by Vienda | 26 Aug 2012 | Travel + Freedom
We have all been there.. Riding the crest of the wave, life is flowing beautifully, you know which direction you’re heading and things feel good.
Then suddenly, you blink for a moment and life throws you a curve ball. Now things are not going quite the way you’d like, your values and beliefs are being challenged and you become aware of resistance to what is happening build up within you.
This is an exercise in letting go of control, finding a new balance and harmony and way for your life to flow. It’s an opportunity to grow, and learn and become better and stronger. It’s the world waking you up again a little, shaking you and asking “Did you get a little too comfortable? Are you still following your bliss?”
This is where I’ve been the last month or so. I’ve been travelling which is normally a relaxing, fulfilling and inspiring experience for me, however this time it’s more of a challenge. A challenge of where I stand within my beliefs and values, and what is actually true for me. A challenge to walk my talk and take things a little deeper. A challenge to find joy in the curve ball, to embrace when things go differently than I would prefer. A challenge to be more accepting, let go of control but simultaneously speak out what I need and want, and to follow my heart.
It’s not been easy, as I struggle from time to time with what I feel to be true. My mind and heart are making me more aware that I need to be more present, more connected at all times in order to make good choices for myself. I know this lesson well and appreciate learning it again at this time when I clearly need to.
Clearly, as with all of life, travelling is as much a spiritual journey as it is a physical one. The two are never separated.
I promised to keep you updated with my movements so here is what I’ve been up to:
In Lisbon I decided, along with a friend, that we would go and see some friends in Amsterdam, an adventurous jaunt through 5 countries in Europe; Portugal, Spain, France, Belgium and then the Netherlands. And that we would hitchhike. The last time I lived in Europe about 5 years ago I used to hitchhike quite a lot. It’s safe, easy and socially accepted and I often quickly made it through parts of Spain, France and Italy very quickly.
This time our attempts of hitch hiking proved more challenging. Whether it was because I was hitching with a boy or because Portugal isn’t familiar with giving lifts to strangers I do not know, but having discussed the perils of hitching in Portugal with other travellers in hindsights whom expressed the same difficulty, we settled at the fact that it’s not so common in this country.
We made it from Lisbon to the holy town of Fatima in about a day and a half, only about 215 kilometres, where we decided to change our tactics. Surreptitiously, we happened to arrive in Fatima on a day where thousands of pilgrims come together from throughout Europe to celebrate and pray to the Virgin Mary. I believe that everything happens for a reason, not being either religious nor having planned to be in this city at this time, and we decided to stay for a couple of days and take in the religious ambience and beauty. It was really very stunning to see over 10,000 people gather around the huge cathedral, hear the choir and organ echo across the wide piazza and be enchanted with the many voices melting together as they speak their prayers. Wishing for peace and love and harmony for themselves, their families and the world. All by the light of a candle held by each person, flickering gently in the warm summer breeze.
Then it was off to Paris, this time by bus. It was the only mode of transport from Fatima possible and it gave us plenty of time to enjoy the passing landscapes. We arrived in Paris 24 hours later in Porté de Bagnolet in the east of Paris and stayed in the wonderfully chic and edgy Mama’s Shelter hotel, more of which I will tell you about another time. All I can say is that I highly recommend staying in this funky, fascinating and creative hotel chain which is opening up more places in Los Angeles, Singapore and London. After a good nights rest, incredibly fantastic food with a breakfast buffet selection that makes you want to never leave, off we went to play tourists for the day and visit the endearing and beautiful feats of architecture,mart and culture that this city, unlike any other, has to offer. On our second and final night in Paris, we were very warmly and generously hosted by a friend, making us realise that, no matter how beautiful and amazing a hotel, nothing compares to staying with kind, loving and generous people in a real home.
The final leg of this trip was also by bus, from Paris to Amsterdam. The journey is always equal to arriving at a destination, something that I secretly adore, as I love being in-between places. It gives me a feeling of adventure and that anything could happen. We arrived in Amsterdam late on a Friday evening, the city was already in full party mode, with drunk English, Irish and Dutch at every street corner keeping the night alive with their antics. I have been in this incredible city a week, exploring the many canals, alley ways and streets filled with unusual and fascinating art and design and am now in the beautiful town of Haarlem, staying with a very sweet, kind and insightful friend of mine whom I met in India some years ago, Linda.
I’ll be returning to Amsterdam tomorrow and what is next after that is up to the travel Gods! To follow my travelling adventures more closely come join me on Instagram at @vienda_m, it’s such a fun way to connect and keep in touch!
by Vienda | 10 Aug 2012 | Psychology + Soul
As you’ve noticed I’ve been absent for a couple of weeks.
I took a much needed break. I let go of all my commitments, tuned into my life flow and dropped out of the standard lifestyle.
You may remember from my post a few weeks ago here, that I was uncertain which steps to take next. I was dealing with a lot of cognitive dissonance within my personal relationships, my commitments and what I want for myself. This happens from time to time and I welcome it because it’s usually a signal that I’m going through enormous growth and coming to a new level of my life experience and what I am creating with my thoughts, beliefs and actions.
It’s been very interesting to observe the amount of people, people whom I know love me very, very much are resisting my current choice to let go of controlling my life and my environment. They are afraid for me and worry. I’m not sure exactly about what.
But I know, deep within myself that I am always okay. I am always taken care of, even when things appear unusual or uncertain. I have this strong trust in life and in my power to manifest everything that I need and want because I see it happen every day.
So, I’m sure you’re curious to find out what I’ve been up to!
I’m in Portugal right now. On the 26th of July I booked a flight after receiving a ticket gifted from a friend to go to the alternative lifestyle and music festival known as Boom which is held every 2 years. This was my third one. I used to work at these sort of events , they feel like home to me and are a wonderful place to connect with exceptional and beautiful people who share an expansive mindset and are willing to explore their inner worlds as much as the external world.
After Boom I spent a few days helping pull down one of the areas before heading back to the “real world” and have been in Lisbon since last night.
I love Lisbon, it’s full of beautiful architecture and art and of course it’s summer here so the weather is just lovely. I feel very grateful and blessed to be able to have this experience right now and am enjoying the days immensely.
What’s next? We will find out!
by Vienda | 8 Aug 2012 | Psychology + Soul
It’s my 31st birthday today and therefore this post is fitting to celebrate the many wonderful lessons I have garnered so far in my life time.
I’m celebrating in Lisbon in the lovely summer sun and send you all much love and blessings.
- there’s a time to make a move + there’s a time to wait. do that which comes naturally in that moment.
- we always get what we ask for. every. single. time. even when we don’t realise we’ve asked for it.
- your perspective in unique. don’t be afraid to share it. the world needs it.
- money is an expansive entity.
- intuition is a great thing. trust it.
- listen to others. take their opinion into account. then do what feels right for you.
- it’s not you. it’s him / her.
- sometimes there are simply not enough words to explain a feeling. nothing grand or majestic enough to even come close.
- even people who come across as confident are insecure from time to time. we are all human after all.
- wishes. prayers. mantras. chanting. affirmations. they’re all the same thing. they all work.
- loving is easy. letting go. not so much. it’s the attachment thing.
- sometimes all you need to do is give it time.
- smiling to strangers changes everything. for them + for you.
- everyone in your life is there for a reason. ask yourself “what can i learn?” “what can I give?”
- there’s no such thing as a wrong decision. it all happens for a reason.
- love is everything
- the depths of your soul is like the ocean. it’s impossible to explore every part. you will always be surprised.
- live from a place of possibility. anything could happen.
- asking for something can be scary, but so worth it.
- pretty much everything is art. even accounting.
- men who make fun of themselves are far more sexy than men who take themselves seriously.
- it’s ok to have dreams so big that they seem incomprehensible. dreams become things. one day.
- we are all intricate complex beings.
- life is all about contrast. there’s no right or wrong. no good or bad.
- salt water makes everything better. the ocean. the tears.
- the more we count our blessings, the more blessings we have to count.
- trying to please others doesn’t make anyone happy. so stick with doing what’s right for you.
- there’s someone out there thinking kind thoughts about you pretty much every moment of the day. nice isn’t it.
- image + identity are simply masks + walls we hide ourselves behind. drop them + see that we are all so much more.
- pay it forward. give your gifts. the world will reciprocate.
- people are amazing
by Vienda | 17 Jul 2012 | Psychology + Soul
I left Sydney just over a week ago and right now, am on the Sunshine Coast in Queensland, enjoying the supremely wet winter weather which is far warmer than where I was and slowly, gently finding my feet. It takes time. It takes time to unwind from busy city living, to find your own rhythm and pace again as well as remain connected with all the things that you want to do.
I am choosing to take it easy. I refuse to be hard on myself. We all do far too much of that. So perhaps I’m not achieving, doing, chasing results or meeting deadlines but in reality those things aren’t important anyway. Instead I am focusing on remaining connected with my inner peace and source of love and making decisions from my heart and intuition.
As some of you know, I have been working on a Create Your Own Business Blog & Website guide. The copy has been completed for some weeks now. It’s just waiting to be put together into a beautiful format. Graphic designers charge about $350 for that kind of work, and I know it’s worth their efforts and talent but for some reason I’m not feeling it. I don’t know wherein the blockage lies, whether its within me or elsewhere, so I am sitting with it….. And waiting for a sign. For something to indicate to me what direction to take and whether to try and design the layout myself or hire someone or wait until someone wants to work on this sweet e-guide with me. As with everything in life, I’ll know when I know.
At this very moment I also haven’t booked a flight yet. Perhaps I will have by the time you read this. Again I am waiting. For the clarity, the precise moment where everything falls into place. I am being nudged in several directions: New York to connect with amazing people and Lisbon for Boom Festival and to see some of my most special friends, yet in my heart my ultimate destination is South America. I’m deciding whether to go directly there or via either of the detours that are calling my name.
I had a dream last night. I wrote an entire book on small pizza boxes that had been laid flat. Brown cardboard boxes without any logos, unused. One on top of each other they were stacked, full of my hand writing, waiting to be typed up. On a beautiful wooden desk. But I was late for my flight and couldn’t type. For my flight to Argentina which in my dream strangely enough was located on the map in the same place that Brazil is supposed to be in waking life. I don’t know what it means but clearly in my dream life I’m ready to go. And I need to keep writing.
Despite all the unknown in my life right now, I am completely at peace and feeling calm. I am friends with uncertainty, we have always had a sweet and loving relationship. I give my trust and receive magic in return. This is how I roll. And travelling gives me the time, the space and the freedom to do so. Nowhere to be, nothing to achieve but to let out what lies deep within me, yearning to be expressed.
by Vienda | 13 Jul 2012 | Love + Relationships
I’ve been thinking a lot lately, about how we value our time, our bodies, our passions and dreams, our relationships and connections, our spirits and everything that encompasses the idea of “I” or “me” in this current life experience.
I dare you to:
disconnect
untether
write a letter….to yourself
turn off your mobile phone
go for a walk
unplug the computer
stretch
be mindful
breath
scream into an open empty space
avoid contact with all kinds of media
say no
cry
laugh
don’t give a reason for your choice or decision
accept yourself and others in this moment, however you show up
be silent
forgive
I see how we (us humans) create so much pain in our lives by pushing and forcing and blaming ourselves when all we really need is enormous amounts of self compassion. Self acceptance and understanding. How can you be more compassionate, gentler and kinder to yourself today? Go ahead, you deserve it.