the blows of familial betrayal and rancour competition to revolutionize Black haircare. Walker’s story is one of devotion, shifty ingenuity and absolute mettle against the backdrop of post-slavery racial and gender oppression. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yYDJvnDfB2w   2. Girlboss (2017), Sophia Amoruso Inspired by Sophia Amoruso's best-selling book, this series follows the rise of Amoruso's multi-million dollar fashion empire, Nasty Gal. Britt Robertson plays the...

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HER WAY — The Women’s Business Training — November 2021

HER WAY — The Women’s Business Training — November 2021

Designed for the woman who wants to share her message and change the world.   Since the beginning of time, women have come together and redefined the landscape of life through their inner feminine wisdom like a force of nature. They did it through storytelling, collaboration, and community, with grace and ease.   Today, we return to this purpose, again. We create businesses as a vehicle for our message… in a new way.   I spent years — 8 years to be precise — unlearning the rigid ways I’d been told would be the only way I could be successful. Being a woman, with a fluid, soft and cyclical way, bringing forth a way of business that is feminine, graceful, and true to my nature, means that I am often faced with a battle of old paradigms.   I had to risk the unknown and experiment with new ways of holding and running a business. I had to define my own meaning of success. I had to walk between fear of desolation and faith in my beliefs that business could be done differently. I am still learning, and I have come so far, designing this business as an extension of myself in a new way. Her way.   I know this is an enormous challenge for so many women.   We are in a time of great change and...

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not on your timeline

not on your timeline

  It's Sunday as I stand on a London Overground train between Hackney and Dalston, sardined by the most people than I have been in two years, my nose safely tucked into my own armpit to escape the humid wet-dog smell emanating in the carriage. I smile to myself about both being in such intimate proximity of other humans and the fact that, if things had gone to plan, I would have at that moment, been 1,222 kilometres south racing through France and into Spain in Punto-baby on a 24-hour visa.   But "not on your timeline," the universe said.   At the start of September, I do something out of character. I sit down and plan my trip to Mallorca. I write down dates and book ferries and hotels and mentally start packing my things. This is kind of fun, I think, I get why some people love planning. And that's it. I feel ready.   A few days later I receive a call from the lady whose flat I'm subletting. She tells me she is going to come to Brighton for 10 days to organise and pack some of her things, clean the flat, and handle the handover to a friend of mine that I've arranged to take over the sublet. Great! I say. Where are you going to stay? I am shocked and outraged as she tells me that she expects...

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where the extraordinary can happen

where the extraordinary can happen

  There are times in life where extraordinary things happen in an ordinary way and all the pieces of your life fall apart and then rearrange themselves like a cosmic puzzle piecing itself into place. The past week has been one of those times. I don't have answers but I'm trusting the path my heart is being pulled, the kismet tug I've lived my entire life by.   It's been 18 months since that pull brought me to Brighton, but it feels like a lifetime has passed here, living through the most unfamiliar oscillation of our current existence. These 18 months have had me see the world through new eyes. And fall in love with it in an entirely new way.   On one of the first sunny days in late June, sitting on the beach with a group of girlfriends, I turned to them and say "I have some news... I'm leaving Brighton at the end of September." Sad faces and well-wishings came with the question "Where are you going?" "I don't know yet... I have friends in France and Greece and Spain and Portugal I want to visit. I think if I go see them the answer will come. Somewhere sunnier and warmer". Mallorca, an island I've never been to, kept tugging at my sleeve.   13 sunny days in the past 3 months is the...

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my summer 2021 ‘best of’ reading list

my summer 2021 ‘best of’ reading list

  In Spring I promised myself: less technology, more books. I love reading, I can inhale words like a hungry caterpillar and delightedly find myself on adventures conjured up by creative minds with glee. So I cancelled my Netflix membership and browsed my rolling list of book recommendations to indulge myself with a Book Depository book-buying spree. Et voila: here's my summer 2021 'best of' reading list:   Circe Give me a daughter of Poseidon, one of the most beautiful nymphs in the sea, turn her into a witch on a deserted island and have her make love with the hottest of Greek Gods and turn men into pigs and you have got my heart. I feel such an affinity with this story, and beyond that, the emphatically magical storytelling of Madeleine Miller. I ended up thinking in her poetic prose for days after the book ended and I just wanted more. One of my intentions of this summer of reading was to find writers who really know how to use words to evoke depth and emotion so I may learn from them and anything Madeleine Miller delivers.   The Song of Achilles So much so I also read this one by her which is equally as mesmerising and fascinating because in this retold story Achilles is gay (and not a rapist...

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my daily 5-step routine for youth, beauty, spirit & mental health

my daily 5-step routine for youth, beauty, spirit & mental health

  Turning 40 plus being in a near-constant state of crisis the past 18 months means that my self-care rituals and routines have reached level 100. I always wished I had this kind of commitment and consistency to my self-care and if that's the only gift 2020 and 2021 have given me, then I am grateful.   Here is my (almost) daily 5-step routine for youth, beauty, spirit & mental health. On a 'perfect' day in this order, on an 'imperfect' day in a scrabbled version of this from morning to evening.   I am a morning person as long as I don't have to speak to anyone before 10 am. As in, I love mornings... slow, quiet, and alone. I know this is a luxury that many don't have, so if this self-care routine seems inaccessible, take what you can and leave the rest. Don't worry, I am enjoying it singularly on your behalf.   1. Check In I only know I'm awake because my body starts stretching its limbs out. As soon as I do Danger comes for a morning kiss and cuddle while I wrestle him out of the way to reach for my Daysy and take my temperature. I could really just track my cycle using my cervical fluid and moods/body symptoms but after 4 years it's an ingrained habit now. Then I close my eyes again,...

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my anima visited me…

my anima visited me…

  I've been 40 for 1 week, today. It's so strange, this counting lives lived by the number of spins we've spun around the sun. What if we counted, instead, maturity levels and wisdom and capacity to hold and heal the hard things and find love and joy in all the little things. Some people with 50 spins might get a rating of 15 and some with 17 spins might get a rating of 89.   The electricity in my seaside flat went out yesterday morning. Being a Sunday no one could come to fix it until midday today and so I spent 30 hours with my books and thoughts and watercolour paints and an evening writing by candlelight. I wish the electricity would go out more often. The quiet humdrum solitude gave me space for words: a new article, 3 poems, and some deeply insightful journaling came tumbling out of me bringing me a peace I had wished for because words from under pens and tip-tapping fingertips are the only balms that reach me under my skin.   My guiding anima visited me at 4 am this morning. She only comes every so often when I have things I need to know and hear, often after I have beseeched her for guidance in my waking life. Knowing that at 4 am I will listen without retort pinned down by the heaviness of...

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this is 40…

this is 40…

  There are two white hairs in my left eyebrow, eyebrows that I now get tinted every now and then to hide those white hairs. There are a couple of white hairs on my head and in my pubes but I don't mind those much. It's the two in that eyebrow that bother me. There are two frown lines between my brows from frowning over fervent words, over broken hearts, over bright sunshine, over things that frighten me, my entire life. There are soft lines next to and under my eyes as well but I like those. They feel genuine and vulnerable and raw. But the ones from frowning too often annoy me.   These simple mementoes that the human body is transient, that everything dies one day, that the blossom and bloom of life are followed by dissolution. The physical aspects are just one tiny part, I am so much more than what I appear to be on the outside, but a reminder of the physical decay in physical life on a physical planet. I think about death often. I always have. My moon is in Scorpio, it's in my human operating system, and also death has accompanied me from a young age, a cherished reminder to live each day well, fully, wholly, because tomorrow may not come.   What frightens me more than death is grief. Life...

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