32 ways to improve your relationship with the most important person in your life: YOURSELF


  1. Get really honest with yourself. What is it that you truly, deeply want for yourself? For your life? Start focusing + set intentions for how you want your life to FEEL like.
  2. Resist the temptations to indulge yourself in negative thoughts + self talk. Remember that thoughts become things + this is not what you want to manifest into your life.
  3. Do things that make you feel good. Really good! What makes you feel full + loved + bursting with joy + excitement, or fulfilled gentleness + calm happiness? Do that.
  4. Nurture + care for your body. You know how.
  5. Know your boundaries. + stand by them.
  6. Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you or makes you happy.
  7. Be gentle with yourself. You are always doing the very best you can with the knowledge you have in that moment.
  8. Surround yourself with people who love, support + uplift you.
  9. Learn to say NO more often. This will free your life up more than you can imagine. Saying NO is a form of self respect.
  10. Treat yourself the way that you’d like to be treated. Every. Single. Day.
  11. Make promises to yourself. + then keep them. This builds self confidence.
  12. Exfoliate + moisturize. Consistently. It’ll keep your skin healthy, young + supple.
  13. Trust yourself. Stop questioning whether what you are is right or wrong. You are. That is more than enough.
  14. Follow your gut feelings. Always. They will keep you out of tricky situations + guide you to miracles.
  15. Put yourself first. Because you’re worth it.
  16. Eat lots if leafy greens.
  17. Write down all the things you like about yourself. Place your list somewhere you can see it often. Yes, you really are that great!
  18. Throw yourself a party.
  19. Move your body. Even if its just a bit of a stretch. Move it everyday.
  20. Do something just for you. Get a massage. Bake your favorite cake. Buy those silk trousers. Go for a walk somewhere you’ve always wanted to.
  21. Wear natural fibers. Cotton. Silk. Wool. They feel so luxurious against your skin + allow it to breathe. You will feel SO much better than when you’re wrapped in plastic synthetic fibers.
  22. Indulge in organic, locally sourced, fresh fruit + vegetables whenever you can. Not only are you being kind to yourself, you are also being kind to the planet.
  23. Develop a morning routine. One that makes you feel so loved + excited to start a new day! You will see drastic improvements in your life.
  24. Practice self love. Because no one can love you the way you can. Treasure yourself.
  25. Declare your love + passions to the world. + then follow them.
  26. Live your life by your own terms. NO ONE knows what’s right for you better then YOU.
  27. Know your own worth + declare it.
  28. Listen to the urgency of your desires. They are the golden key to unlocking your dreams + turning them into reality.
  29. Make like Simba + “laugh in the face of danger”. Even if you’re scared.
  30. Take your time. Enjoy every moment. Waking. Playing. Working. Eating. Walking. Loving. Breathing. Doing. Being. They are all important.
  31. Write down your goals. Then outline some steps you are going to take right now, to make them come true.
  32. Spend time in nature. See, feel + enjoy the beauty of this marvelous world you are lucky enough to have been born into. You chose + created it anyway!

I’ve been published! check out the book I’ve co-authored along side the amazing Danielle LaPorte, Lisa McCourt and many more!!!

To say I’m excited is an understatement! Thrilled. Delighted. Overwhelmed. Dizzy with happiness and gratitude, certainly. And so much more.
Early this year I was given the opportunity to contribute to a series of books called Adventures in Manifesting. I was given creative freedom to write a chapter in the Love and Oneness book of the series, along side many amazing authors whom I admire so greatly including Danielle LaPorte and Lisa McCourt.
You find out more about Adventures in Manifesting here.
My chapter is called It’s All About How You Feel Because Feelings Are Magnetic. And here’s a quick little sneak peek at what I wrote:

The secret of manifesting is living from your heart.

This means coming from a place of authenticity, self-acceptance, and self-love. It is a feeling practice. After all, feelings are magnetic. And you cannot feel with your head. You feel with your heart. And to be able to feel with your heart you have to get honest with yourself; really honest.

To clear the pathway of manifesting, you must fully accept yourself, just as you show up in every moment.

Because it demands self-awareness, self-acceptance is the cornerstone to allowing the magic of creating your world with your thoughts. The clearer you are with your authentic self, the more speedily and direct the pathways to manifesting become. Behind authenticity lurk the fundamental values and beliefs that you have garnered over time in relation to how you have been socialized (taught to behave in a certain way and conform to society).

It’s so wonderful to have the opportunity to not only do what I love, which is to write and share what I know to be true for our human experience with you, but also to have it published in a REAL book, with real pages, for you to pick up and read any time you would like! Having something tangible in your hot little hands makes it all so much more real, doesn’t it!
The books will be available in all good bookstores as well as on Amazon from early November onwards. I will send you a love filled reminder full of excitement once they are available for purchase in your local area (or interweb!).
If you are interested in buying a copy of the Love and Oneness book wherein my chapter lies, eager for you to pass your sweet eyes over it and devour its contents right now, it is possible to get a pre-released copy by clicking on the link here, where you will also find the other books included in the Adventures of Manifesting series full of wisdom and adventures from many other amazing authors as well.
How our publishers of the Adventures in Manifesting series describe the book I co-authored, Love and Oneness is:

32 Stories to Align with The Power of Love

This amazing book peels back the layers of the human spirit to uncover your own exquisite beauty and unlimited potential. Whether you wish to attract your soul mate or twin flame, create more inner peace and harmony, or embrace the rising consciousness of love and oneness, these stories will inspire and guide you on your own journey. You’ll also discover how to feel blissfully comfortable in your own skin, release the pain of past relationships, and seek your own happily ever after from within. Each chapter is heart-warming for your soul, proving that with love anything is possible.

Featuring contributions from Lisa McCourt, Danielle LaPorte, and many more.

In stores November 8, 2012 – pre-release copies available from Älska now!

To add to my incredible gratitude and excitement for this beautiful and abundant experience, yesterday I received a very sweet and kind review (my first) of the words that I share with you in this book.

“I finally got my book a couple days ago and yours was one of the first chapters I’ve read…just opening at random…. I loved it so much! Read it right before bed, made me feel so good and I blame it for me having a fantastic day today despite challenges.” | ALTHEA DE LAS ESTRELLAS

Isn’t that gorgeous or what! So darlings, go ahead, come support all of our work and buy the book or books as your whims and hearts guide you and share the love that we have for you in our words.

my current inner turmoil + life challenge


As a writer, there is an incredibly fine line between being open and honestly sharing my life experiences, and compromising the sanctity and privacy of my personal life. In my world everything is everything, there is no separation. It’s all connected and heavily influenced by all that is.
One of the greatest joys I have writing here is my freedom of speech. I share with you all that I have from my heart and soul. I want you to FEEL me, not just read me, and I know you do. I love that I have the opportunity to voice my feelings, thoughts, desires and lessons as I go through them, that I can share them with you and knowing that as a fellow human being, you resonate and understand them.
At times I do feel confined to write and speak in the ways that are deemed socially acceptable. To not stir the common understanding too much, but mostly I just write what is real and true, no matter how raw it feels.
Recently, it’s been more difficult for me to share with you, authentically, where I’m at. Because where I am at isn’t the most comfortable place for me right now. And because it involves someone else. Some months ago I entered into a relationship with a curious, unique and loving man. It’s been a tumultuous relationship to date. Full of passion, high emotions, tears, anger, love, sadness, disappointment, kindness and deep connection. We are both willful, passionate and deeply enamored. And we are the same. And completely different. Concurrently.
It’s a challenge facing yourself every day, having your values and beliefs questioned and wondering where you stand. It feels like a process of recalibrating. All the old beliefs that are just lying there are being hashed up to be looked at and removed if they no longer serve me. It’s an internal cleansing process of the soul.
I was watching Spirit Science recently (you must watch this series, it is brilliant and will change your life, the link is here) and noted something poignant to me. In a society which values independence so highly, we are losing our harmony with all things, since we are all connected and everyone and everything is interdependent. I, myself, have accustomed myself to function as an independent unit, separate from all things physical, the only connection that I’m constantly and acutely aware of is that to my source, the spiritual realm, which unites me with everything again.
I have noticed I have a tendency to cut myself off from people whose values and behaviors are not aligned with who I am and where I am at in my life. I practise compassion and also keep those people at more than an arms length instead of accepting their worth and value in their own way. Yes, it is good to be able to say no. Saying no is often a form of self love and makes room for what you actually DO want in your life. But does that mean you have to reject other people?
Other people’s choices and actions can only affect you as much as YOU (or me in this case) allow them.
I digress. Without sharing in detail all the life, love and relationship lessons, transformations and inner turmoil that I am processing right now, I just wanted to share with you that I am facing some challenges. And I’m working through it. I’m keeping life simple. Listening to my feelings, honoring them and and taking action in the best way that I can. And this current life experience is affecting my writing, what and how I am expressing myself and the way I want to share with you.
So please. Be patient with me. Send me love. I will be more open with you again once I’ve cleared my inner space.

embracing your shadow


Something I have been delving into over the past few months is exploring and embracing my shadow. And as the synchronicity of my life always plays out, this month I just began studying a Psychology unit as part of my course and delving heavily into the kings of the shadow theory – Carl Jung and Sigmund Freud.
The society we live in turns a blind eye to the ‘dark side’ of human nature, aka our shadow. From the earliest stages of our lives, as young babies and early childhood – throwing a ‘tantrum’ is often perceived as a bad thing and often put to a quick halt of repression and the conditioning thereby plays out as we grow through adolesce that showing anger, fear, sadness, or any emotion for that matter is a sign of weakness or ‘weirdness’. We are told how to feel, what to feel and when it is socially acceptable to do so. So no wonder we are all so confused when it comes to connecting to our self, as to answering the simple question ‘How do you feel today?’ Most of us reply ‘good’, or ‘fine’. When in actual fact we might not be ‘good’ or ‘fine’ we might be pissed off or extremely angry or going through some heavy internal processing; yet we don’t dare reply these words of complete honesty, in fear of our shadow being seen and thus the fearful consequences of an unknown reaction out of our ‘character’.
We all have a shadow. My interpretation of the shadow is likened to popular story character development. The shadow is the ‘bad guy’ – the character that silently swims amongst the dark unconsciousness of everyone they may encounter. They are on a path of self and social destruction and usually the social outcast. The shadow yet challenges the light and popular characters beyond measure. The shadow is the character we often on face value dislike, yet are so intrigued by and kind of love because they have no filter, no moral code or anything to lose through their destructive behaviours. They say and do what we all wish we could without consequences. Our own shadows embody exactly this. It is the part of whom we are that we chose to filter. Its that part of us that is capable of the worst acts possible to human kind, it is the bitch in us, the feisty fire, the manipulator, the controller – all those ‘bad’ parts of us that we know we are capable of yet we chose not to reveal them in fear of non acceptance and social isolation.
According to Jungian psychology, shadow is a part of the unconscious mind, both individually and collectively. Shadow consists of repressed weaknesses, shortcomings, and instincts. Everyone carries shadow to one degree or another. It is part of who we are as human beings and it is part of what we collectively bring as we are in relationship with each other. We don’t want to talk about it because we want to focus on the light and the things we love. We want to pretend it isn’t there and in so doing we actually give it energy and life of its own. By ignoring our shadows, causes a whole host of issues.
Carl Jung wrote, “the less the shadow is embodied in an individual’s conscious life, the blacker and denser it is. Shadow is instinctive and irrational and thus is prone to projection onto others.” We don’t so easily see it in ourselves but we do see it in others and in our group dynamics. Which is why certain it is so effective to be aware of people/groups that trigger dark feelings in us – as this is normally our shadow being revealed. Because we instinctively project it out and onto others, it becomes difficult to speak about or to own and it seems simply easier to try to ignore it, pretend it doesn’t exist, believe we are better than it. The more we try to ignore it, the greater the likelihood it will take root in us and in our group dynamics, ironically doing exactly what we have been trying to avoid: getting in the way of progress, harming interpersonal relationships, feeding judgment and frustration and just generally wearing us down.
Thus it is so important to be aware and embrace our shadow; for to accept one self wholly, we must accept all parts of ourselves – and this includes the shadow. This goes for all our relationships not only with ourselves – for us to accept and love truly from our hearts; we must embrace both the light and shadow in all our relationships. By sweeping shit under the rug is just denying the inevitable and the recipe for neurosis and plain old unnecessary drama. The shadow doesn’t have to be revealed in extreme ways like going around and telling everyone what really think of them, although this would make for such a more honest world. It can be explored in many safe ways. My personal journey of self-acceptance has thus taken this route of late. I do a lot of 5 Rhythms dance, and during the ‘chaos’ dance, this is when my shadow reveals. I go into a dark place and feel angry, controlling, manipulative, violent and wild. I have been consciously feeling into, embracing and acknowledging it. Through this I am feeling more comfortable with those parts of me that I know I am capable of yet I fear in my own a way, ironic; I fear, fear. But by acknowledging and slowly starting to accept is slowly closing that gap of fear and repression. And thus loving myself WHOLLY, the good and the bad.
What if we just knew that shadow exists and acknowledged it, making it normal for people to name, explore and be curious about? And, what if, in our curiosity, we could throw ourselves open to what can be learned from shadow as it shows up and, in the process, disempower shadow’s potential to derail us, our mission and our relationships? What would it take to open up to this exploration? Definitely some food for thought!
Guest post by Nadine Ominski from Nadine Lee Nutrition.
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you can transform your life {an inspired letter from a reader}

Today I’m sharing with you a beautiful email from an inspiring reader based in Sweden who transformed her life by listening to her body and following her intuition. She took massive leaps and bounds and let her heart guide her no matter what which has lead her to a sense of freedom and more fulfilled life. It just shows that we all have the power to transform our lives if we so wish!
My name is Susanne, a fairly new reader from Sweden but already in love with your blog.
The posts are sooooo inspiring and just what I need to read right now! As a typical Sagittarius I have too many things I want to do and no patience waiting for them to happen. As soon as I make a decision (after quite some time of thinking) I want it to happen today. This time the decision is about me finding out that I really shouldn´t work as a social worker anymore because it´s not doing good for my health.
Some years ago I could not work for four years due to a burnout. Since I began working again in 2008 I have noticed that I have less and less energy for my family and friends, and that is not who I am. I love being a social worker but it feels like every story the people I meet are telling me, is being stored in my body, making my energy level going down every day. I can manage work and do a good job but when I come home I have no energy left. I knew for a while that this has to change, that life is so much more than work.
If it´s something I learned from my burnout it is that- my job will never be as important as myself, my health and to be able to be there for my loved ones. To exclude the possibility of a relapse, I advise you to consult a doctor at a specialized medical center. Also, Cialis at https://www.devonhealthandwellbeing.org.uk/buy-cialis-tadalafil-online-uk/ can’t be taken by people who feel a persistent allergy to this drug or a group of organic nitrates. And so I went online to find inspiration and found your blog and some other fellow Australian bloggers. What is it about you lovely people down under, all doing your thing, being positive and all incredibly inspiring?! :-)
Well, I found what I was looking for in your posts. After reading, reading and reading some more.. I made my decision. And from that moment something happend inside me. I found peace. I feel excited, happy and I can´t wait for the next step in my life to start! My decision?
I have decided to move back to my hometown where my parents, many relatives and many many of my best friends live. The place where I feel at home. I´ve been there this summer on my vacation and it just feel right. It´s where I belong. I also decided that I need to change my profession in order to become me again and I have already began looking for a job.
Another thing I found out is that I need freedom in my work. So I have decided that I want to run my own business and is now reading up on all I need to know about that and will next week also attend an event for women wanting to be their own boss.
Next thing on my decision list is me realising that I don´t want to live in an apartment, I want to have my own house! So when I move back, I will sell my apartment in the city I now live in and buy myself a house! Always said I would never buy a house on my own but I can´t put my dream on hold while waiting for Mr Right to show up.
Making all these decisions made me realise why I also haven’t taken care of my body for quite some time, but that will change too now! Just by making these decisions have already made me a happier person and I am oh so ready for these changes!
And I am convinced that the power of decision making, writing them down, saying them out loud, will make things happend faster than I could hope for. Although the Sagittarius in me wants it to happen in this exact moment, I will try hard to enjoy all the time up until life is as I want it to be.
Well, there you have a piece of my story, my life a tthe moment and I hope it was ok that I told you all this, but since you are a part of it I wanted to tell you. Thank you for the inspiration, keep up the good work!!!
Thank you!
If you would like some guidance in your own journey as you transform your life, why don’t you try my life coaching sessions out, to give you the support and confidence to listen to your intuition and take the leap of faith towards your dreams!
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