by Vienda | 26 Feb 2013 | Love + Relationships
- Get really honest with yourself. What is it that you truly, deeply want for yourself? For your life? Start focusing + set intentions for how you want your life to FEEL like.
- Resist the temptations to indulge yourself in negative thoughts + self talk. Remember that thoughts become things + this is not what you want to manifest into your life.
- Do things that make you feel good. Really good! What makes you feel full + loved + bursting with joy + excitement, or fulfilled gentleness + calm happiness? Do that.
- Nurture + care for your body. You know how.
- Know your boundaries. + stand by them.
- Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you or makes you happy.
- Be gentle with yourself. You are always doing the very best you can with the knowledge you have in that moment.
- Surround yourself with people who love, support + uplift you.
- Learn to say NO more often. This will free your life up more than you can imagine. Saying NO is a form of self respect.
- Treat yourself the way that you’d like to be treated. Every. Single. Day.
- Make promises to yourself. + then keep them. This builds self confidence.
- Exfoliate + moisturize. Consistently. It’ll keep your skin healthy, young + supple.
- Trust yourself. Stop questioning whether what you are is right or wrong. You are. That is more than enough.
- Follow your gut feelings. Always. They will keep you out of tricky situations + guide you to miracles.
- Put yourself first. Because you’re worth it.
- Eat lots if leafy greens.
- Write down all the things you like about yourself. Place your list somewhere you can see it often. Yes, you really are that great!
- Throw yourself a party.
- Move your body. Even if its just a bit of a stretch. Move it everyday.
- Do something just for you. Get a massage. Bake your favorite cake. Buy those silk trousers. Go for a walk somewhere you’ve always wanted to.
- Wear natural fibers. Cotton. Silk. Wool. They feel so luxurious against your skin + allow it to breathe. You will feel SO much better than when you’re wrapped in plastic synthetic fibers.
- Indulge in organic, locally sourced, fresh fruit + vegetables whenever you can. Not only are you being kind to yourself, you are also being kind to the planet.
- Develop a morning routine. One that makes you feel so loved + excited to start a new day! You will see drastic improvements in your life.
- Practice self love. Because no one can love you the way you can. Treasure yourself.
- Declare your love + passions to the world. + then follow them.
- Live your life by your own terms. NO ONE knows what’s right for you better then YOU.
- Know your own worth + declare it.
- Listen to the urgency of your desires. They are the golden key to unlocking your dreams + turning them into reality.
- Make like Simba + “laugh in the face of danger”. Even if you’re scared.
- Take your time. Enjoy every moment. Waking. Playing. Working. Eating. Walking. Loving. Breathing. Doing. Being. They are all important.
- Write down your goals. Then outline some steps you are going to take right now, to make them come true.
- Spend time in nature. See, feel + enjoy the beauty of this marvelous world you are lucky enough to have been born into. You chose + created it anyway!
by Vienda | 19 Feb 2013 | Psychology + Soul
Yes, you.
You are already perfect. Just as you are.
You have everything that you need, simmering within you.
You are a portal of manifestation. A co-creator with the universe.
You are an alchemist of subliminal proportions. Even your own imagination cannot fathom what you are capable of.
You have the capacity to create everything you dream of. Everything you think of. You are magic.
You are everything you want to be. The most perfect estimation of yourself is in you.
Allow it to reveal itself to you by BE-ING. Be present, still and acutely aware in every moment.
Act only from the heart, from the bubbling love and joy within you.
Perfection expresses itself as nature does. Unexpected, full of twists and turns, surprising, beautiful, wonderous.
Life wants you to fully express yourself in the perfection that you already are.
You have been given this opportunity in life to know yourself. To observe yourself.
To be aware of yourself in order to be able to conjure whatever you like into your reality and bear witness to the miracles of life.
In this very moment, right now, you are the majestic culmination of all of your thoughts, beliefs, life experiences and ancient history of your past and many lives lived before. Right now you are at the leading edge of your own existence.
In this realm, time and reality do not exist. They are simply measures used to compare one manifestation from another. To experience your own unique evolution in space as your learn to powerfully propel the wizardry that you were born in hand with.
Recognize your own perfection. Connect to your deep seated soul centre and co-create with the universe.
This is your playground. And you are already perfect.
by Vienda | 20 Nov 2012 | Love + Relationships
My friend Justine is a very talented young minstrel who works in entertainment as a comedian, radio and television host as well as hosting events and playing tunes as a DJ. She recently tweeted the following question through to me and so I decided to share my answers with all of you.
I understand this question well as it’s something that I am challenged with from time to time myself. We have all come across feeling an energy space that is either repellent or attractive. Some energies attract you and make you feel good and like you want to be around them whereas others others repulse you and make you feel like you want to get away from them.
What I know for sure is that “negative” and “positive” energy are actually your mind judging certain instances, situations and people as either “bad” or “good”. This is a mind-created illusion and actually means that this energy I am feeling is not in tune with who I am and where I’m at in myself right now.
There are several ways to deal with the experience of certain energies which don’t feel good to you, each depending on the situation and where you’re at in the moment. It may be your intuition telling you to leave, it may also be something you just have to deal with.
1. The higher your own vibration the more sensitive you are of this repellent energy field and concurrently the less it can actually affect you. You may observe that this energy you are feeling doesn’t resonate with you but are aware of it because it exists in your current space, however, as you are vibrating at such contrasting frequencies, it cannot affect you in any way. You will most likely choose to not give your attention to that energy because doing so changes how you feel. Basically, the more at peace and present you are the less “negative” energies can affect you.
2. If you, that moment, are not in a space where you can raise your own awareness and vibration to a state where you feel the comfortable sense of knowing that you are not being affected by the repellent energy field, then there is a way to create a safe space around you to protect you from the perceived negative energy. In this case I simply do a little visualisation exercise:
I imagine my entire body and more often than not, also my belongings, surrounded in a beautiful, safe and warm bubble. Inside the bubble I feel happy, loved and protected. I complete the visualisation with an affirmation along the lines of “Only the best energies come to me”. This works every single time and I use it whenever I feel I need to. I learnt this specific exercise when I was studying Reiki (Japanese energy healing) and there is a possibility that you have a client come to you who is carrying with them a lot of “negative” energy.
Additionally, I also ask for guidance. I ask what I can learn from this experience and the existence of this energy field in my current space. You’ll be surprised what may come up for you and how you can even transform the energy experience into something very positive!
3. Finally, if the first two solutions are failing you in that moment, then I suggest removing yourself from the situation altogether. Just leave. There is no reason why you should ever let any negative experience influence the way you are feeling and bring you down.
Often, when we are still at the beginning of our awakening path and still wavering within our own energy fields we aren’t strong enough to remain aware and present when a strong “negative” energy enters our field. The best thing to do in this case is to leave and take care of yourself and your well being by respecting where you’re at in that moment and accepting yourself. One day you will be stronger and the experiences you are having right now won’t affect you any longer and may disappear from your recognition entirely.
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by Vienda | 14 Nov 2012 | Love + Relationships
I love receiving emails asking for guidance through various life challenges which we all face from time to time and recently Suzanne from Sweden sent in an email asking the question:
How do you deal with friendships disconnecting as you grow and evolve within yourself?
This is an excellent question. One important aspect we have to come to terms with is that everything is always changing. Life doesn’t stand still or stay the same, ever. It is a common misconception that things stay the same.
As you grow and open yourself up to evolving, you are changing and expanding. This is a natural process of life. Funnily enough, society had for a long time promoted that things remain the same. It was viewed as reliable, steadfast and sensible to resist change and keep doing what you knew, be safe and comfortable. If you don’t attempt anything new, at least you know what you will get. More of the same. Which people generally find very comforting. But this perception does not support the natural process of growth and evolution in humans or humanity as a whole.
So, Suzanne’s questions was, how do you deal with friendships changing and disconnecting as you take the leap into the unknown and choose to grow and evolve?
1. Accept that as you change, your life experiences will change. This includes the type of people whom you attract into your life. Your friendships will change and some people will resist the choices and changes you are making in your life whereas others will embrace them. This has nothing to do with you, it’s their own issues and self awareness that they are facing and is perfectly normal.
2. Remember that even though you’re not connecting with everyone on the deeper levels that you’d like to, especially wanting to share this new-found awareness, they still have value to add to your life. It’s really special to view these people as your teachers. Ask yourself “what is this person teaching me, what can I learn from them and this situation?”. It’s easy and common for many of us as we grow and evolve, to assume that others who are not going through similar transformations to not be able to understand you. However this is often a misconception. The challenge is simply finding the common ground to communicate from. Somewhere deep inside they do understand, allow people to surprise you. This often means taking a leap of faith and being really authentic and honest about what you are feeling. Talk to them about the things you are experiencing and are important to you. You may be joyfully surprised at how they respond once they feel you understand them too.
3. It’s common for people to feel a little bit isolated and lonely as they go through their own journey of transformation and observe certain friendships and connections fall away. It’s an infinite path of self awareness and being so much more aware creates a sense of being the observer of your life rather than just acting out prescribed social conditions because “that’s what’s done”. Allow this loneliness to serve you and guide you deeper into your journey. You will eventually come to the realisation that in fact you are not at all alone, because in fact you are at one with everything as all of life is connected.
4. Trust that you will begin meeting more and more people who resonate with your level of understanding. Because you will begin attracting like-minded people soon enough. Be open to who may enter your life, allow people and situations to surprise you and make an effort to speak to and connect with people who you feel good around.
I know from my own experiences what it feels like to loose connections and friendships that once appeared secure and long-lasting but I also know not to take these personally. There are so many beautiful people on this planet and new friendships to form that expand and enrich my life experience. Sometimes you just have to make space for new things!
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by Vienda | 23 Oct 2012 | Intuition + Manifestation, Psychology + Soul
There is a power in taking confident strides in the direction of your dreams.
This power is so overwhelming, all-consuming, that it leaves little room for doubt and fear.
Live as if your success is inevitable and it will come and find you, where you stand.
There are now words, no drawn up plans, no well researched assurances or mapped out strategies that will take you as far as you actions, one step at a time, will.
Your actions are the sign that you have been waiting for.
Take action in the direction of what you truly want. Small steps is all it takes.
Make that phone call. Write that email. Read that book. Buy that flight. Choose yes. Choose no. Say goodbye. Draft your notice. Ask him/her out. Get on that train, bus, plane. Move. Dance. Be. Try something. Climb that mountain. Go there. Smile. Talk to a stranger. Cry. Laugh. Step outside your boundaries. Write. Sing. Create. Build.
Actions speak louder than words.
They tell the world that you’re ready. You are ready. For your veritable dreams. For your life to be the one that you have conceived for yourself.
Rush into the arms of the world with your heart wide open. It’s all there, waiting for you to grasp hold of it. To ride its wild, buccaneering saddle and allow life to come through you.
Take action and watch how the world summons itself to support you and give you all that you need.
Your actions speak louder than words.
xx
