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from blood to blood

from blood to blood

Dec 5 Finally, the blood is here and she is full and juicy and red and gushing. After a 47-day cycle, nothing is more satisfying. So much is coming up for me right now. About life and aliveness. About men and the masculine in my life. About polarity and equilibrium. I miss feeling wild and free and just ALIVE. I've become so domesticated the past 8 or so years. In order to heal the trauma and habitual fight-or-flight patterns I've had to slow down, create safety and self-regulate but at the expense of feeling that buzz of aliveness from the constant drip of cortisol — the only addiction still wired into my cells. I used to live one day to the next, totally absorbed in each moment in perpetual survival mode. It was exhilarated and I loved living in the emotional chaos of one adrenaline rush to another in the form of a lifetsyle that meant never being settled, feeding off uncertainty and danger, defying conventional society. I wanted to change. I chose to heal. I knew I had to stop chasing the chemical highs that were my normal from growing up in an unstable environment. Yet I mourn a version of myself and my life that was once my own. I feel complacent about my life. I feel rebellious and filled with rage at a...

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closing the loops [a ritual]

closing the loops [a ritual]

2021: Trial by fire.   Today, I am closing the loops. An energetic loop is the container of something that began that needs to be closed. A calendar year, a relationship, a trauma cycle, a life. These are all energetic loops.   2021 found me pulled under the current and tumbled in the backwash of a turbulent world that I had actively opted out of a long time ago. I held my breath and froze. I stopped dreaming dreams for myself this year.   I pulled back this year. I sat back on my haunches and allowed the currents of the world to wash past me while I waited. I plucked at the thorns in my heart and planted wildflowers in terracotta pots on a balcony that was not my own. I watched them grow and loved them through the shortest summer and their even shorter lifetime.   I was held afloat by the women in my life this year. Women who saw me and heard me when I felt I had nothing left in me. I hurt for a world that is unfamiliar to me and over and over I keep wondering if it had always been this way but I had not noticed while I was firmly living in a fairytale world of my own creation.   I drove a Fiat across 4 countries this year and learned to parallel park on narrow winding streets that lead...

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everything I know about fully owning my own power

everything I know about fully owning my own power

How powerful is it to know that you are the creator of your own life? It’s pretty profound when that fully lands.   Your intuitive ability to manifest your physical reality is based on your energetic sensitivity and intelligence. Everything that happens in the world is founded on the electromagnetic operating system. We are a part of it too, even though it is not something we can make sense of with our logic. This way of operating is subtle and beyond the basics of the physical realm. Yet we do it, every day.   One of the biggest transformations that happened in my life was when I realised I could consciously choose the perspective or “filter” through which I view the world. Not only did my tangible reality change, but my face and body even changed. One perception is overly critical, judgmental, separate from, and playing offence to the world as we experience it. Another perspective is appreciative, compassionate, inclusive of and acting as if this is all part of a master plan.   I started to pay attention to the innate ways that I interacted with the energetics, our electromagnetic operating system and came to develop a 6-step manifesting framework. Everything I have done, created, achieved,...

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an end is a new beginning

an end is a new beginning

  I stuff Danger in his crate, hug my friend whose backyard AirBnB in Chichester I've rented for the past week and climb into my car. A soft low mist is hanging over the country roads as I drive towards Newhaven to catch the ferry across the English Channel. It's romantic, mystical, the perfect picture to leave this island with as I trade it for another.   Apprehension of the border crossings ahead leaves me feeling tense. There's an inner conflict growing within me, as I try to merge the version of myself that I have known from the past who would travel through the most questionable situations with complete grace and trust, and the version of myself now who feels overwhelmed and drained by the unpredictable uncertainty of the everchanging travel rules that make zero sense to me. I want to be cool, chill, at ease... but instead, I'm leaning into the subtle fear and trepidation reminding myself that whatever happens, it will be ok.   Boarding the ferry offers a welcome respite from my concerns. They check nothing as I leave the U.K. Even the security guard who is supposed to inspect my car asks me to open the trunk, takes one look and says "That looks very neatly packed, I'm not going to mess it...

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9 ‘Her Way’ Success Stories

9 ‘Her Way’ Success Stories

G’day - I’m Mel Lathouras, a singer, songwriter, coach, and founder of Fearless Singer. I help innately musical and creative people redefine their fear of singing, connect to their authentic voices, and make music. This year, I reached a turning point prompted by health concerns and a growing disdain for the mainstream education system and realized that I needed help to make Fearless Singer and my performing career full-time. Enter Her Way – the Women’s Business Training has been life-changing, it is no exaggeration. I have: doubled my business income by restructuring my coaching packages and pricing (and fully realizing my value) increased my email list with engaged subscribers by creating the Daily Singing Practice Routine opt-in. And this was just repurposing content I already had to solve the pain points around practising. started building my first online course – the Fearless Singer Jazz Club, which will teach aspiring jazz singers repertoire, style, and performance confidence. On a personal level, however, Vienda’s nurturing, wise and practical coaching style has given me more confidence as a female entrepreneur and performer. I’ve obliterated the word ‘hustle’ from my vocabulary. I know in my bones that I...

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13 series & films to inspire the HER WAY woman inside you

13 series & films to inspire the HER WAY woman inside you

  I find art, films and pop culture incredible at lighting the fire of my own desires within me. And what an indulgent way to motivate us to create change through our own inner compass and the work that we do in the world. If you are thinking about joining me for HER WAY, here in chronological order from the most recent all the way to the '40s, 13 series & films to inspire the HER WAY woman inside you   1. Self Made (2020), Madam C.J. Walker Equal parts an entertaining account of the first woman millionaire, and a sharp critique of the margins along which Black people endure in a long history of systemic racism and gender-based oppression. The first to be born free of her six siblings, Walker, born Sarah Breedlove, withstood the blows of familial betrayal and rancour competition to revolutionize Black haircare. Walker’s story is one of devotion, shifty ingenuity and absolute mettle against the backdrop of post-slavery racial and gender oppression. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yYDJvnDfB2w   2. Girlboss (2017), Sophia Amoruso Inspired by Sophia Amoruso's best-selling book, this series follows the rise of Amoruso's multi-million dollar fashion empire, Nasty Gal. Britt Robertson plays the...

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HER WAY — The Women’s Business Training — November 2021

HER WAY — The Women’s Business Training — November 2021

Designed for the woman who wants to share her message and change the world.   Since the beginning of time, women have come together and redefined the landscape of life through their inner feminine wisdom like a force of nature. They did it through storytelling, collaboration, and community, with grace and ease.   Today, we return to this purpose, again. We create businesses as a vehicle for our message… in a new way.   I spent years — 8 years to be precise — unlearning the rigid ways I’d been told would be the only way I could be successful. Being a woman, with a fluid, soft and cyclical way, bringing forth a way of business that is feminine, graceful, and true to my nature, means that I am often faced with a battle of old paradigms.   I had to risk the unknown and experiment with new ways of holding and running a business. I had to define my own meaning of success. I had to walk between fear of desolation and faith in my beliefs that business could be done differently. I am still learning, and I have come so far, designing this business as an extension of myself in a new way. Her way.   I know this is an enormous challenge for so many women.   We are in a time of great change and...

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not on your timeline

not on your timeline

  It's Sunday as I stand on a London Overground train between Hackney and Dalston, sardined by the most people than I have been in two years, my nose safely tucked into my own armpit to escape the humid wet-dog smell emanating in the carriage. I smile to myself about both being in such intimate proximity of other humans and the fact that, if things had gone to plan, I would have at that moment, been 1,222 kilometres south racing through France and into Spain in Punto-baby on a 24-hour visa.   But "not on your timeline," the universe said.   At the start of September, I do something out of character. I sit down and plan my trip to Mallorca. I write down dates and book ferries and hotels and mentally start packing my things. This is kind of fun, I think, I get why some people love planning. And that's it. I feel ready.   A few days later I receive a call from the lady whose flat I'm subletting. She tells me she is going to come to Brighton for 10 days to organise and pack some of her things, clean the flat, and handle the handover to a friend of mine that I've arranged to take over the sublet. Great! I say. Where are you going to stay? I am shocked and outraged as she tells me that she expects...

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where the extraordinary can happen

where the extraordinary can happen

  There are times in life where extraordinary things happen in an ordinary way and all the pieces of your life fall apart and then rearrange themselves like a cosmic puzzle piecing itself into place. The past week has been one of those times. I don't have answers but I'm trusting the path my heart is being pulled, the kismet tug I've lived my entire life by.   It's been 18 months since that pull brought me to Brighton, but it feels like a lifetime has passed here, living through the most unfamiliar oscillation of our current existence. These 18 months have had me see the world through new eyes. And fall in love with it in an entirely new way.   On one of the first sunny days in late June, sitting on the beach with a group of girlfriends, I turned to them and say "I have some news... I'm leaving Brighton at the end of September." Sad faces and well-wishings came with the question "Where are you going?" "I don't know yet... I have friends in France and Greece and Spain and Portugal I want to visit. I think if I go see them the answer will come. Somewhere sunnier and warmer". Mallorca, an island I've never been to, kept tugging at my sleeve.   13 sunny days in the past 3 months is the...

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my summer 2021 ‘best of’ reading list

my summer 2021 ‘best of’ reading list

  In Spring I promised myself: less technology, more books. I love reading, I can inhale words like a hungry caterpillar and delightedly find myself on adventures conjured up by creative minds with glee. So I cancelled my Netflix membership and browsed my rolling list of book recommendations to indulge myself with a Book Depository book-buying spree. Et voila: here's my summer 2021 'best of' reading list:   Circe Give me a daughter of Poseidon, one of the most beautiful nymphs in the sea, turn her into a witch on a deserted island and have her make love with the hottest of Greek Gods and turn men into pigs and you have got my heart. I feel such an affinity with this story, and beyond that, the emphatically magical storytelling of Madeleine Miller. I ended up thinking in her poetic prose for days after the book ended and I just wanted more. One of my intentions of this summer of reading was to find writers who really know how to use words to evoke depth and emotion so I may learn from them and anything Madeleine Miller delivers.   The Song of Achilles So much so I also read this one by her which is equally as mesmerising and fascinating because in this retold story Achilles is gay (and not a rapist...

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