your 100 favourite (of 700) articles

your 100 favourite (of 700) articles

Over the past 8 years, I have written over 700 articles on this blog. Every single one was a labour of love poured from the crevices of my heart, soul and mind. The world, and life, are changing, and so is the way I share my work and words with you. I now reserve most of my writing here: all work-related and professional updates are in my newsletters, and all my personal cadence and musings on the mystery of life are found in my secret substack letter 'kismet'. Plus: I also have a podcast called re.define that you can listen to on Spotify. Here are 100 of your favourite articles, essays, and stories from the last few years. They are organised by topic and then sequentially from newest to oldest. Enjoy!   YOUR #1 FAVOURITE the love list   IF YOU NEED INSPIRATION not ready inside my closet it’s time to live in integrity & the time is now so much of life is optional, not mandatory what was the hardest thing? & 10 other questions a world is ending… breathe out. let it go. 5 ways to bring your love to the world run, baby, run 3 questions to ask yourself to start a new life 10 tips on how to (actually) be feminine devoted to self. (aka: my 3 spiritual practices) the less we hold on to 19 ways to get...

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doing things a little differently…

doing things a little differently…

  Two months ago, at the climax of a covid-induce fever, I decided to reclaim my life. Determined to reprioritise the things that are most important to me: community, connection, time in nature, a sense of motion and movement in life, and creativity, I decided to go all-in, with the little things that are the backbone of life. Simple pleasures. And edit out the rest. I also decided to restructure my business. Over the past 8 years, I have written 100,000's words. Over 700 articles. 100's of entertaining emails. I was published in books and blogs and magazines. All for free. Writing is my lifeblood. It's the one thing, I do every day, with great pleasure. It helps me know what I think. It acts as a neutral observer. It often acts as my therapist. If you ask me what I want to 'do' with my life, my answer is 'to write'.   One month ago I began a long-form secret subscription letter called ‘kismet’. A new space where I could freely explore the mysteries of life and my personal fate via words to share with you. In that month, I have written 4 articles for you, each including an audio recording and guided journaling practise video at the end. You can read, listen to, and journal along with me, here. All 4 of...

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RENEW

RENEW

A 5-week live-led prescriptive journey to move through the chaos of reinvention.   Renew is about becoming radically aligned with what gives you pleasure and makes you come alive. Permission to be unconventional and break with the traditions and old habits in your life that are outdated. Getting radical asking for and stating what you need and then going for it.  A process of teasing out what is most important for you.And then living it.   Expect: Expansion. Spirituality. Pragmatism. Relevance. Community. Connection. Change. We want more because we are wanting. The longing comes from lacking something. The only way we know how to fill that wanting is through the means that our cultures and societies have offered us: new things, clothes, gadgets, relationships, experiences, and career successes. Yet… we are still wanting. Still lacking. Still longing for something. Left not knowing how to fill ourselves up. Renew is a chance to change that.  It’s a journey to uncover your soul’s deeper longings beyond the superficial nature of our day-to-day worlds and dive into a subterranean realm that connects mind body and heart at the level of life being lived through you.   Together we will be redefining what...

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On Purpose [Free] Masterclass

On Purpose [Free] Masterclass

    “How can I find my purpose?”   I’ve been there. I spent endless hours searching, wondering, and “not knowing.” I wanted to discover my purpose so badly. I would journal, walk, think, vent, meditate, ruminate, and stress about it. On multiple occasions, I literally burst into tears of frustration.   Then one day… I realized that you don’t “discover” your purpose. You don’t “uncover” it. You don’t “find” it. You pick something that is meaningful to you and you do it. There’s no reason for you to be contemplating the cosmic significance of your life while sitting on your couch all day eating Doritos. Rather, you should be getting off your ass and discovering what feels important to you.   I don’t believe that people are looking for their purpose in life… As much as they are looking to find meaning and the feeling of aliveness in their life.   We revisit this question “what is my purpose” several times across our lives as we change and our...

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for fools and dreamers…

for fools and dreamers…

  There is a thick, sweet mist that hangs out in the early morning hours, heavy with the promise of heat ahead waking me up the past few days. The syrupy sensation rouses a concealed part of my brain remembering lives lived in hot, tropical climates from a small island in Fiji with only natives for 2 months, to university in FNQ in Australia to Thailand and Bali in Asia, to Goa and Kerala in India, to the jungles in Belize, Nicaragua, Costa Rica and Mexico.   For the past 10 days while recovering from this strange sickness I have been on a wildly psychedelic nostalgic carousel ride trying desperately to recall at what point I disconnected from my inner wildness. It was a compromise I had to make to function in the world in a way that lines up with the fragmented structures and rules that make up our society. I feel like I can't trust my own mind as I reminisce on a life that was etched into the fleeting momentariness of life with idyllic pleasure sidelining the challenges of never really knowing where I was going next or how I was going to make the money to exist in a world that requires currency.   I love making money. It's a fun, creative, expansive pursuit for me. Learning to handle my finances,...

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a new story

a new story

It began like this. I get back into bed. And shake and shake. It’s too much. I can’t stop. The C-test shows negative. On the third evening, the fever breaks. But during those feverish days and nights, something new emerges inside me — a powerful force asking me to reclaim my life. I had become complacent. I know it. Not in the basics like exercise and sleep and work, but in the subtler, more nuanced parts of life. The webbing that holds it all together. I felt a strong calling, unlike any I felt before. It was visceral and palpable. Two words kept rising up. More. And less. More of what makes life worth living. And less of drains viscous life force from me. After decades of living on the sidelines of modern society, only dipping in when and as I needed to, the past two years I had submerged myself in it entirely and as a result of having learned to barriers to protect me from the bombardment of information on how to have a morning routine, what 11-step beauty routine to follow, and that women's empowerment is all about making more money I had lost myself. On the fourth evening, I delete my emails from my phone, mute everyone on Instagram and promise myself not to return to the space until I am anchored in the...

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I get back into bed. And shake and shake. It’s too much. I can’t stop.

I get back into bed. And shake and shake. It’s too much. I can’t stop.

  Today began as a usual Monday morning… I awake with my furry lover curled in the crook of my knee, kiss him good morning and open the terrace door to let him out. In the bathroom, I remove my aligners, scrape my tongue wash my face… and then crawl back into bed. Half an hour later I awake again. Strange, I think, that never happens.    I move to the kitchen and fill the kettle with filtered water to prepare my morning hydration: 450 ml of warm fresh lemon and ginger. While the kettle boils I stretch. Left, right, hip circles, spine rolls. I’m feeling a little achy.    I take my lemon and ginger to the sofa and start my face yoga routine. The glands by my armpits ache a little. I massage them to activate the lymphatic system. I work my east up my chest neck and face and then prepare breakfast. Fresh strawberries with natural yoghurt and green tea. My body continues to feel achey so I dance, gyrate, stretch some more and then sit down to work.    Inbox zero and most of my DM’s replied the aches seem to increase. I try some more movement practices but nothing helps. I sit down to begin work on some copy for one of my programs but my body won’t comply. The aches turn into shakes and I realise...

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from the twilight

from the twilight

  Imagine...   Walking into a thick, tall pine forest. With each step, the trees grow denser and slowly start to block out the sunlight until it is almost entirely dark. A constant twilight descends. It is neither day nor night. I am neither fully here nor elsewhere. I am half awake half asleep. Half broken half whole. Half grieving death half reaching for life.   I start to stumble unable to see where I am going. A subtle panic advances escorting every step. Memories... memories from the many lives I've lived in the past 40 years, distress from the many hurts I've felt the past 40 years, regrets from the many mistakes I've made in the past 40 years... rise up and humble me. All the things I had left untouched, unresolved, unanswered, unwitnessed, unacknowledged haunt me.   I cry for 18 months until there is nothing left to cry about. I forgive all I had shared pain in, atoned the regrets and felt the ravages left by a lifetime of bypassing the extremities of my humanity. The path through the forest, still in that twilight half-darkness, beckons me to continue despite the many junctures at which I question my sanity, my life, my purpose, my place in the world and everything I had once thought...

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last chance (TMT 2022) 🔚

last chance (TMT 2022) 🔚

Over the past month, I have been sharing pieces of my heart and soul with you as an invitation to the next extension of the work that I am doing. After 8+ years of working with, teaching and mentoring 1,000s of souls, I am offering you a methodological insight into the workings of how I do it. The Mentor Training program closes enrolments at midnight tonight. This is your last chance. Across this very creative period of time, I have shared my perspective, context and the many journies I have been on, that have led me to this moment here. Let me reiterate them for you. Just in case you missed one, or want to reread another. I was fired by my first therapist / How I learned emotional fluency — a story that led me to really understand how to communicate with an open and vulnerable heart, and thereby create space for those around me to do the same. it’s time to live in integrity & the time is now — a short excerpt from an email I sent to a private client. I had a feeling that someone else, maybe you, needs to read these words too. come together — I am on an assignment to reclaim this sense of coming together. Teaching, learning and growing together, both in the physical world and in the digital. We live in a time...

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reading between the lines

reading between the lines

  You are bridging the divide between the seen and unseen. You, and our world, are made up of empty space filled with energy. Energy that whirs and vibrates and pulses in a symphony of responses to each holy instant. To now. And now. And then now, again.   Cosmic rays, high-energy intelligence from outer space smacking into our atmosphere shower down on the surface of the Earth and pass through you at a rate of about 10 per second informing and causing subtle mutations in all of us.   There is so much happening within and without us.   Subtle, nuanced, ethereal energetic shifts that our neural pathways can only catch as a side glance and our mother-tongue languages miss altogether. But it is here. An inner knowing, a constant wide awake and watchful awareness for these mysterious that we are born into bone and flesh of.   When you are interacting with another, you are offering them an opportunity to interpret their personal reality — how they have been shaped and defined — through the mirror of your presence and Being. One energetic sequence activates and reflects another. A relationship holier than words but defined by the limitations of communication.   Unless...   You have...

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