6 reasons why I love Instagram

6 reasons why I love Instagram

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Being a digital gypsy, and relying on the wonderful world of webs to manage my business and my pleasure, there are a few things that I’ve come to know and love. One of them is the iPhone app Instagram. I have always been bewitched and enchanted by photography, a picture frozen in time tells 1000 stories not only of what can be seen within the frame, but even more what can’t be seen. Photos create an exciting spark in our imaginations, wrapping us in stories of  what might be happening in the parts that aren’t seen. But Instagram takes it a whole new level for me. I adore being able to whip out my little phone and sneakily, like a detective hunting for clues, snapping the things that inspire, charm and bring love and desire out in me. I adore scrolling through my pics from the past, basking in the warm glow of the things I’ve seen, done and felt. I find it undoubtedly thrilling to share the same warm and fuzzy feelings with the people I follow, and love being a part of their lives through a visual journal of sorts. To complete my gushing adoration for this digital app that makes life so much sweeter, more fun and compelling, here are 6 reasons why I love Instagram.
1. Instagram is kind of undercover. Unlike when you whip out a massive camera and everyone gets kind of uncomfortable and awkward and starts making those weird, rigid, funny poses, you can take a photo with the iPhone before anyone notices and catch them at their best, when they are relaxed, smiling and looking natural. And then you can share this photo with everyone you love in an instant.
2. Instagram a form of gratitude. Taking a photo of food, of something beautiful, of someone you love, of something that inspires you or fills you with joy is a way of saying THANK YOU FOR THIS WONDERFUL AMAZING THING to the universe. It’s a visual acknowledgement  of something we appreciate and are grateful for. We take a photo with the intention of sharing how good this is making me feel.
3. Instagram is sharing love. As we delve more and more into the Information Age, our friendships and families span the planet, and the Earth starts to feel smaller and smaller because we recognize that we are all connected. As our friendship groups expand, it become more difficult to stay in touch with everyone as much as we would like, especially if you’re a gypsy like me. Through Insta we get to stay connected and show our love and share our lives with the people who are important to us. Perhaps we don’t speak to everyone on a daily basis, but we have the effervescent opportunity to view each others lives and remain close and connected in this way.
4. Instagram gives life and colour to Facebook and Twitter. If visual stimuli turns you on, like it does me, then you would know that a post with a picture is SO MUCH MORE FUN than a post with just words. I love words. Words are pretty much my favorite thing in the world. But in today’s overflowing abundance of words everywhere, what catches anyone’s eye enough for them to make a 3 second decision to pay attention is a bright, pretty picture!
5. Instagram makes marketing a breeze. The word marketing leaves such a weird, sour aftertaste in people’s mouths but what it actually means is TELLING PEOPLE WHAT YOU CAN OFFER THEM. That’s something everyone wants to know, so actually you’re just doing them a favour and letting them know what they actually want to know.
6. Instagram is creativity. After a while, you start to develop your own style and format of taking photos of the things that you love. I adore taking photos of food from directly above. I love taking photos of people when they’re not looking. I love taking photos of big, wide, open landscapes. I like trying to find some kind of symmetry in every frame. I love finding colours that draw each other out and reflect or deflect each other. I love using bright lights and sun rays in my shots. There are so many creative ways to take a picture which leave me feeling most satisfied!
Right now I’m looking for some more inspirational photos and people to follow. Are you one of them? Follow me on Instagram @viendam, and comment on one of your favorite photos that you’d like to share with me and an invitation to come and follow you! I’d love to be a part of your lives!
Love + adoration
Vienda xx
 

32 ways to improve your relationship with the most important person in your life: YOURSELF

32 ways to improve your relationship with the most important person in your life: YOURSELF

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  1. Get really honest with yourself. What is it that you truly, deeply want for yourself? For your life? Start focusing + set intentions for how you want your life to FEEL like.
  2. Resist the temptations to indulge yourself in negative thoughts + self talk. Remember that thoughts become things + this is not what you want to manifest into your life.
  3. Do things that make you feel good. Really good! What makes you feel full + loved + bursting with joy + excitement, or fulfilled gentleness + calm happiness? Do that.
  4. Nurture + care for your body. You know how.
  5. Know your boundaries. + stand by them.
  6. Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you or makes you happy.
  7. Be gentle with yourself. You are always doing the very best you can with the knowledge you have in that moment.
  8. Surround yourself with people who love, support + uplift you.
  9. Learn to say NO more often. This will free your life up more than you can imagine. Saying NO is a form of self respect.
  10. Treat yourself the way that you’d like to be treated. Every. Single. Day.
  11. Make promises to yourself. + then keep them. This builds self confidence.
  12. Exfoliate + moisturize. Consistently. It’ll keep your skin healthy, young + supple.
  13. Trust yourself. Stop questioning whether what you are is right or wrong. You are. That is more than enough.
  14. Follow your gut feelings. Always. They will keep you out of tricky situations + guide you to miracles.
  15. Put yourself first. Because you’re worth it.
  16. Eat lots if leafy greens.
  17. Write down all the things you like about yourself. Place your list somewhere you can see it often. Yes, you really are that great!
  18. Throw yourself a party.
  19. Move your body. Even if its just a bit of a stretch. Move it everyday.
  20. Do something just for you. Get a massage. Bake your favorite cake. Buy those silk trousers. Go for a walk somewhere you’ve always wanted to.
  21. Wear natural fibers. Cotton. Silk. Wool. They feel so luxurious against your skin + allow it to breathe. You will feel SO much better than when you’re wrapped in plastic synthetic fibers.
  22. Indulge in organic, locally sourced, fresh fruit + vegetables whenever you can. Not only are you being kind to yourself, you are also being kind to the planet.
  23. Develop a morning routine. One that makes you feel so loved + excited to start a new day! You will see drastic improvements in your life.
  24. Practice self love. Because no one can love you the way you can. Treasure yourself.
  25. Declare your love + passions to the world. + then follow them.
  26. Live your life by your own terms. NO ONE knows what’s right for you better then YOU.
  27. Know your own worth + declare it.
  28. Listen to the urgency of your desires. They are the golden key to unlocking your dreams + turning them into reality.
  29. Make like Simba + “laugh in the face of danger”. Even if you’re scared.
  30. Take your time. Enjoy every moment. Waking. Playing. Working. Eating. Walking. Loving. Breathing. Doing. Being. They are all important.
  31. Write down your goals. Then outline some steps you are going to take right now, to make them come true.
  32. Spend time in nature. See, feel + enjoy the beauty of this marvelous world you are lucky enough to have been born into. You chose + created it anyway!
why I love sharing my life with you + what I’ve been up to lately

why I love sharing my life with you + what I’ve been up to lately

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As those of you who have been following me for a while would know, I left my sanctity of a sweet little life in Sydney in July 2012, after two and a bit years of being settled, to follow my heart and whims back to life on the road again.
It’s been almost 7 months and what a roller coaster of a journey it has been! Instead of heading straight to South America, as I had originally thought, due to unexpected circumstances I ended up roaming around Europe until mid December 2012, working, catching up with friends and fortifying the foundations from times gone past.
The universe is always much wiser than I so I followed the signs and flow and ended up writing, working and learning my way through Portugal, Spain, France, Belgium, Austria and Holland, where I was living for about three months under the most unusual circumstances. I like to call this period of my life the “falling in love with a schizophrenic” phase. It was very drugs, sex and rock n’ roll… And one day soon I’m finally going to write a memoir about it. You’ll love it, I promise!
After a few more weird and scary experiences I ran away to Prague, where I spent 10 days mending my heart and soul, and revising my goals and values amongst the gold, red and bright orange leaves of autumn and spectacular architecture that makes up this incredible city. My memories of Prague are incredibly sweet and romantic, though I spent the entire time completely on my own, barely speaking to the staff of my hotel, nor the endearing ladies at the nearby farmers market, as I tried to trace where I had gone wrong and got myself into such confronting situations in the past month.
I then was gracefully taken in by a very close friend, who set me straight, gave me some tough love and sent me back out into the world after caring for me and feeding me for two weeks in Leipzig. After a Berlin techno party to shake off the remaining dust from the past months on a Friday night in mid November, I flew to the UK to do some work and catch up with friends. By mid December I knew I had to make a decision. Stay in London for Christmas or choose a new destination.
So three days before my departure, I booked a one way ticket to Cancun, Mexico. Finally I was getting closer to my intended destination! Since then life has been and incredible roller coaster of miracles, just as I know and love it to be.
I spent my first four days in Mexico in a house that belongs to the Princess of Yemen, and then travelled to the archaeological ruins of Palenque where I met my friend and soul sister and current gypsy companion, Lily. Since we’ve joined our journeys we’ve attracted adventure like a pair of thrill-seeking minxes: we celebrated Christmas in San Cristobal, then went to Tulum for New Years where we were very kindly invited to camp on an empty $7 million dollar piece of land with its own private beach by a pirate who currently had the position of caretaker over the land. We celebrated in style at a party in an Eco-resort where I ran into a friend whom I haven’t seen in 6 years. A few days later we were given free entry to one of the world’s biggest house music parties: the BPM Festival in Playa del Carmen after having a business meeting with one of the DJ’s who was playing there, and ended up perching ourselves in a mansion that a friend and his entourage had hired, that they generously shared with us.
After four days of dancing we desperately sought the sanctity of quiet beach life and returned to Tulum, only to be inundated with party-goers who had the same thoughts. One morning we both awoke and realised: it was time to go. We packed up, booked a bus to Belize city and moved our coterie south that very day. Belize is a strange country, both lusciously beautiful and yet dark and curious; there is a dark undercurrent that touches everyone and everything due to being on the cocaine route that plagues much of the coast from South to North America and back again. It’s been a fascinating journey as we discover and explore what this country has to offer and it’s secret and hidden underbelly beneath the tropical allure.
Now we are heading further south. As we are both working at a festival called Envision in Costa Rica at the end of February, the plan is to make it down there over the next two weeks, so right now we are in transit. As you are reading, I’m on my way to Nicuaragua, overland via Honduras, apparently one of the most violent and dangerous countries in the world, and on the same day as the launch of my new digital guide Build Your Own Business Blog, as if life isn’t exciting enough already! But I know we are safe, protected as only professional gypsies can be, by being naive and innocent and aware and street smart, all at the same time!
Which brings me to why I love sharing my life with you:
I share all my thoughts, lessons and journeys with you for one reason: I want to encourage you; and inspire and ignite in you the fire and passion to live life on your own terms. We all have a choice. We are all free. I implore you to break free of your social conditioning, the should and shouldn’t, the way you were told things are and truly be yourself and live your life you own way.
In no way do I decree to have all the answers, know the best way for you or have a fool-proof method of how do do this. Every day I make mistakes, every day I recreate myself and my life; every single day I stand at the ledge of my existence and scream back at my echo, asking “Life, do what you will with me! Show me and guide me!”. And every single moment I am guided and protected to shown exactly what I need at exactly the right time.
Every single day I choose to make a new choice and to live life on my own terms. And I am free. And I am alive. And I know this life is worth living because I I fling myself into its arms and receive back alchemy. I love observing what magic I can conjure through my thoughts, beliefs and actions in my every day life. I love being a part of life and yet, simultaneously an observer of life. This is why I love sharing my life with you. Because I am indulgent enough to believe we all have the choice and the freedom to create the lives we want and dream of. And because I want it for you.
 

the listomania riposte. 112 dreams to realise in 2012 results are in!!!

the listomania riposte. 112 dreams to realise in 2012 results are in!!!


Remember this from the end of last year? Well, here are the long awaited results! Some of you have been asking so I know you are just as curious to find out as I am!

  1. Remember to breathe. I’ve gotten so much better at taking time out….
  2. Bake. For my friends. I love to bake and haven’t done so for hmmm… at least a year now. I want to make decadent, delicious cakes and cookies for the people I love.  Done! Here are the recipes 1, 2 & 3.
  3. Tune into presence. All the time. Sit in my sweet spot and trust. GETTING SO GOOD AT THIS xx
  4. Finish stitching, beading and creating the leather handbag I started making in London in 2008. I didn’t event start….
  5. Read more books than last year…. YES, in fact I’ve read 18 books this year! Here are some of them.
  6. Go to L’etoile in Paddington. TICK! Thank you Allen for this one …. you are an angel.
  7. Eat less sugar. I’ve fallen off the sugar-free wagon a little since Christmas and I need to get back on it. I feel so much better when I’m not consuming sugar. It’s a lifestyle choice now, I avoid sugar as much as I can on a daily basis but don’t beat myself about it if I have some.
  8. Spend a weekend in Melbourne. Didn’t happen…
  9. Go to Burning Man in late August. Also didn’t happen because I didn’t get a ticket in their ticket lottery, but I went to Boom Festival in Portugal instead!
  10. Spend a month in New York. Maybe next year!
  11. Travel through South America from the bottom up ending my journey at the Rainbow Gathering in Guatemala in December. I’ve unexpectedly been traveling through Europe the past 5 months, but still have Mexico set in my sights… Who knows what might happen!
  12. Write an e-book/ course. I’ve been writing…it’s coming!
  13. Write at least two guest posts per month. (So far so good, I’ve had one published this month with another scheduled coming up)  YES! Though it’s been more like 1 a month….
  14. Meet the most fascinating, inspirational people that I have ever encountered. ALWAYS xx
  15. Be a better friend. (Sometimes I am terrible at keeping in touch and showing how much I care …. I want to do so more.) I believe so….
  16. Get clear on what is important in my life and welcome people who share the same values. This has been a bit blurry at the edges….I think I need to get clearer here!
  17. Fall in love. I did. And I also learnt that falling in love is a choice, not just something you tumble into. It’s not all chemistry & hormones….you have to make a real life choice. Unfortunately this time I had to choose no….
  18. Go gently. Don’t be so hard on myself. YES! And ditto to the next 4 below:
  19. Practise the art of allowing.
  20. Life harmony is not the same as life balance. I don’t have to have all the balls in the air at the same time.
  21. Listen more slowly.
  22. Tell more stories.
  23. Write to my grandparents at least once a month. I know it means so much to them. My grandfather died in April and I went to visit my grandmother in Austria in September… That’s better than writing.
  24. Sell all the designer clothes that I never wear. And spend the money on something I really, really love! No…
  25. Commandeer an iPad. I gifted myself one…which is not quite commandeering…
  26. Go to Officeworks and stock up on notepads. My collection of scribbled on papers scattered across my room is starting to move from charming chaos to enigmatic mess.
  27. Manage my time a little more efficiently. (Plan without planning – if that’s at all possible! The trouble is, my nature rejects schedules and plans … I kind of have to trick myself with this one!) Still working on this one….
  28. Break up with social media.It’s not you – it’s me! Let’s just be friends and hang out sometimes, rather than spending every single minute together! (You’re suffocating me!) I’ve radically cut down and only use it for growing my connections and business…
  29. Over the winter, watch all the films that I keep getting recommended and never see. I think this one needs a list. Any movie-buff-list-makers out there who want to help? Email me!
  30. Perfect the back-walker. I can go back. But I can’t seem to quite kick over yet. Soon. TBC!
  31. Get over my body image issues once and for all. Gulp. This one is scary. (Let’s practice a little radical self-love shall we!) YES! Finally :)
  32. Stretch myself. Physically. Emotionally. Spiritually. Try new things. Yes, but really am craving more yoga…
  33. Be more compassionate and understanding. We are all humans after all. Easy!
  34. Host a dinner party. Complete with fairy lights and candles and live music and chocolate gateau. It was a grand success and I was so thrilled! Can’t wait to do it again.
  35. Learn about wine. Still not…
  36. Organically, gracefully and easily develop my business so it flourishes and is successful on all levels. It’s happening but more slowly than I’d like….. I’d need some help I feel….
  37. Allow lots of space for the unexpected. Always…..
  38. Slow down. Getting there…slowly! Ha!
  39. Play with children, more than I have been. Not so much….
  40. Kiss a man with a moustache. Just for the experience. Totally did this, I came with the falling in love experience. And I miss him….
  41. Relax. Allow my body to fully relax. I feel relaxing is a continuous learning process…I can always relax a little bit more! As is No.41 below….
  42. Let go. Of control. Of knowing the outcome. Of expectations. Everything. I’m quite good with this but imagine how amazing life would be if I completely let go of trying to control it. If just showed up, did my part, shared my sparkle and let what ever may happen, happen. Wow! Just the idea blows my mind. 
  43. Go to Tetsuya’s in the city. No.
  44. Ride the rides at Luna Park with my sister and take loads of photos of our silliness. No.
  45. Make green smoothies. I know they’re good for me. I even like them. But I’m just not making them. Really got into them this year and felt the benefits permeate every nook of my body and soul… LOVE green smoothies! Here’s a recipe of one I loved.
  46. Remember not to take life too seriously. YES!
  47. Practise my Spanish. Desperately need to do this, it’s getting embarrassingly awful!
  48. Write a loooong letter to my mama about everything. She doesn’t know me at all. Maybe she never will but I can try! SO WORTH IT! 
  49. Make peace with my ex. I really hope he speaks to me again one day and we can be friends. I guess breaking someones heart makes them not want to talk to you anymore. I think we did make up… Kind of.
  50. Enjoy each moment as it comes. Feel the width and the breadth of it. Taste it. Smell it. Be in it. YES! It’s an ongoing project….
  51. Figure out how I can monetize my talents. Seek out someone practical who can help me. I need a second brain for this. Ammm so …. anyone? Have done so but need more strategy & assistance…
  52. Buy socks. Done. Twice.
  53. Write every single one of my friends a love letter and send it via post. With stamps and everything. Amazing! I did write letters and post them to 7 friends. It’s a start!
  54. Print this insane listomania out and put it somewhere I can see it so I actually remember to do all these things. Done
  55. Figure out how to use all of my flying points with different airlines and hotels to the best of my advantage. I have no idea and it’s all so confusing. I need help from someone who is good with numbers and details. Both things that I detest. (I’m one of those people who still uses their fingers to count. Yes. I know.) STILL HAVE NO IDEA!!!
  56. Go for a long weekend away to Byron Bay. Ammm I spent a day there. Does it count?
  57. Convince my landlady to put me on a rolling lease. I really hate stiff contracts. They make me feel uneasy. It’s like clipping my wings. I moved house instead….
  58. Go to a sex toy shop with my sister and check out the goods without acting like a demented teenager. Really. I shouldn’t be embarrassed about these things anymore. Yet to accomplish!
  59. Create the MOST AMAZING COSTUME EVER for Secret Garden festival in March. With face paint, warrior-fairy style. And a leopard print kimono. It was pouring so the outfit became obsolete but I had a ball dancing in the rain!
  60. Be still. Allow more stillness into my life. YES! Also an ongoing project…
  61. Spend my money more consciously. Don’t buy crap. Buy beautiful things that last a long time. And less of them. Spend my money on things I really value. (I can be a tad frivolous at times!) DONE! Same for the following 4 points below….
  62. Don’t think too much.
  63. Don’t think about what other people might think. It really doesn’t matter.
  64. Have fun. All the time. (I do this anyway but there’s no harm in reminding myself.)
  65. Go on an exclamation mark detox!!!!! They seem to creep into everything I right far more than is appropriate.
  66. Proof read my writing a bit more before I publish. Euch! It’s that whole attention to detail thing! I hate it. Erm, this still hasn’t been accomplished. I accept that as one of my lovable flaws…
  67. Have at least one afternoon/evening totally to myself per week. I need time alone to recharge. YES!!
  68. Discover new intricacies about the people I call my friends. I love exploring the people in my life.
  69. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. Don’t be afraid to fail. Move through and past those fears. Do it and see what happens. Either way it’s a wonderful learning experience.
  70. Convince my employers to gift me with a new iPhone. Because I deserve it. I am my employer now, and well, I’m a little difficult to convince nowadays…something about expenses & income having to be proportionate or something….
  71. Go through my inbox and file and tidy and organise the 1000’s of emails that are making life a little convoluted. YES!
  72. Practise gratitude the moment my mind wanders into a realm of complaint. And any other time. It works so good and makes life amazing. YES, YES & YES!
  73. Communicate my feelings and thoughts more clearly. Face to face. In spoken words. The bane of my existence….in the face of confrontation I loose it….I stop communicating…something I’d really like to change….
  74. Cry if I feel like it. Things sometimes are worth crying over. Give myself the permission to feel my emotions and then get over it. I tend to skip straight to the get-over-it part. The feeling part is important too. Definitely accomplished.
  75. Take the time to sit down and write more. Often I write while also doing 20 other things at the same time. Little inspirations come to my mind and I jot them down; my mornings often involve me bouncing between the bathroom and the notebook on my bed. Perhaps if I took the time to sit down with them I could take it a little deeper. The again if I wait to write when I have time, the thoughts may have already passed. It’s like trying to capture a cheeky pixie. Very slippery. I give myself a tick for this one…it may not have been consistent but it happened!
  76. Hold his hand. ‘Cause I like it. I’m obligation free. It’s just a gesture of affection. Another yes which went along with the whole falling in love thing….
  77. Don’t cut my hair. At all. Not even once this year. Just to experiment and see what happens. I had it cut twice, from friends who are hairdressers. I couldn’t say no!
  78. Make a dream catcher from dried vines, wool, shells and semiprecious stones and feathers I have collected over the past 10 years of my travels. I still want to do this…
  79. Allow myself to move from super groomed to a little more wild again. I’m tired of the common “Sydney” look. I’m breaking free.
  80. Have a really beautiful dinner with my dearest friends for my birthday. Complete with sparklers and birthday cake and lots of wine. I didn’t have a birthday this year…I’m saving it for another time…which means I’m actually still 30 FYI!
  81. Learn how to dance with a man.
  82. Do something really super romantic and wonderful at least once a month.
  83. Fly a kite.
  84. Go sailing or on some kind of boat trip. Cause I love it.
  85. Have more real, deep and meaningful conversations. I hate small talk and mostly I just move away from it. Perhaps if I could engage people to communicate a little deeper I could stay in the conversations for longer. YES!
  86. Be more accepting of others. I’m an idealist. A philosopher. A dreamer. I expect everyone else to be this way too. But I realise they’re not. And that’s ok. YES!
  87. Have patience. With life. With outcomes. With myself. With others. Things often just need time. YES!
  88. Host a Mad Hatters Tea Party. We can all be Alice. I’ll try to find some magic mushrooms. Still on my Definitely To Do List. I did find magic mushrooms though.
  89. Define exactly what I want my life to look and feel like. Get clear on it. Write it out and go live life on my own terms. Use my imagination and then go beyond even that. High aspirations. No expectations. Must Do This!
  90. Tell all the people I admire, how and why I admire them. They inspire me and deserve to know so.
  91. Go on lots of picnics.
  92. Stop checking Google Analytics stats quite so much, my monthly excel spreadsheet is truly quite sufficient. Focus on what’s actually important instead. (Building an Empire of Revolutionary Love). Yep, it’s under control!
  93. Write down my dreams as soon as I awake. Something magical might come out of them.
  94. Learn how to make chocolate soufflé. I still want to learn this….
  95. Write a gig review. Just to try it out and see if I can do it. It seems daunting and intimidating but I go to so many festivals and music gigs, it’s certainly a valuable skill I could develop.
  96. Experiment. With everything. Always!
  97. Go on a road trip without a destination in mind. Discover new and wonderful places.
  98. Hula hoop lots more and learn some really cool tricks I can show off at parties. (Perhaps buy a hula hoop so I can do this).
  99. Read every single Dr Seuss book ever written. Not quite but I went to Dr Seuss a exhibition instead which was AMAZING!
  100. Make at least one video blog aka vlog for viendamaria.com this year. Get help with the post-production so it looks AMAZING! I still want to do this…and the next 9 are yet to be completed too….
  101. Go to Confest at Easter and present some workshops ….. on topics not yet decided.
  102. Do a flash-mob-dance-off.
  103. Stay awake all night and watch the sunrise at the beach. And then skinny dip in the ocean.
  104. Minimise my collection of belongings. Do I really need all those books and things? Less is more I say.
  105. Burn my journals and notebooks from the past 10 years (after I’ve copied out all the juicy stuff).
  106. Blow bubbles in the park and play with glitter and take photos of these little moments of joy and amusement.
  107. Create a photo album of my life for my family.
  108. Sell all the 100’s of pieces of jewellery that I have collected to sell from my travels over the past few years.
  109. Wear more accessories. Aiming to look like a pirate crossed with a nymph.
  110. Expand my music collectionOpen my ears to new and wonderful sounds. Try out something new.
  111. Go for walks along the beach in the winter, even when it’s cold. LOVED THIS!
  112. Trust in the process of life. It is truly very amazing and magical, even when my mind tries to conjure up ridiculous ideas of defeat. Getting so good at this! Yay!

How did your dreams come into fruition this past year? x
 

how to deal with negative energies

how to deal with negative energies

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My friend Justine is a very talented young minstrel who works in entertainment as a comedian, radio and television host as well as hosting events and playing tunes as a DJ. She recently tweeted the following question through to me and so I decided to share my answers with all of you.

I understand this question well as it’s something that I am challenged with from time to time myself. We have all come across feeling an energy space that is either repellent or attractive. Some energies attract you and make you feel good and like you want to be around them  whereas others others repulse you and make you feel like you want to get away from them.
What I know for sure is that “negative” and “positive” energy are actually your mind judging certain instances, situations and people as either “bad” or “good”. This is a mind-created illusion and actually means that this energy I am feeling is not in tune with who I am and where I’m at in myself right now.
There are several ways to deal with the experience of certain energies which don’t feel good to you, each depending on the situation and where you’re at in the moment. It may be your intuition telling you to leave, it may also be something you just have to deal with.
1. The higher your own vibration the more sensitive you are of this repellent energy field and concurrently the less it can actually affect you. You may observe that this energy you are feeling doesn’t resonate with you but are aware of it because it exists in your current space, however, as you are vibrating at such contrasting frequencies, it cannot affect you in any way. You will most likely choose to not give your attention to that energy because doing so changes how you feel. Basically, the more at peace and present you are the less “negative” energies can affect you.
2. If you, that moment, are not in a space where you can raise your own awareness and vibration to a state where you feel the comfortable sense of knowing that you are not being affected by the repellent energy field, then there is a way to create a safe space around you to protect you from the perceived negative energy. In this case I simply do a little visualisation exercise:
I imagine my entire body and more often than not, also my belongings, surrounded in a beautiful, safe and warm bubble. Inside the bubble I feel happy, loved and protected. I complete the visualisation with an affirmation along the lines of “Only the best energies come to me”. This works every single time and I use it whenever I feel I need to. I learnt this specific exercise when I was studying Reiki (Japanese energy healing) and there is a possibility that you have a client come to you who is carrying with them a lot of “negative” energy.
Additionally, I also ask for guidance. I ask what I can learn from this experience and the existence of this energy field in my current space. You’ll be surprised what may come up for you and how you can even transform the energy experience into something very positive!
3. Finally, if the first two solutions are failing you in that moment, then I suggest removing yourself from the situation altogether. Just leave. There is no reason why you should ever let any negative experience influence the way you are feeling and bring you down.
Often, when we are still at the beginning of our awakening path and still wavering within our own energy fields we aren’t strong enough to remain aware and present when a strong “negative” energy enters our field. The best thing to do in this case is to leave and take care of yourself and your well being by respecting where you’re at in that moment and accepting yourself. One day you will be stronger and the experiences you are having right now won’t affect you any longer and may disappear from your recognition entirely.
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