Let the searching end here. (Aka: what to do when it all just doesn’t quite feel… enough!)

Let the searching end here. (Aka: what to do when it all just doesn’t quite feel… enough!)



Have you found what you are looking for? For that one thing that will make life finally feel enough? Maybe it’s time to stop looking.


Every now and then during a philosophical mull-in with friends, a notion arises — that is “I am looking for something that is other than what I have.”


Examples would be …… “I haven’t figured out what I want to do with my life / my career / my love …..”  – “I am looking for a sense of fulfilment outside of myself, and I don’t know how to reach it.” “So and so aren’t making me happy / my job isn’t fulfilling me / my life just isn’t quite right ….. yet.”


Let the searching end here.


I’ve been there myself, many times, trust me – I have galavanted across oceans in every direction in chase of adventure, to taste the potent elixir of life, or to escape from situations that I didn’t know how to stand in.


I hope, no, I am certain that by now, I have learnt my lesson. I have been the princess of chasing lost dreams that were actually never lost……. though not anymore. This is what I know for sure:


When you stop looking it comes to you.


Whatever that piece you feel is missing, it’s not, but by the fact that you are searching it out, that you believe you don’t have it, this elusive “thing” disappears and is suddenly invisible to the eye. That illusion of fulfilment, the idea of something lacking in your life is created by not attuning yourself to what IS already in your experience. By not allowing what is to be, and thinking that it is other than what you should have.


We always get exactly what we need; what we ask for.


Sometimes we are blind to the things that are in front of us purely due to the fact that we have forgotten to appreciate them for what they are. We judge them as good or bad instead of just as an experience, a possible opportunity to grow and learn.


When you hold in your consciousness how you want to feel, what you want experience, the type of people you want in your life, when you stay with it …… you find it.

Or rather .. it finds you. I know now that things always work the best when we allow them to arrive rather than pushing and striving to achieve them.


Let the searching end here.


What you are looking for is not missing.  It’s not lost. It’s right in front of you… and you will see it soon enough. As soon as you let go.


my secret weapon for successful entrepreneurship

my secret weapon for successful entrepreneurship


About 2 and a half years ago, I knew it was time. I was ready to embark out on my own and finally fulfill my heart’s yearning and my soul’s whispers to become self employed, doing what I loved. But I was totally freaked out by the concept of being a “business woman”. Sales and marketing seemed like dirty sins of the under-world to me and I felt, didn’t suit my personality AT ALL. Nonetheless, my dream was relentless and I knew there had to be a way to make it work, my own way. After all, I’m compelled to live life on my own terms, but, like everyone, sometimes I need some guidance, support and expert assistance.
It was then that I discovered the business course designed specifically for women who were creative, multi passionate entrepreneurs Rich, Happy & Hot B-School. After much am-ing and ah-ing, weighing up the pros and cons, and wondering whether it was a worthwhile investment into my life and my business, I took the leap, on the final day of registration and took the course.
This simple step, and investment into myself CHANGED MY LIFE. Marie Forleo is one sassy, smart and switched on woman, who teaches practical, easy to follow and essential practices to grow and develop your passions, love and heart into a successful business. By doing exactly what she lays out, in only two years I have developed viendamaria.com from just a little lightbulb idea into a real business that supports me financially as well as fulfills my personal creativity, ethics and values and has turned me into a sincere business woman without all the salesy marketing BS! One of the best parts is, once you’ve registered, you can take the course every year following when it runs for FREE, so in essence have access to an ever improving business course on a continuous basis which is AMAZING. This year will be my third year taking Rich, Happy & Hot B-School and I cannot wait. Let’s do it together!
It’s so very rare that I promote or recommend other people’s ventures on my site, and I only do if I have personally used them and KNOW that they are excellent and meet beyond my own and your standards, and Rich, Happy & Hot definitely does. If you have been toying with the idea of building, growing or developing your own business and need the loving support of a successful and professional course that covers EVERYTHING you could possibly need to know, as well as a community of incredible women all across the globe then click here, find out more and sign up. Registration begins on Wednesday the 20th of February and closes on Monday the 4th of March. This will change your life!

why blogging makes you a better person

why blogging makes you a better person

Much is said across the blogging community about developing your authentic voice. Less is said about how blogging helps you unfold your authentic self.
As many bloggers will agree, finding your voice, your own unique style, format and way of sharing with your audience takes time. The six months to one year of initial blogging is a steep learning curve from trial and error as you experiment with different styles, formats and ideas to find out what works for you.
In the midst of this, you are learning to a articulate your thoughts, ideas and develop your brand in a clear and entertaining way. You begin to discover insights about yourself and the way you express yourself that you were never aware of before. You’re always considering how your real-life experiences can be used full translated into valuable and compelling resources for your readers. Suddenly your entire life become a walking, talking research and experimentation unit.
As you become clearer on the messages you want to share, you also become clearer on who you are as an individual and how your viewpoint affects yourself as well as others.
Blogging in itslef creates a spectrum of continuous self-awareness, asking questions and building your knowledge base. Not only are you growing the spectrum of your blog, you are growing as a person. Each time you publish a post, you reveal a little more of yourself, you increase your own awareness as well as grow the knowledge and awareness of your audience. You share your talents and skills on your blog in order to help others and simultaneously seek to help yourself. Blogging, after all, is the art of solving people’s problems in this wonderful age of information. And our problems, we realise are also the problems of our peers, friends and communities.
So how does blogging make you a better person?

  • You become a better communicator. You are continuously learning to articulate and express your message in several different formats so that all kinds of people can be reached. This practise alone makes you more aware of how different people absorb information differently which is subconsciously translated into your daily life. (I recently wrote a long letter to my mama and finished it off with bullet point to surmise my main arguments just to make sure “she gets it”… Ha!)
  • You develop your unique authentic voice. It is said many time over that the best way to create compelling content is by being completely yourself. This requires a bit of soul searching wherein often the process of blogging helps to navigate you to that point of figuring out who and what you are in order to share your authentic voice.
  • You learn to better deal with the highs and lows of life. Blogging comments, google analytics and social media give you a good idea in the real-time realm how you, your brand and your ideas are coming across to your audience. Some people will love you, some people won’t. You learn that you can’t please everyone and that most importantly you must remain true to yourself.
  • You learn to react quickly in intense situations and your problem solving skills rocket skyward. A link is broken, your site is down, something has gone wrong. But it’s ok. You take a deep breath and figure out how to solve the problem and perhaps come up with a solution so it doesn’t happen again. You know that sometimes these things happen and that it’s not the end of the world.
  • You meet likeminded people. Internet and the blogosphere have become one of the best ways to meet wonderful amazing people who are on the same wavelength as you. Like attracts like in cyberspace and suddenly you will find yourself amongst a group of the most fabulous and fascinating friends imaginable who totally “get you”.
  • Self awareness spurs on self development. The two move hand in hand. From all the analysing and collecting ideas from your daily life to share with your audience comes the automatic response of building and growing on that which you already are and know. You are continuously taking your thought processes deeper and wider in a wild array of topics, developing your own knowledge and how that this reflected in your life experience.
  • Blogging makes you a happier person. Not only are you giving value to people and contributing to the world, but you are sharing your art, you passion and wisdom with those who choose to seek it out. Now that gives everyone a good sense of fulfilment!
  • The commitment and constancy that blogging brings to your life gives you a well-rounded sense of achievement. Human beings thrive from having to complete something on a consistent basis, especially if and when the rest of their life may be a sort of unexpected chaos, and research that a practise of anything (such as blogging) improves your general sense of self and wellbeing.

Not only are you giving value to others but you are also giving enormous value to yourself. Each and every single time you hit that publish button.

I’m untethering

I’m untethering

Tethers are obligations, commitments, memories or beliefs that keep me from fully experiencing all of myself or from moving forward creatively, intuitively and spontaneously.
Tethers bind us to places, people or things and while there is great value in these tethers from time to time, there is also great value in untethering. In letting go.
It was around the time that I wrote You Are Ready, More Than You Know, that I realised that this calling, this yearning in my heart and the message that came out of me in those words was as much for me as it was for you. Is for me. I am ready, more than I know. I am ready to untether, to let go and start facing a new direction.
It was an intuition, a gentle push to go where my heart is calling me and my spirit is yearning for. It’s time to walk my talk and take that leap of faith to a place that people don’t often go. Into the dream-world. Into the unknown. Into the immeasurable. I have heard the calling. I listened and I said to my soul “You know where I want to go. What my dreams are and the joys I want to experience. If I let go, will you take me there?
The answer came back crystal clear. “Trust and I will take you there.”
So I am untethering.
A new movement has filled my world and one by one my life has started to change direction. I started off with plans to finish my “day job” and go full-time working for myself with writing and coaching. I could feel I was ready to take that step. I am untethering from the illusion of the safety of receiving a salary every fortnight instead of trusting in my own money-making abilities and that the universe would conspire to support me in whatever I need. I recognise that I don’t need to “make a living” as I am already alive. I know that I can just BE, do the things that I love and everything will fall into place. Just keep following the love.
Then some more twists and turns occurred and I recognised the calling to leave Sydney. I am untethering from structured city living. This part of the process surprised me. Although I was definitely on the path to go traveling in the near future, I was certain I still had another 6 months in the picturesque and intricate, twisted city. Sydney has been the first place in many years that I have settled down and grown some roots. But life called out with explicit signs that it was time to move on. The north wind picked up and said to me “Girl, it’s time to go. Follow your dreams.”
I am untethering from routines, from social expectations, from structured life and from everyday commitments. I am restructuring the things that I do so that I am no longer tied to them, but rather living out what feels to be right for me in each any every moment. I will still be writing, Because I LOVE it. I will still be coaching. Because I LOVE it. But how and when may change as I figure it all out.
This is what’s happening:

  • Saturday 7 July 2012 I am departing Sydney, driving north to visit friends and my mum for a few weeks.
  • I am going to take some time and space to re-evaluate EVERYTHING and where I want to take things from here. What is important to me.
  • I will still be writing and posting on schedule as much as possible. If things are little unusual around here, I am sure you will understand. But I will most certainly be here.
  • I have weaned all of my physical 1 to 1 coaching clients in Sydney off or converted them to Skype or email sessions if we still have more work to do. I am so grateful and joyful for all of my clients and their generous understanding!
  • In the time between now and the end of this month I am going to book a one way flight. Location yet undetermined.
  • The rest I am still yet to figure out.

I am untethering myself from a common or traditional way of life and concurrently am spreading my wings and re-learning how to fly. Because the only way for me to learn to fly is to jump out of the nest.
By the end of this month I will have bought a one way plane ticket. To where exactly I am not yet sure. I will let you know. I invite you to embark on this journey of truth, love and self-discovery with me. Let’s see where it can take us!
xo Vienda


9 daily marketing actions for your blog + business

9 daily marketing actions for your blog + business

The wisdom and secret of having a successful business and/or blog of any kind is marketing. As I am continuously learning. Here are some golden rules to live by as you float your way into the clouds of dreams-do-come-true success.
It’s always:

40% Create Content / Products / Services

60% Marketing + Brand

Do these daily:

  • Send out review copies of products/services
  • Always be thinking about the next phase of your plan
  • Compose at least 1 guest post per month for another A-List blog
  • Become proficient in as many skills as possible to improve brand and marketing
  • Spend time building links “the currency of the internet”
  • Track your analytics stats monthly on a spreadsheet so you can see what you are doing well and where you can improve
  • Comment on other blogs
  • Use social networks
  • Always be co-creating and working with others to leverage your time and abilities

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