so much can change in 20 seconds

so much can change in 20 seconds

so much can change in 20 seconds

It takes 17 seconds for a thought to take on an entity of its own.

My meditation teacher said this morning. Every morning since the start of the year I have been meeting her and a group of others at 8 am to meditate together to change the frequencies in our bodies so that we get out of our damn way.

When you focus on a thought for 17 seconds, you activate the vibration of the thought. And when you focus on a thought for 68 seconds, the vibration becomes powerful enough to manifest itself in real life.
She says.

We do 20 minutes of focused awareness each morning, just to be sure.

 

Time.

Focus.

Awareness.

These are the tools of our human supernatural sorcery.

How we choose to spend our time becomes central to our life.
Where we put our focus grows, expands and evolves as if focus itself is the water to a seed.
What we bring into our awareness commands the perspective we have in each experience.

 

I have not been shy in sharing that life, as I was experiencing it, has challenged me for the past 18 months or so.

The tipping point occurred when, one day in mid-October 2021 as I was preparing for my journey to relocate to Mallorca, I suddenly felt a sharp spasmodic pain run across the left side of my lower back that brought me to my knees and down onto the floor. I lay there, frightened and confused until the pain subsided a little and found that I could not stand up. Slowly, awkwardly, crawling on hands and knees, I ungracefully threw myself on the sofa. I found that, if I laid on my back, completely still I would be ok. Any movement however would trigger the sharp pain again. It was excruciating.

Terrified, immobile and alone I did what I could. I crawled to find some ibuprofen to ease the pain. I cancelled my meetings for the rest of the day. I booked an osteopath for the next day. And for the days following, I saw as many holistic specialists as I could. I would try anything, throw everything, at this painful problem.

 

It jolted me in such a way that I felt like I couldn’t trust myself nor my body, or my thoughts and I felt fearful, doubtful and full of anxiety. Everything I did was suddenly coupled with catastrophic thinking.

Catastrophic thinking, also known as catastrophizing, is irrational thinking that may cause you to assume that adverse outcomes will occur. Catastrophizing is a way of thinking known as a cognitive distortion.

This incident haunted me with continuous occasional recurring back pains, though never as severe, and long-term mental health symptoms that made it hard for me to enjoy the world and my life with the pleasure and optimism that had been natural to me before.

I felt broken and helpless.

Of course, there is more to that story. The back injury and resulting cognitive distortion that I experienced were a snowball response to many other things. Things we lived through, together. A decisive change in our world, the loss of freedom to move about and travel as we wished, coupled with uncertainty and lots of opposing messages begin flung around. Amidst the external chaos, I was forced to face and handle some of my own relational and familial trauma that I had suppressed and spiritually bypassed. Plus, I had a whole lot of emotional maturing to do, and it was not happening without meeting some hard truths and disappointing realities. 

I moved to Mallorca, a shell of myself but with all the tools (and a lot of impatience) to return to wholeness. It took:

Time.

Focus.

Awareness.

This morning, I woke up early… before my natural waking time between 7 am and 7.30 am. I don’t know what time it was. I leave my phone outside my bedroom. But I guesstimate sometime between 4.30 and 5.30 am. This happens whenever the spirits want me to listen and know I’ll be too sleepy for my ego to get in the way at that time.

Connect with your heart. Pour your attention and focus on your heart. Listen to what she has to say. They told me.

I placed a hand on my heart and kept my attention on her, delicately and gently, so the nuanced and subtle messages can make their way through. She told me what she wants. And that she wants me to ask for more than I have so far. I promised her to listen always and forever and reminded her that she will eternally be my guiding force. At some point, I drifted off and woke up again minutes before my 8 am mediation group was about to start.

 

As I went about my day today, I noticed a significant shift. I felt trust again. Trust in life, trust in my body, trust in myself. I felt a soft, warm pulsing emenating from my heart and wrapping me in love and comfort. I felt safe existing in the world without trying to protect myself with catastrophic thinking. I felt joy from the simple act of existing. I remembered how good it feels, just to be.

I quietly in my mind and heart, celebrated arriving here, finally, after so many gruelling months of throwing all my psychological, physical and spiritual tools at everything that was arising for me.

As difficult as this time has been, it has also been full of gifts.

 

— I learned what I truly need as a human being and a woman in this world, and to prioritise meeting those needs, above all else.

— I developed a deeper level of understanding and compassion for human suffering as well as a stronger discernment of things that I am not available for.

— I became dedicated to permitting myself to feel all those sloppy, grating, messy and dramatic emotions that wanted to make their way out of my body and thereby transcended the emotional maturity I had until now, to a point where I understood and could hold space for so much more than ever before. In myself and others.

— I started to acknowledge that if I wnated to continue in this line of work I was going to need help and to allow myself to be supported and my team grew beyond the occasional contractors I’d hire from 1 to 3 people.

— And it led me to develop the leading edge body of work, which is a fusion of all my education, my childhood challenges, and my career working with private clients and teaching groups bt in person and online into The Mentor Training.

 

It is something so unique, and so needed in the world, that it already holds its energy and magnetism. I ran it for the first time across 8 months in 2022 and enrolments have just opened up for the 2023 training on Monday. We’ve already ushered a few new students into our space and cannot wait to welcome the rest of you. I would love you to check it out and feel into whether this is something that calls to you.

Remember, your heart will always guide you.

 

Thank you for being here with me, as I somewhat unskillfully navigated the past year and a half. I did my best. And I am human and sometimes make mistakes. This period has taught me a lot and I sit here today tapping at these keys to send this transmission out to you with so much gratitude in my heart. For the journey. For the struggles that brought me to my knees. For the opportunity to grow. For my community, here. For you. For the ability to feel joy. For all of it.

 

These writings originate from my occasional (usually every couple of weeks, sometimes less, sometimes more) free email subscription. I like to save the best of me for this space that is so precious to me. If you would like to read more of these types of musings and transmissions, I encourage you to subscribe.

 

goodbye 2022

goodbye 2022

working titles: this is it / my reclamation / goodbye 2022

Some years are like being caught in a plunging wave that at first, beckons you with a playful curl and then, drops you into the frenzy of its internal tumble, before spitting you out against the sandy ocean floor with violent speed, leaving you floundering, fighting against the ocean’s mighty force to reach the surface and urgently fill your lungs with air. Over and over again. That was this year for me.

2022 has taught me to navigate the waves of life as a surfer does. With equal parts hope, determination, resilience and surrender.

I learned that I have more strength and capacity than I ever thought. It taught me a level of emotional maturity that was new to me that helped me handle the knockdowns. It gave me opportunities I didn’t know I wanted. It asked me to reclaim my life as my own. As a woman and a human in this very strange cosmic experiment that we call life.

 

My most recent piece of writing was about how when the question ‘what would make me feel good?’ isn’t big enough anymore, the question ‘how does life want to be expressed through me?’ replaces it. Read the article here.

 

In 2023, I am:

  • Splitting the forward-facing parts of myself as A Person On The Internet into 3.
  • Holding the inward-facing parts of myself close so they can rest in the chaotic mystery and intelligence of life. What that means is that my work is coming to rest in 3 separate specific fields instead of being all these other pieces at once.:

 

1. ‘Vienda’ as my personal brand. It always has been a personal brand in many ways, but I felt like I had to stunt and martyr parts of myself in order to be recognised as a professional in my field(s). It made me sad that I felt like couldn’t share myself fully, including how silly I actually am behind closed doors or how much I love clothes and fashion (almost exclusively second-hand because I believe in sustainability and new is never the answer) or how playful I am because, aside from being playful, I also want to talk about the truth of things which include difficult and confronting topics. I was afraid that too much playfulness would take away their weight and meaning. This part of my work will continue evolving, here in my emails to you, in all of my articles, in my writing over at ‘kismet’ and on Instagram.

2. Plannher as my first and so far only product brand heralding a new intuitive and gentle approach to planning, specifically designed to encourage one’s feminine nature, coupled with journaling practices for holistic, self-reflective, and introspection-informed growth and happiness. My COO Stephanie and I have big dreams and visions to see Plannher reach more people and the tools to be far more accessible across the globe.

3. The Mentor Training as the extension of my psychology, mental health and embodied healing background which aims to be the world’s most accessible and leading-edge training for people to help people by changing how we think about leadership and community while enhancing world peace through self-knowledge, compassion and tools for growth and change.

As of this morning, the website is as complete as it can be at this point, and I would love you to check it out, even if to let me know if we’ve missed any spelling errors (despite combing every page 100 x I’m sure we have missed something somewhere 😅) or haven’t been clear enough.

If becoming a trained mentor is of interest to you, I strongly advise you to join the waitlist, as those on that list will receive a very generous special offer valid only for 10 days from when enrolments open on Monday, January 2.  Please peruse The Mentor Training website here. 

 

Before I close this chapter and this calendar year with you, I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart with the deepest gratitude for all your support, kind words, marvellous replies to these emails, solidarity during challenging seasons, and outpouring of generosity I receive from you, so very often.

You being here with me brings me the community and sense of belonging that I have always wished for.

Thank you. Until next time.

Love,

Vienda

 

P.S. I promised some of you I would write a full list of the lessons I’ve learned in 2022, but there’s no more room for those in this transmission, so here are 3 of the biggest, with an exhaustive list due, in the new year:

3 of my biggest lessons this year:

1. Regardless of what we say, ultimately it’s our energy and integrity that matters. If actions thoughts and words are not in alignment, it creates cognitive dissonance, a fragmentation of the mind, body and soul and the things you say you want in your life can never arrive. Because you are out of alignment with them.

2. How beautiful it is for the understanding to fully land with you that you don’t need to chase things, prove your worth, or run to be seen, loved or validated. That actually, the more you recognise your value, worth and Beingness the more the world reflects all that back to you.

3. You can only become whole by seeing the parts of yourself that you don’t really love and staying with them until you find understanding and compassion for why they’re here. And then being really sweet and loving with yourself because you realise they come from an innocent place. That’s how their charge transforms from a burden to a gift.

 

how I manage my time ⏳

how I manage my time ⏳

how I manage my time ⏳

This is originally from my newsletter, so if it inspires you, please subscribe to receive future articles of the same ilk.

You have to realise there are two types of people in the world.

Half of us thrive from consistent routines and structures, and half don’t. Neither one is better. You have to know what you are running with and map your life out accordingly. I have an entire free self-study course dedicated to figuring that out called ‘Pause & Pivot’ that you can take right now. And if you belong to the half that thrives from less structure and more from frenetic free flow…

Then you are like me.

In human design, they use the term ‘consistently inconsistent’ for people like me. If the upper left arrow in your chart points to the right then you are a person who thrives when you have the freedom to do things in a different order every day. You will likely struggle to adhere to consistent routines.

And that’s ok!

 

When I share my day-to-day on social media, I often am asked how I manage my time. I promised to share my system.

I live my life adhering to my values, which, if you have watched ‘Pause & Pivot’ you would know are truth, freedom, beauty and love.

 

And the way I manage my time is that I make time for what matters most.

I never wanted to live a life filled with external definitions of success, hustle and bustle, determined by social standards that do not align with my own personal beliefs that are grounded in a life that is well lived.

 

I have the luxury of space and time and the resolve of how I use that space and time.

I have the luxury of space and time, not only because I am lucky and privileged, but mostly because I chose to make those markers of a life well lived. To make them a priority. Because space and time nourish me. I am better, kinder, more productive, creative and compassionate, and aligned when I have ample space and time. I need unscheduled space and time to fluidly allow the tasks I have set for myself to be completed.

Space and time are the major elements of a person who navigates life as consistently inconsistent.

 

There is a system to this.

Firstly, I reverse engineer. What do I want to be, do and have across the next year?

Secondly, I break it down into 6 months, 3 months, 1 month, and weekly in my Plannher.

 

Finally, I have 3 key areas of life I want to meet each day because they make me a better, kinder, happier human.
There are specific things that fill those 3 areas.

A) Physical

  • one of or a combination of yoga, walking, pilates and swimming
  • direct-to-skin Vitamin D in the form of sunshine
  • nourishing my body with at least 2 good meals
  • face yoga or face massage
  • LED red light therapy
  • physical touch
  • stretching
  • breathing
  • dancing
B) Emotional + Spiritual
  • time spent connecting with others
  • time spent in contemplation
  • being in nature
  • inner listening
  • meditation
  • journaling
  • reading
C) Intellectual + Creative
  • both personal and content writing
  • creating content for marketing
  • delivering course content
  • creating leads for sales
  • private client sessions
  • teaching live classes
  • managing my team
  • administration
  • making offers
  • painting

 

Every day, I choose elements from those 3 lists to devote my time to. How and when I do it is fluid. I don’t care much about the structure. I care about the results. The when and how, change with the seasons, with my mood, with the energy I wake up with that morning (sometimes more in masculine/yang energy, others in more feminine/yin energy), where I am at in my cycle.

 

Recently, with the onset of winter, I have found that my mornings are slower than they used to be, that I need to spend time in the sun between 11 and 2, and that I am most productive from 3 pm. I pay attention to these subtle changes and adjust to them, rearranging my meetings and commitments to better sustain my natural rhythm. I am devoted to living life with and in the inclusion of the ebbs, flows and seasons that we move through rather than in restraint or resistance of them.

 

Based on my earlier reverse engineering there are certain things that have to happen by the end of each week to meet my aims, hopes and dreams. I am fully intrinsically motivated and wholly trust myself to complete them and that they will always happen in their own flow. I simply choose to align myself with that flow.

 

I do that by making the pieces in columns A and B a priority, knowing when my cup is filled from those parts of my life C will easily be an extension of those.

 

More often than not, I can do things in a crossover pattern. For example, I can go dancing and connect with people. I can walk, be in nature and be in quiet contemplation at the same time. I can manage my team and have connections with them. I can spend time in the sun and read or journal. I like to double or triple up on things — mindfully and with presence — when I can.

 

When I first started my business I had not yet learned about nervous system regulation and lived off a heady cocktail of cortisol and adrenaline that felt like exhilaration which had me rushing through tasks at full speed. After almost a decade in the personal development field, I’ve come to know that there is nothing as valuable in life as reclaiming your life.

 

  • Nothing is as time-sensitive as my well-being.
  • Everything will get done at the perfect time.
  • Urgency is a seductive illusion.

 

I teach all of this in my courses, and with my private clients in both personal and business mentoring. I have a few spaces available at the moment. If you feel the call, contact me and tell me a little bit about yourself.

 

your 100 favourite (of 700) articles

your 100 favourite (of 700) articles

your favourite (of 700) articles

Over the past 8 years, I have written over 700 articles on this blog. Every single one was a labour of love poured from the crevices of my heart, soul and mind. The world, and life, are changing, and so is the way I share my work and words with you.

I now reserve most of my writing here: all work-related and professional updates are in my newsletters, and all my personal cadence and musings on the mystery of life are found in my secret substack letter ‘kismet’.

Plus: I also have a podcast called re.define that you can listen to on Spotify.

Here are 100 of your favourite articles, essays, and stories from the last few years. They are organised by topic and then sequentially from newest to oldest. Enjoy!

 

YOUR #1 FAVOURITE

the love list

 

IF YOU NEED INSPIRATION

not ready

inside my closet

it’s time to live in integrity & the time is now

so much of life is optional, not mandatory

what was the hardest thing? & 10 other questions

a world is ending… breathe out. let it go.

5 ways to bring your love to the world

run, baby, run

3 questions to ask yourself to start a new life

10 tips on how to (actually) be feminine

devoted to self. (aka: my 3 spiritual practices)

the less we hold on to

19 ways to get out of the box and be a rebellious game-changer

read this if: your life appears perfect, but really it’s a big mess

manifesting is the paradox of wanting more and concurrently knowing that what you have is enough

whether you think there’s not enough money / jobs / men / etc, or not, either way you’re right…

please: keep your secrets, secret

she who makes her own fate…

what else can be done? [sobering words on a world filled with inequality]

intuition is seeing with the soul

for the men who say you are feminists

don’t expect to “know” or “understand’ everything. instead “be” the change

stop trying to fix people, + have boundaries, now

5 covert practices to protect your energy, for sensitive people

if you think you have to choose productivity over presence, in order to ‘make it’ in life, stop

read this if: you have been nervously struggling with ‘trust’ and want to take a leap of faith

are you one of 8% of all people?

 

RELATIONSHIPS

life as a single woman in her late 30s

it’s been 6 years since I spoke to my mama

on love, a resetting of bones & living a life that is truly my own

4 tips on how to find your people when you move to a new place

navigating the heart-wrenching path of transformation after ending a relationship

what happens when you outgrow a relationship

another kind of love

my father died when I was 10

love is not enough

here we are again

fall in love with being with YOU

you are not unloveable

how to love, and stay, even when it feels too hard

finding love. (part 3.) how to break a soul contract

 

 

HOW TO…

10 steps to figure out your ‘thing’

closing the loops [a ritual]

a simple guide to tarot for beginners

3 ways to make real Mexican cacao [chocolātl] at home

the advantages of over-sharing (aka: how to overcome shame)

how I use journaling to inform difficult decisions

what to do with all your old journals when they’re full and done

for when you are moving across the world and don’t know what to do with all your belongings

how I create my travelling capsule wardrobe

doing the shadow work: guilt, shame + fear

how to feel free, even when you’re not

read this: if life is total chaos, and you’re soooo ready to be organized

how to delve more deeply into your spiritual journey

how ‘going with the flow’ and ‘intentionally creating your life’ live side by side

how to pay better attention to the signs from the universe

how to get your sceptical partner on board the ‘woo woo’ train and other new beliefs

how to ask the universe for love

4 super-essential rituals you must do when you move house

how to make a ‘no-drama’ policy in your life

4 ways to forgive yourself when you’ve done things that you’re truly and deeply ashamed of

be lonely. learn to be alone. this is how you deal with loneliness

your guide to hand reading

 

 

PERSONAL STORIES

for fools and dreamers…

not on your timeline

my anima visited me…

finding HOME…

a year of breaking open

anything is possible

life, anew

don’t look back

strengthening my resolve

it is safe for things to be simple

waking in new places

2018 taught me what I don’t want

what is this liberation that I am seeking?

if I want to live a new life I have to sacrifice my old one

coming home

that time I crossed the border from Belize into Honduras with my soul-sister Lilly, with less the $1 USD, and ended up on a bus with 40 men who were being deported from a Mexican jail

 

 

ONLINE BUSINESS

why I don’t work on Mondays

3 best tips for starting a business when you have no idea where to start

how to combine structure (planning + systems) with intuitive living

my career story — how I got to where I am

how to systemize, manage and run an online business

discovering my purpose + career

99 sacred characters and symbols for you to copy and paste into your social media

how I hone in and focus on a specific project even when I have alllll the ideas

read this if: you have a tendency to go into overdrive and exhaust yourself, trying to make your dreams come true.

if you want to work on the road whilst rapidly wandering around the world…

 

HEALTH

how I overcame hormonal imbalances and adrenal fatigue

my turbulent journey with the copper IUD

how I’m dealing with my adrenal fatigue

my 5 favourite drinks for rehydration in the morning

HER WAY — The Women’s Business Training

HER WAY — The Women’s Business Training

HER WAY — The Women’s Business Training

 

Designed for the woman who wants to share her message and change the world.

 

Since the beginning of time, women have come together and redefined the landscape of life through their inner feminine wisdom like a force of nature. They did it through storytelling, collaboration, and community, with grace and ease.

 

Today, we return to this purpose, again. We create businesses as a vehicle for our message… in a new way.

 

I have spent years — 9 years to be precise — unlearning the rigid ways I’d been told would be the only way I could be successful. Being a woman, with a fluid, soft and cyclical way, bringing forth a way of business that is feminine, graceful, and true to my nature, means that I am often faced with a battle of old paradigms.

 

I had to risk the unknown and experiment with new ways of holding and running a business. I had to define my own meaning of success. I had to walk between fear of desolation and faith in my beliefs that business could be done differently. I am still learning, and I have come so far, designing this business as an extension of myself in a new way. Her way.

 

I know this is an enormous challenge for so many women.

 

We are in a time of great change and innovation. The old ways of running a business are disintegrating and we have a chance to replace them with something much more honouring of our cyclical, human, gentle natures and far more sophisticated.

 

You have to unlearn the strategies, and the linear, systematic approach to working, to surrender to the feminine trust-led, heart-led, intuitive, present, intentional way of creating and running your business.

 

The Women’s Business Training is a 5-week deep-dive into building a business model that is gentle, intuitive, and impactful. Across the five weeks, I will guide you through the exact steps, processes, systems, and strategies I use to share my visions, message, and heart with the world. And make good money from it, too.

 

 

Registration opens: Monday, August 1
Registration closes: Saturday, August 27
We begin: Tuesday, August 30

 

4 live calls are held every Tuesday at 6 pm BST
Europe: 7 pm CEST
Australia: 3 am AEST
USA: 1 pm EDT / 10 am PDT

 

Delivery: 5-week training

☽ Weekly live calls + replay
☽ Worksheets + applicable examples
☽ Online community

Cost: £200

limited spaces

 

 

[IMPORTANT: When you register, make sure you tick yes ✔ to receive emails otherwise you will miss the most important information. If you accidentally missed that step you can opt in to emails following these steps.]

 

 

Orientation Week: Tuesday, August 30
Training Call 1: Tuesday, September 6th at 6 pm BST
Training Call 2: Tuesday, September 13th at 6 pm BST
Training Call 3: Tuesday, September, 20th at 6 pm BST
Training Call 4: Tuesday, September, 27th at 6 pm BST

 

1. Principle foundations

  • Why women should be running businesses (and the world).
  • The secret of women thriving in business that most don’t know.
  • Choosing the message you want to share with the world.
  • The divine force that will move your business forward.
  • Setting the tone of your business.

 

2. Energetic systems

  • How to set your workday schedule.
  • How to stay motivated and disciplined with ease.
  • Handling the tasks that you’d rather avoid with joy.
  • Exactly what you need to do each day to create the impact you want.
  • How to set business aims and measure the results to guide you.

 

3. Pragmatic service

  • Develop your offerings, services, and products with love.
  • Understanding your value, setting your prices, and managing your money.
  • How to invite and share instead of manipulate and hustle to make sales.
  • Managing the highs and lows of inspiration and income.
  • How to deal with times of doubt.

 

4. Intuitive expansion

  • Expanding and growing your business and message.
  • Staying aligned with your integrity and inner wisdom.
  • Knowing what the next steps are as your business evolves.
  • Staying grounded, committed and true to yourself (in your own lane).
  • Finding a rhythm and flow that allows your message and business to be an extension of your life and you.

 

This training is a chance to build a business model that is aligned with your own nature. I aim to show you how you can run your business with more ease, in a more gentle way, giving more space to health, kindness, and taking care of yourself and others. I will show you how to address and transcend underlying fears and guilt.

I want to show you that things can be done differently. In a new way. Her way.

 

 

Registration opens: Monday, August 1
Registration closes: Saturday, August 27
We begin: Tuesday, August 30

4 live calls are held every Tuesday at 6 pm GMT
Europe: 7 pm CST
Australia: 3 am AEDT
USA: 1 pm EST / 10 am PST

Delivery: 5-week training

☽ Weekly live & recorded calls
☽ Worksheets, templates & examples
☽ Online community

 
Cost: £200

limited spaces

 

 

[IMPORTANT: When you register, make sure you tick yes ✔ to receive emails otherwise you will miss the most important information. If you accidentally missed that step you can opt in to emails following these steps.]

 

 

Kind words from past HER WAY women:

 

I’ve never been in a group before where I’ve felt this kind of energy from the group. I’ve been in other group programs and they have been nothing in comparison to this energy that I felt from HER WAY. I felt it was a reflection of your energy Vienda, that natural, beautiful energy that you have. What I loved about the calls was that they didn’t feel scripted or rigid. They felt like you were just sharing your stories and it felt amazing to be a part of and witness that energy. I’m so so happy that I was part of this group and was able to dip into this energy and also contribute to it. It was really an amazing experience and I just wanted to tell you, thank you for offering this opportunity to connect to so many incredible women that you have attracted into your own field. Just: thank you. Ines

 

Before taking HER WAY I felt as if I was swimming in air. I had a bucket full of dreams, ideas, and hopes, and it felt all too good and crazy to come true. After HER WAY, I feel like my aspirations and ideas are very much possible and needed in this world. I feel self-confident about my ideas and ready to take action. My favourite part was the weekly Live calls. The energy and learnings each week were huge. My biggest takeaway was that each person’s expression of their uniqueness is worthwhile and valuable for our world. Related to that, I took away that people are merely the channels of the bigger messages of the universe, which makes business ideas so much more meaningful to me now. — Nida

 

I loved learning that it is ok to not follow strategies and to go with what my inner voice or intuition tells me, even if I don’t see the whole plan and the process from the end until the outcome. And also, the idea of handing things over to God/ the Universe, etc. It was really great to have this different perspective, and I loved being a part of this program. — Teodora

 

The moment you said that you do not think we always need degrees for a certain type of work (a few exceptions of course) and that self-study combined with talent can be enough to create amazing outcomes for clients. I needed to hear that so badly, as I was a full-time doubter – always telling myself I cannot do this or that before I studied it. I loved the listening partnerships! It was so amazing to connect with a person I barely knew on a deep level right away. But my most favourite part was INSTINCT, as this course opened my eyes!!! I found my true strengths and for the first time ever, I have been honest with myself. I know now what I really enjoy doing and can finally build a business around it. I have already received two inquiries in the last week since setting up a new IG account – and I take it as a sign that I am in my element now. — Navina

 

I was so impressed at what a rich resource was created here. The summary notes from the calls are absolutely packed with such clear wisdom and insight and it’s all incredibly useful and applicable. My biggest takeaway or ‘aha’ moment was that it can be easy, and feel good, and it can look different for everyone, and I can trust that I know what’s best for my business at every level. Following the course was easy and simple. The content shared will add value to my life and business for years to come. The impact is enormous! — Emily

 

Before HER WAY I felt as if I needed to have certain goals completed to a very high standard before I could launch my business model. Now, I have a better understanding that entrepreneurship is a process and that my product will develop as I grow. I pivoted to focus on the essentials so that I can launch sooner. The 80/20 rule was revelatory and I already see it taking shape in my work. I manage staff and sometimes things don’t go as planned and I don’t want individuals to be hurt. If I conceptualize the universe as being in charge, I can see past the immediate situation. I can think in terms of the universe having a greater plan for all of us. — Michelle

 

Thank you for creating HER WAY. It has been an incredible month for me and the people you attracted are wonderful, loving, warm-hearted, kind, inspirational, powerful women. All a reflection of you. I talked with other women in the group and that we never have experienced such an uplifting and supportive group of women before. I am so so grateful to myself that I followed my intuitive feeling to take this course even if it felt silly at that moment – I don’t even have a business but still invested in this business training. Lol. It gave me so much value and I feel once I figure out my message I know how to proceed from there. — Liisa

 

Honestly, this course has taken me to some unexpected places. I signed up for it because I wanted to find some flow and ease in my work and to find “my way” of integrating all my interests and careers somehow. But some questions triggered me to go much deeper into myself and led to quite a deep, heavy inner work. Frankly, I found this quite exhausting, which was one of the reasons why I stayed mostly on the sidelines. But I also found it very exciting to see what came through from all the deep stuff! (More on that maybe someday 😉) Now I feel I have released so much burden and I can finally start to feel the flow and momentum of life. I also start to get a glimpse of what the integration in “my way” might look like. And above all, I feel I now have the necessary tools to navigate the changes that are coming into my business. So thank you.🙏 — Miho

 

Wow, HER WAY was simply magical, out of this world. Thank you, thank you from the bottom of my heart. The course and your wonderful teachings were a total breath of fresh air that my life needed right now – it was all so timely. I am navigating a period of huge change right now in every part of my life (career, relationships, ways of being & living) and it feels equal measures of exciting and terrifying. But HER WAY reminded me of my power, that I have limitless potential to create in this world and that following my intuition (however scary it feels) is my duty to the universe. I made a number of huge life decisions in March, and I’m not sure I could have made them had it not been for my journey through HER WAY, your empowering & refreshing teachings, and the supportive community. Everything just clicked. HER WAY was so much more than a course on how to run a business intuitively as a woman (which would already be profound enough). HER WAY was a whole way of life – challenging my deep belief systems.Aimee

 

doing things a little differently…

doing things a little differently...

 

Two months ago, at the climax of a covid-induce fever, I decided to reclaim my life.

Determined to reprioritise the things that are most important to me: community, connection, time in nature, a sense of motion and movement in life, and creativity, I decided to go all-in, with the little things that are the backbone of life. Simple pleasures. And edit out the rest. I also decided to restructure my business.

Over the past 8 years, I have written 100,000’s words. Over 700 articles. 100’s of entertaining emails. I was published in books and blogs and magazines. All for free.

Writing is my lifeblood. It’s the one thing, I do every day, with great pleasure. It helps me know what I think. It acts as a neutral observer. It often acts as my therapist. If you ask me what I want to ‘do’ with my life, my answer is ‘to write’.

 

One month ago I began a long-form secret subscription letter called ‘kismet’. A new space where I could freely explore the mysteries of life and my personal fate via words to share with you. In that month, I have written 4 articles for you, each including an audio recording and guided journaling practise video at the end. You can read, listen to, and journal along with me, here.

All 4 of them are free.

 

I suppose, secretly, deep down, I have always wanted to be acknowledged as an artist. One that writes. Whose life centres around creative expression. And for that expression to be validated through an energetic exchange.

In a world of highly consumed, fast-paced social media so many of us creatives are exhausted from the energetic imbalances of giving more than is often adequately returned.

I am on an assignment to change that.

 

Late last week I turned the subscription into a paid one. From now on, all new articles (aside from some occasional public posts) will be for paid subscribers only. The subscription is £8 per month.

This gives me the freedom for unfiltered expression for those who truly want to be a part of this kismet world with me, and offers me the privacy to honestly write about everything I want to write about.

What you will receive each month is:

  • Subscriber-only posts, incl. audio versions, guided journaling prompts or videos and the full archive of past articles.
  • You can post comments, be a part of our intimate conversations and join the ‘kismet’ community.

 

That night I lay in bed submerged in the deepest gratitude that people want to pay for my art as the first few paid subscribers signed up and I just… cried. Tears of thankfulness, tears of disbelief, tears of relief to have the courage to do something that I’ve wanted for a long time. To be paid for my art.

I am so excited to continue this adventure with you. Thank you for being here. You can join the free or paid subscription to ‘kismet’ here.

 

To get a feel for my writing:

    • start with my blog and work your way through, or…
    • for the popular personal updates that inspired ‘kismet’, go here
    • for my musings on psychology, the soul and the human experience, try this
    • for all my best tips, tools and behind-the-scenes insights into the way I run my business, click here
    • for stories on body image, beauty, confidence and the random recipe continue here
    • for submerging yourself into stories on travel and freedom, go here
    • for my intimate explorations on love and relationships, go here
    • for all things intuition and manifestation follow along here
    • for all the books I’ve read and recommend, read here
    • to explore your creativity with me click here

 

Enjoy x

 

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