feeling lost permeates us all from time to time. fear, doubt + uncertainty play riddles with our minds. we look around, grappling to hold on to something. something that will sustain our reason for being. something to anchor ourselves to. a person. a job. a habit. an image.
for why we are here and what we are doing. we look left. we look right. nothing. nothing to sustain our sense of self. we question ourselves …. we feel like we’re falling + floating in space with nothing to tether ourselves to. then we reach for a beer. or a wine. or something that makes the feeling go away. at least for a little while.
this feeling is actually a breakthrough. it’s scary. falling. your identity is peeling away and you wonder what you’ll be left with. a shell of a person?
but no. do not be afraid. stay within the lostness. it is in these moments that your true self, your authentic self has a chance to shine. the part of you that is beyond how you represent yourself to the world. this is a chance for you to decide what you really want from life. are you being honest with yourself? are you trying to fit into someone else’s hold? change your perception. feeling lost is a gift. a chance to review where you’re at. the most successful, radical-thinking, enigmatic people have no idea where they are going. just that they are going somewhere. something will happen. it always does.
be yourself. do what you love. what makes you happy. you don’t need a reason for it ::: a goal in mind ::: a conceptual end point.
do you need to know the destination in order to move forward? perhaps your purpose is something you cannot grasp in your imagination. it is something that will slowly reveal itself to you. and one day you wake up realising that you’ve been living out your purpose all along.
We all come into our lives wishing to feel some kind of sense of purpose. Something that we can tether ourselves to and identify with. Something that gives us meaning. Innately, having a sense of purpose is a physical and emotional need.
We begin to find ourselves when we notice how we are already found, already, truly, entirely, wildly, messily marvellously exactly who we are meant to be.
The only problem from recognising that is that there is thus undercurrent of rejecting ourselves. We have been taught for years to live up to other people’s expectations, to societies ideas of who we should become, fixations on how other people perceive us, an external means of fulfilling ourselves such as body image and having the latest everything.
To truly discover and embody your purpose, you have to step out of what is keeping you small and contained. Stop being a people pleaser. Listen to and trust your intuition. And start doing things your way.
Discovering your purpose is a topic that is so very close to my heart, because it’s a defining guide in us having the life that we are meant to have. Which is exactly why I have an entire week devoted to discovering your purpose in the #GypsetMindset 6 week mentoring program starting on Monday 10 November. I’d love for you to join us. Find out more here now. Doors close to my final 1 to 1 coaching program for 2014 on Saturday 8 November.